Coping mechanisms can take many forms for midlife men, from drinking a bit too much to isolating oneself to overworking to emotional eating. Self harm can be at the more extreme end of the scale, but it is not uncommon for a man experiencing burnout, anxiety or depression to use this as a way of getting through life.



This week Paul is joined by David Salmon for a deeply personal and raw conversation. David has been though a number of traumatic life events in recent years, and opens up about confronting in midlife a deep-rooted coping mechanism that no longer served him. He describes the challenges that have shadowed him since his teenage years and culminated in a crisis during the pandemic.



Through therapy, self-reflection, and supportive relationships, David has gradually learned to understand his mental health, identifying patterns of self-criticism, stress responses, and the shame that often keeps men suffering in silence. He speaks candidly about the emotional toll of being a people pleaser in high-pressure work environments, the loneliness of modern male life, and the importance of creating space for meaning and connection beyond career achievements.



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