What if your biggest “problem” isn’t a problem at all… but a Trojan horse guarding your subconscious comfort zone?

In this soul-shifting episode, Kimberly Spencer unpacks the three hidden Trojan horses that keep high-achievers clinging to struggle, stuck in identity loops, and unconsciously resisting their next level of leadership.

Pulling from her own journey—from healing bulimia without medical intervention to becoming a bestselling author and conscious empire builder—Kimberly explores how we unconsciously need our problems for safety, control, or societal belonging. And how those invisible payoffs can keep you overworking, undercharging, sabotaging, or just playing small.

⚔️ Discover the neuroscience behind safety and struggle

⚔️ Why “control” is a seductive illusion (and how to reclaim true power)

⚔️ The sneaky way we sacrifice sovereignty for social acceptance—and how to stop

This episode is a potent initiation. Expect metaphor, personal storytelling, fierce truth bombs, and a full-body permission slip to let go of the struggle and step into peace, profit, and purpose.

💥 Ready to release the pattern and rise into your reign? Press play and claim your throne.

Enjoy, sovereigns!

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, or your favorite podcast listening platform. You can also watch the episode on Youtube.

Quotes:

“Your subconscious doesn’t sabotage you—it protects you through patterns you’ve outgrown.” ~ Kimberly Spencer

“Real power doesn’t come from control. It comes from choice.” ~ Kimberly Spencer

“The dream doesn’t become real until you choose to birth it—imperfect, messy, and sovereign AF.” ~ Kimberly Spencer

Moments of Note:

[05:00 ] The Origin Story: From Bulimia to Breakthroughs

**How Kimberly's healing journey began.**

[10:00 ] Trojan Horse #1: Why Familiar Pain Feels Safe

**How safety and familiarity keep us in predictable patterns.**

[15:00 ] Rebuilding Trust to Release the Problem

**Learning to live in sustained peace and self-trust.**

[20:00 ] Trojan Horse #2: Control as an Illusion

**How perfection and control create a false sense of safety.**

[25:00 ] Publishing the Book & Claiming Identity

**Letting go of fear to birth a new identity.**

[30:00 ] Trojan Horse #3: Societal Acceptance and Struggle

**How the need to be relatable keeps us small.**

[35:00 ] The Flock Effect: Why Growth Can Feel Lonely

**Exploring our tribal wiring and the fear of leaving the group.**

[40:00 ] Final Reflections & Questions for Integration

**Empowering questions to break free from subconscious blocks.**

Transcript:

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