We do not need a 'free from' diet when it comes to providing young children with emotional wellbeing and support. In the early years children need a safe space to experience, articulate, and process emotions – there is no such thing as a 'bad emotion'; they all have their role to play. Behaviour and emotional regulation coach Samantha Dholakia talks us through why children need the full ‘emotional diet’.

Read Samantha’s article here:

https://thevoiceofearlychildhood.com/the-full-emotional-diet-finding-emotional-balance-in-the-early-years/  

This episode is sponsored by Funding Loop:

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 Episode break down:

00:00 – Welcome!
02:50 – We focus too much on calming children down
05:00 – Each emotion has a different job
08:00 – Let’s unpick the anger, rather than saying ‘don’t be angry’
11:45 – Teaching children about their brain, emotions and THEN behaviour
13:45 – Allowing children to feel their own emotions
18:00 – Having language to understand and describe the emotion
22:30 – Are we projecting our own dysregulation on children?
26:45 – Up and down-regulation: Both are vital
29:00 – Is this emotion helping you right now?
32:00 – Having conversations about emotions with children
33:00 – We don’t usually experience one emotion at a time
35:00 – Energetic behaviour is actually useful before bed
37:00 – Matching energy is useful (not matching emotion)
39:00 – Meeting children where they are at
39:45 – Disengagement – sometimes you need to lean into this
41:00 – We don’t just run out of energy, we can generate energy too
40:00 – Emotionally refuelling 
43:00 – Getting to an active state of learning
46:00 – Further reading and listening material
48:00 – Wider societal implications of this work

If you enjoyed this episode and would like to listen to more, take a look at the following episodes:

Samantha’s previous episode – Should we punish and reward children’s behaviour – https://thevoiceofearlychildhood.com/should-we-punish-and-reward-childrens-behaviour/

Mandy Worsley – Understanding neuroscience in early childhood – https://thevoiceofearlychildhood.com/understanding-neuroscience-in-early-childhood/

Matt Bawler – Proactively promoting positive mental health – https://thevoiceofearlychildhood.com/proactively-promoting-positive-mental-health/ 

The Durham research project episode with Jill Jones and Rebecca Martin on Supporting regulation in the early years: A progressive approach – https://thevoiceofearlychildhood.com/supporting-regulation-in-the-early-years-a-progressive-approach/

For more episodes and articles visit The Voice of Early Childhood website: https://www.thevoiceofearlychildhood.com