Ty Meng's parents escaped the Cambodian genocide and went on to raise five children in Lower Hutt. Three generations of the Meng family consider how their family's history lingers in the present.

Content warning: This episode discusses war and violence - in some cases, graphically.

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Mom Meng came to Aotearoa in 1979 as a refugee from Cambodia. After spending two years in Thailand in a refugee camp, she arrived in New Zealand with her husband and their son Ty, who was only a toddler at the time. The family was sponsored to come to New Zealand, where they eventually settled in Lower Hutt.

This episode of the podcast features three generations of the Meng family, with Mom in conversation with her son Ty and his daughter Emrie. Mom's English is limited, so Ty does some translating for her in the episode.

"I come to New Zealand, so I will only speak my culture, but my children forgot my culture. That's why I speak all the time, not speak English," explains Mom.

Ty adds, "Mum's quite fresh. I don't speak it fully, so I can understand bits and pieces. I jump in from English, and I jump in from Chinese to Thai to Cambodian. I'm quite multilingoed. In one sentence, I will cover four different languages."

The three discuss their family's experiences growing up in this country as former refugees, and how the trauma of their family's history in Cambodia during Pol Pot's regime has continued to affect their lives.

Mom and her husband worked long hours to provide for their family, and were unable to be present at home for a lot of Ty's childhood. This resulted in Ty neglecting his own schoolwork and family as he strove to find a sense of community elsewhere - "with the cool cats, unfortunately."

Ty's lack of stability also impacted Emrie's relationship with him as a child. Ty had Emrie and her twin sister Chyanne when he was only a teenager.

"Because of the upbringing you had growing up here, with Granddad, who had just fought in the war, it probably wasn't the best kind of transition. Like, he probably should have been given a little bit more support. I think that affected your relationship with him growing up in New Zealand, eh?" Emrie asks her dad.

Ty replies, "Yeah. Mum and Dad escaped the Cambodian genocide, so it was a massive thing to get out of - the days of the Killing Fields, and all that."…

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