I think a lot of my generation, and probably generations before us, can relate to a variation of this saying: “Well, I am not your friend- I’m your parent.” Let’s be real there is some damn truth to that. I will ALWAYS have to enforce boundaries, guide my child, and be a parent. I just don’t think that means I can’t have a meaningful friendship with them as well. The most important social circle that we seek acceptance from, is our parents/family. If I am trying to models my behavior to help her own emotions, then I kind of want to give her an example of what a good friendship looks like. All of our children are going to have a crash course on friendship once they are in school. That is fair to say, right? But it’s more than that. When it comes time to make decisions do you want your kid(s) to immediately think, “I could NEVER confide in my Mom- she just wouldn’t understand!” Or would you rather them think, “I am going to tell my Mom because she would know how to help me through.” I know what you’re thinking, and yes, teenagers can be turds! There’s a high probability she will do some dumb shit! But at the end of the day she will know her parents will listen. That we will have compassion and not immediately reject her for her mistakes. We will have clear and strong boundaries…but will also hear her out. Be in her corner. We all often speak of leading by example as parents. So, to me, it makes perfect sense that I’d strive to be a great example of a genuine good friend. Take a listen, and tell me what you think!