In this episode, Toshi spoke with Mistress Sofia, the UK’s oldest dominatrix. Together they had a conversation about what it means to be a dominatrix, how Mistress Sofia got into this work, common misconceptions and what she’s learned in her time being a dominatrix. 

Check out more of Mistress Sofia here: https://www.mistress-sofia.co.uk/ 

Timestamps: 

00:00 – Intro  

00:47 – Who is Mistress Sofia?  

01:20 – What does it mean to be a dominatrix? 

02:12 – How did Mistress Sofia get started in this work? 

04:05 – Why does Mistress Sofia not use the world ‘client’?  

05:03 – How do people serve Mistress Sofia?  

06:58 – Is Mistress Sofia a sex worker? 

08:48 – “I always ask what their kinks are” 

10:06 – Caning is not as simple as it looks 

12:16 – For new dominatrixes: learn from Mistress Sofia 

13:20 – What does it mean to be dominant? 

14:58 – Mistress Sofia on confidence 

16:24 – “You cannot do this for the money” 

17:23 – What does Mistress Sofia love about her job?  

19:13 – What is a lifestyle slave? 

20:19 – When did Mistress Sofia realise she was dominant?  

21:59 – Mistress Sofia’s message to women 

23:14 – How does being 75 impact her work? 

24:54 – Is seeing a dominatrix while you’re in a relationship considered cheating?   

27:00 – Why seeing a dominatrix can be a kind of therapy  

29:30 – Navigating shame 

33:07 – Final thoughts 

34:58 – Mistress Sofia’s thoughts on findoms 

36:16 – Why Mistress Sofia doesn’t work with women 

36:44 – Goals for the future 

37:59 – Where to find more of Mistress Sofia 

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