When someone does you harm or interferes with your personal space, how do you handle it? We have all been there where we have dealt with an offence in the moment, whether it be a verbal of physical confrontation. Whether it be theft, threat of physical harm or what have you. And in that moment is an opportunity for retaliation or escape. To fight or flee. But in my case, I would often 'freeze' And I would beat myself up about it later.

Growing up as a male surrounded by peers, there is the pressure to fight back, to pay evil for evil, to prove your manhood. It is also taught in society as a way to stick up for yourself. In my Christian faith and through Martial Arts, I have learned that it is an immature way to deal with it, just as beating yourself up for not retaliating is. They are both mistakes and I have learned the power of forgiveness but also the contentment and composure in the moment to walk away or to discuss the issue with the other person like a mature adult. Like a true warrior, who doesn't feel the need to fight back or beat themselves up about it later, you are in control of your emotions. 

I share about how my quest for Confidence lead me into Martial Arts and Fitness to pursue personal excellence and contentment with myself. I share about haw I have learned about how God takes what the enemy means for evil and he turns it for good. In other words, when we retaliate we are trying to do God's work. God repays evil for evil and does it in a loving way where justice is always to be done. And if you have the courage to let go and forgive your enemies and yourself, you learn that there are no enemies, just people that are hurt and scared like you may be. And the healing that God can do through people is amazing, even you!