What happens when parenting stirs something in us — an old memory, an unexpected reaction, a voice we thought we’d left behind?

In this episode of Nurture, we gently explore how the stories we carry from our own childhoods can shape the way we show up as parents — especially in the heat of the moment. I share a personal story (involving a rock and some very scratched paintwork), and unpack how that moment became a quiet act of reparenting.

We talk about:

* Why our past experiences live on in our nervous systems

* How early attachment patterns shape our parenting responses

* What “reparenting” really means — and how it looks in real life

* The Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM) and how it reframes old patterns as adaptive

* How to offer emotional safety, even when we’re still learning what that feels like for ourselves

And, as always, we close with three soft, supportive prompts to carry with you through the week ahead.

📝 Resources Mentioned

To support your listening and reflection, you’ll find a few gentle tools below. These are here to help you explore the episode’s themes in your own time — no pressure, no perfection needed.

* Reflection Sheet: “Old Stories, New Responses”A quiet journaling page with prompts, space for your thoughts, and a gentle reminder just for you.➝ Download the PDF

* Lock Screen RemindersSave one of these gentle quotes from today’s episode as a phone background — a soft nudge toward presence when you need it most.➝ Browse & Download

* Summary NotesA simple recap of the key ideas from the episode — helpful if you want to revisit without re-listening.➝ Download the Summary

💭 A quiet reminder...

You’re not doing it wrong if it feels hard. You’re doing the courageous, unseen work of noticing, pausing, and choosing something different — for your child, and for yourself.

And that matters.

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