Summary: It’s Q&A time at The Marraige Code. Phillip and Benji tackle some of the tough questions about Relationship Inventories.

“The problem is that so many of us have become good at having an average marriage.” – Phillip Enkey

Links:

The Other Guys (2010) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDJgv1iARPg

Fully Understanding the Tally System – The Marriage Code Episode 4 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-004-fully-understanding-the-tally-system/

Relationship Inventory – The Marriage Code Episode 3 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-005-relationship-inventory/

Marriage Code Podcast questions – podcast@themarriagecode.org

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Brief recap of the Tally System

Question #2 – “What are the common mistakes you see people making with Relationship Inventory

1) Only addressing the negative

2) Unrealistic expectations of your first Inventory

3) Bad timing

4) “You” language and absolutes

Question #1 – “What advice do you have going into my first Relationship Inventory?”

Beginner’s Template

Start off with the Positive

Create the habit of open dialogue

Manage your expectations

Question #3 – “What if my spouse is not interested in a Relationship Inventory?”

The Lion and the Tuna mistake

Phillips’s Challenge – Return and Report