Summery: Have you ever known what the other person was going to say and you just didn’t want to hear it, and cut off the conversation short? Or have you ever wanted to talk but the other person doesn’t want to wait for your answer and ends the conversation? Does this happen frequently? Frustrating right? In this Episode, Phillip and Benji dive into the danger of cutting off the conversation and what you can do to fix that – from either side of the experience.

Links:

The Office: S2E22 – Casino Night – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hhYeMZdiIc

How to get Spouse Certified – The Marraige Code Episode 10 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-010-how-to-get-spouse-certified/

Emotional Release – The Marriage Code Episode 9 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-009-emotional-release/

Active Listening – The Marriage Code Episode 3 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-003-the-power-of-active-listening/

What I heard vs What they meant – The Marriage Code Episode 16 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-016-what-i-heard-vs-what-they-meant/

Big Hero 6 – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2S8D_SCAJY

Marriage Code Podcast questions – podcast@themarriagecode.org

In this episode:

Cutting off the conversation

Examples

What can happen

Feeling misjudged

Being used to coming to a certain conclusion

Effectiveness vs Efficiency

How we make assumptions

What we assume is most often incorrect

Why we should not make assumptions

The power of “What else?”

We want to be heard more than we want to be understood

Changing the habit of abrupt endings

1- Stop assuming

2- Give them space

3- Listen and ask for more

“The biggest cause of a fight is the feeling of not being heard.” – Benjamin Boekweg