Our human-ness is so endearing and predictable.  . . . Also our ego is so good at doing its job, and it loves a good story. Especially a story that is familiar.  . . . The problem is: once the story-lining starts and the behaviors kick in - it's a matter of time before we see a predictable outcome, even if we KNOW it's not what we actually want.  . . . How the fuck does this happen?  . . . It all makes sense when we start to learn our own Order of Operations which is typically churned out by our own internal default setting and vastly influenced by our unprocessed trauma.  . . . It plays out as follows:  . . . 1) Trigger: The internal or external factor that creates a somatic response in the body  . . . 2) Feeling: The somatic emotion that begins in the body which does not contain language  . . . 3) Story: The "meaning making" mechanism in the brain that puts language to the somatic emotion based on past experiences - with the intention of creating certainty . . . 4) Behavior: the adaptive actions taken by an individual  . . . 5) Outcome: The end result  . . . People that come to session confused and frustrated about continuing to get the same undesirable results are usually in this repetitive loop of repeating #1 through #5 over, and over, AND OVER.  . . . But there's a way to disrupt this.  . . . How do you do it?? . . . You pause and sit with #2.  . . . Before the goddamn Story Train leaves the station.  . . . Most of what gets people stuck in a repetitive pattern is NOT the circumstantial triggers that happen.  . . . It's the attachment to the same, old, tired, played out, predictable story.  . . . Which begets the same, old, predictable, played  out behaviors.  . . . Which produce the SAME BLOODY OUTCOMES.  . . . Moral of the story.  . . . Wanna change your life??  . . . Feel your shit. . . . And lose your story. . . . This will lead to changed behaviors.  . . . Which will produce a better outcome.  

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