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Sex or Stress? How to Tell When It’s Really a “No” and When It’s Not

Sex or Stress? How to Tell When It’s Really a “No” and When It’s Not

Update: 2025-09-30
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Do you mistake stress or tiredness for a hard no when it comes to intimacy? You’re not alone! In this episode, I unpack the “traffic lights” of the nervous system and how to stop defaulting to NO—so you can discover more ways to say yes (or a real, empowered maybe) to connection after kids.


Timestamps & What You’ll Learn:

00:14 – Introduction to Sex After Kids Podcast
00:59 – Understanding Your Nervous System's Traffic Light System
01:24 – Breaking Down the Traffic Light Colors
02:55 – Understanding Default 'No' Responses
04:34 – Finding and Working with the Yellow Light Zone
06:28 – Building Genuine Connection Through Small Steps
07:58 – Tips for Higher Libido Partners
09:54 – Real-Life Example of Working with the Nervous System
11:40 – Introduction to the Naked Fun Comeback Program
12:58 – Closing Thoughts and Credits


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You are not broken. Sometimes, all you need is a yellow light—and the right support to find your way to green.

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Sex or Stress? How to Tell When It’s Really a “No” and When It’s Not

Sex or Stress? How to Tell When It’s Really a “No” and When It’s Not

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