“I didn't want to lose them. I loved them both and I thought, it's hard to think about your life separated. I guess now knowing all that I know about being separated from the first person that I was supposed to be with, you know, I just never wanted to be separated from either one of them.” -- Jane Spreckley

 

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, the host, Beth Syverson, interviews Jane Spreckley, an adoptee whose adoptive parents divorced when she was 14 years old. Jane shares her experience of how the divorce activated her abandonment issues and impacted her relationships. She emphasizes the importance of adoptive parents seeking therapy with adoption-competent therapists for their children during difficult times like divorce. Jane also highlights the significance of open communication and compassion within families going through similar situations. The conversation sheds light on the complexities adoptees face during divorce and the need for understanding and support. 

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RESOURCES:

 

Jane’s information:

 

• Find Jane on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/jane.spreckley.9

• Email Jane at Spreck529@verizon.net

 

Other Resources:

 

• APtitude Support Group for Adoptive Parents Facing Adoption’s Challenges: UnravelingAdoption.com/APtitude

• Other Parents Like Me - oplm.com 

• Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents who have a child struggling with addiction: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/

 

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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

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Timestamps:

• 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Podcast

• 00:05:30 - Jane's Experience with Parents' Divorce

• 00:10:00 - Realization of Impact from First Abandonment

• 00:13:30 - Advice for Adoptive Parents Going Through Divorce

• 00:17:20 - Advice for Adoptees Dealing with Divorcing Parents

• 00:20:00 - Encouragement for Self-Compassion and Support for Jane

• 00:21:30 - Gratitude to Patreon Supporters and Call to Share the Episode