We all know the saying, “You shouldn’t do something nice if you’re expecting something in return.” While I mostly agree with this statement, I eventually want to be able to expect the bare minimum from people in my life. At what point do we say, Ok I deserve someone to show up in return? I have spent years giving, and giving, and giving- but to what end? I’m sorry, but yes, at this point in my life I expect some sort of kindness in return. There is a difference between making everything transactional, and genuinely knowing that you deserve more than crumbs in return. I do have some expectations as I hope the ones I love expect more from me as well. When it comes to who is important in your life- have some expectations and standards. I expect my partner to show up as a father and partner. As he expects me to show up as a Mother.