Ever find yourself trapped in a spiral of overexplaining when you really just want to say no? In this raw and hilarious episode, Finn and Dr. Sarah unpack what they call “The Codependent No” — those long, apologetic responses that avoid clarity, create confusion, and leave everyone frustrated. From miscommunication marathons to guilt-driven maybes, they reveal why saying no clearly is one of the most powerful recovery tools there is. Get ready to laugh, cringe, and finally free yourself from the need to please.

Takeaways

• “No” is a complete sentence — clarity is kindness.

• Overexplaining often creates more disconnection, not less.

• Feeling guilty when you say no? That’s codependency talking.

• Practice saying no with safe people and tolerating discomfort.

• Saying yes when you mean no leads to resentment, anxiety, and burnout.

Key Timestamps

• [00:00 ] – The “Codependent No”: what it is and why we all do it

• [02:00 ] – “I’d rather not” and other clear communication tools

• [05:00 ] – Overexplaining, miscommunication, and frustration

• [08:00 ] – Guilt, boundaries, and the false responsibility trap

• [11:00 ] – Practicing honest no’s with safe people

• [12:00 ] – The consequences of saying yes when you mean no

Notable Resources & Guest Links

• Dr. Sarah Michaud, PsyD – Author of Co Crazy: One Psychologist’s Recovery from Codependency and Addiction

• Leaving CrazyTown YouTube Channel – Watch full episodes here