DiscoverThe Kink PerspectiveSeason 4 Episode 32 - The Messy Middle: Between New and Grounded...
Season 4 Episode 32 - The Messy Middle: Between New and Grounded...

Season 4 Episode 32 - The Messy Middle: Between New and Grounded...

Update: 2025-08-18
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On today’s show, I discuss the messy middle of kink, that stage where the thrill of being new has faded but you do not yet feel fully grounded. We explore what this phase looks like, why it often feels awkward or isolating, and how psychology helps explain identity drift, loss of novelty, and comparison traps. I also talk about how to reframe this stage as a chance to clarify values and build depth, not as a failure. And at the end of the episode, I share this week’s segment of You’re Famous Now, where I read some of the more colorful comments that come my way.

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Season 4 Episode 32 - The Messy Middle: Between New and Grounded...

Season 4 Episode 32 - The Messy Middle: Between New and Grounded...

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