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How to stop sabotaging your most important relationships.

How to stop sabotaging your most important relationships.

Update: 2025-06-24
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Can we let people—especially the ones we care about most—chart their own path? What about when we think they're making a mistake?


In this part 2 episode, Janette returns to examine how the same leadership patterns she’s untangling in her role at work are playing out at home—with her son, her daughter-in-law, and her husband. What starts as a family conflict becomes a raw reckoning with expectations, identity, and the cost of clinging to an ideal instead of truly seeing people.


Ideas we explore:  

01:15 — When stepping in to help actually gets in the way  

04:10 — How the ideal in your head is sabotaging your relationships  

07:00 — It isn't love when it's about you  

15:00 — Clinging to being right makes connection impossible  

21:50 — Your mindset shapes every relationship you touch  

28:00 — The courage it takes to truly see and acknowledge others


Have a leadership challenge or question you’d like us to explore on the show? Submit it here!


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How to stop sabotaging your most important relationships.

How to stop sabotaging your most important relationships.

motterson@arbinger.com (The Arbinger Institute)