While I’m not a clinical psychology professional, I often work with couples who have discovered that their brains are wired in completely different ways. This realization often arises when one partner (or both) consistently behaves in a way that creates friction between them, totally baffling the other. As humans, our brains are wonderfully diverse and have unique strengths, but it’s hard to understand what’s going on in your partner’s head when their experience is so different from your own. Today, I’ll share my perspective on recognizing the differences between you and your partner and how those insights can help us see the same patterns in a very different context.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll hear about:

• How being diagnosed with ADD affected me and my relationship
• Some of the unique challenges and strengths of partners with ADD
• Tools and strategies I have used to become a better partner to my “neurotypical” husband
• How I have seen neurodiversity (including Autism Spectrum Disorder, introversion, and intensities) play out within relationships
• The importance of taking responsibility for the impact you have on the people around you

And more.

Note: I use the term “ADD” in this episode to refer to what is now categorized in the DSM as “ADHD predominantly inattentive type” because it is the term used when I was diagnosed.

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“If we can take it out of the context of "What’s wrong with you?" and really understand difference, we go a long way to having a much more mutually satisfying relationship. And this kind of insight saves marriages.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

• My tendency to “go hard or go home” (4:49 )
• Why boring tasks are excruciating for your partner with ADD (10:49 )
• How ADD tendencies affect us in bed (12:45 )
• Neurodiversity that you may notice in your relationship (13:42 )

 I celebrate you and your partner exactly as you are. May you find new ways to fit ever better together.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

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