How to Talk About the Mental Load Without Starting a Fight
Update: 2025-12-16
Description
If talking about the mental load already feels like walking into a fight, this episode is for you.
Because most mental load conversations don’t fail due to bad intentions — they fail because couples are stuck in an unspoken manager–assistant dynamic that kills safety, teamwork, and desire.
In this episode, we unpack:
- Why the mental load isn't just about chores, but responsibility for the life you chose
- A simple checklist for each of you to assess your role in this dance and what you can shift.
- A step-by-step structure for opening this conversation without triggering defensiveness
- How resentment and disconnection show up in your sex life
This is a grounded, practical episode for couples who want to feel like teammates again — not managers and assistants.
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Book a Spark Session — a 30-minute guided conversation to help you talk about what’s actually happening and decide what to change next.
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