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S9E06: Ask a Sex Therapist: What Do I Need to Consider When I Have Sex for the First Time? With Erica Smith.

S9E06: Ask a Sex Therapist: What Do I Need to Consider When I Have Sex for the First Time? With Erica Smith.

Update: 2025-05-04
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This spring, we are answering ten of the most common questions that we hear as sex therapists. 
 
This week, we're exploring the question, "What do I need to consider when I have sex for the first time?"
 
We created six different scenarios that a person might have for the first time:
  1. A general first time sexual experience, and considering what you disclose (and don't disclose) ahead of time.
  2. Oral sex and stimulating another person's clitoris or penis
  3. A same-sex sexual experience.
  4. Anal sex.
  5. A sexual experience that involves vaginal penetration
  6. Group sex.
And we've invited the amazing Erica Smith to help us process these six scenarios. Erica is the founder of Purity Culture Droput. Learn more about Erica at ericasmitheac.com
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S9E06: Ask a Sex Therapist: What Do I Need to Consider When I Have Sex for the First Time? With Erica Smith.

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