I Think I Married the Wrong Person
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She gets angry when she feels devalued and put down. He intellectualizes and rationalizes instead of sympathizing. Esther helps them to see each other and work towards dissolving the patterns they developed to protect themselves.
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At the moment the woman started crying, I felt my heart was scratched. I could guess what she needs. but, unfortunately, the people who have no idea about this stuff, don't search for learning it in podcasts or therapy room
What does the husband need? Are his needs being met? This starts out with the story that he's awful and she needs him to change. But the wife mocks him several times! He just has a different way of processing information and protecting himself. Wife lashes out to protect herself, husband take in information and distances himself by being logical or smoothing things over to protect himself. They communicate at cross purposes and BOTH need to learn to understand and trust each other.
This was one of the most incredibly painful episodes I have ever listened to. I thought you handled it masterfully. Truthfully, it really does under score the importance of really and truly deeply listening to your beloved. Thank you so much for sharing this. 
Girl save yourself time, therapy and heartache. This guy is a controlling idiot with very little empathy, he thinks he is superior.
Yes she did