Anger and rage can feel confusing, overwhelming, or even frightening — especially for ADHD women who were taught to suppress big emotions.

In this episode, we will talk about why rage isn’t something to get rid of, but something worth listening to. We’ll look at how pushing anger away often makes it louder, and why rage tends to show up when boundaries are crossed or when we feel powerless to create change.

We’ll also explore a different way of relating to anger — one rooted in curiosity, compassion, and nervous system awareness — so rage can soften instead of escalating into overwhelm or shutdown.

This episode isn’t about forcing calm, staying positive, or bypassing hard feelings.

It’s about understanding what your rage is communicating and learning how to work with it in a way that brings you back into your power.

—CHAPTERS—

00:00 Introduction: Embracing Your Rage

01:09 Welcome to the Podcast

01:51 The Stigma Around Women's Anger

03:18 Understanding and Validating Your Anger

05:43 Differentiating Anger and Rage

10:21 Working with Your Anger

13:09 Finding Your Power and Voice

21:26 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward

28:07 Conclusion and Resources

📕 Mentioned in the episode:

The Self-Loved Woman Way: How to Stop Playing Small with ADHD… A Journal-Book Experience

A guided, sensory-rich journal experience designed to help ADHD women slow down, listen inward, and work compassionately with big emotions instead of pushing them away. It supports the same curiosity-based, nervous-system-friendly approach we talk about in this episode.

Check it out here: https://jenbarnes.org/stop-playing-small/

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