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The Pressure to be "Chill"

The Pressure to be "Chill"

Update: 2025-07-28
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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about the pressure we can feel to be "the chill one" in our relationships. They discuss minimizing your needs and where that may stem from, the socialization of "the cool girl," how to slowly start expressing your needs if you're not used to doing so, why we can't expect others to read our minds, the difference between actually not caring vs. lack of self-advocacy, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 12 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.




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The Pressure to be "Chill"

The Pressure to be "Chill"

Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT