Saying Goodbye, and Explaining to Children Where Their Loved One Is
Description
In this episode, hosts Odette Mould and Sophia Giblin talk about funerals, or end of life ceremonies, and the complex emotions they bring up. They shed light on how to explain funerals to children, how to prepare them to attend, and whether they should even be there.
Determining whether to bring your child to the funeral of a loved one is a difficult decision to make as a parent. There are many concerns to consider - they are likely going to see many grown ups in distress, which no parent wants their child to see, and parents also fear that they may not be mentally present to support their kids. However, Odette believes it is an important opportunity for children to say goodbye to someone who was precious to them.
It’s imperative that parents and guardians explain funerals and their implications to children if they are permitted to attend. Children’s imaginations run wild, and if they're not given matter-of-fact details on what has happened, their minds will fill in the gaps - especially if they have questions that go unanswered.
As you’re inviting others to a funeral, consider these factors: Who can help you? Who can you rely on? Who can support both you and your children through the event?
Key Takeaways:
- A funeral can be an important opportunity for children to say their goodbyes to someone who was precious to them.
- Parents and guardians should sit down and explain funerals and their implications to children - don’t assume they know what’s going on.
- When inviting people to a funeral as a bereaved parent, you should consider who can support both you and your children through the event.
Resources
- Harry’s Rainbow
- Odette Mould on LinkedIn
- Sophia Giblin on LinkedIn
- Child Bereavement UK
- Donate to Harry’s Rainbow