The Super-Helper Syndrome: A Survival Guide for Compassionate People authored by Jess Baker & Rod Vincent, serves up a rich meal to underpin what healthy helping looks like.

"Do all things with great love. Avoid helping as a from of rescue, there needs to be reciprocity in helping. People who are helped need to have opportunities where they feel like they can be helpful to others as well." shares Erin Randall.

A healthy helper is one that is able to help in the way that they desire and see fit. Help has a mental and physical aspect. As a helper, your self worth does not depend upon helping people. Healthy helpers have boundaries that they hold for themselves that aren't porous and that other people are not able to run over.

They are able to sustain themselves as well as the work that they're trying to do. A crucial question is asking, "what kind of help is needed here"? An essential element is the recognition of space. Saviourism is dangerous. The person being helped needs to be treated with respect and dignity while being encouraged to be independent and enabled to move forward in a manner that is best for them.