DiscoverLeading OutwardYou talk about them, never with them.
You talk about them, never with them.

You talk about them, never with them.

Update: 2025-07-22
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When was the last time you vented about someone? And why didn’t you just talk to them instead? 


In this season finale, we hear from three listeners whose lives shifted because of the show: a mom who saw her son differently, a leader who publicly owned his coaching experience, and a son who finally had an honest conversation with his parents. These are stories of ownership, agency, and the space where real change starts. 

 

Topics we address: 

01:05 — How we unintentionally take away people’s growth when we speak for them 

07:20 — How vulnerability can make people see you as a more credible leader 

10:30 — Why venting feels good but never solves the problem 

13:50 — How to remove the difficulty out of hard conversations 

18:00 — How old stories keep us from seeing who someone is now 


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You talk about them, never with them.

You talk about them, never with them.

motterson@arbinger.com (The Arbinger Institute)