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Ep 512: Tips for How to Find People to Date that are a good fit for you with Dr. Alison Ash. In this enlightening episode, Ruan Willow sits down with Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, educator at Stanford University, and founder of Turn On Love. She shares her insights on how to find people to date and how to identify who is a good fit for you. This conversation dives into the complexities of modern dating, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of intentionality in relationships.
Topics Covered: Modern dating challenges, the impact of dating apps, intentionality in relationships, the importance of community and social networks, and practical tips for finding the right person to date.

Timeline:
- 00:25 - Doctor Alison Ash is a trauma informed intimacy coach at Stanford University
- 01:27 - Research shows dating apps have harmed our ability to form and sustain long term relationships
- 04:40 - I also think it's helpful to talk about, I think a mixed approach to finding partners
- 10:15 - You should have at least one photo where you're smiling on dating apps, and....
- 16:35 - Research shows that in order to make new relationships, we need regular interactions
- 24:41 - A lot of people are terrified to own what they want
- 25:32 - One of the things that I talk to my clients on is this idea of outsourcing
- 29:34 - What are some warning signs people should look out for when using dating apps
- 35:35 - You teach a course on intimacy and dating skills at Stanford University
- 41:06 - I think couples and long term relationships struggle to keep sexual spark alive
- 44:15 - Is there anything that we've missed talking about that you wanted to mention
- 45:10 - Making sure that you have queer and trans community is so important

Don't miss this episode filled with practical advice and deep insights into the world of dating and relationships. 
Guest: Dr. Alison Ash - Turn On Love
PhD (she/her)

Founder of TurnON.love

Intimacy Coach and Educator

Lecturer at Stanford University

Author • Social Media Links

Course:

Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game

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🗣️ Quotes from Dr. Alison Ash
"Dating apps have created an optimization overload dynamic where people are just surface level flipping."
"Nobody's going to be able to meet 100% of your needs 100% of the time."
"Touch is the most regulating thing in the world. And it doesn't make you needy. It makes you human."
"Loneliness is hard and it's pervasive, and we can feel that we're stuck in it."
"Conflict is an opportunity to build intimacy and to deepen trust."

Host: Ruan Willow http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/

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