Uplift: People are divorced from themselves—She teaches you how to stay married to yourself.”
Update: 2025-11-20
Description
Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning, television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Marsha Evans.
Purpose of the Interview
- To highlight Marsha Evans’ work as a licensed professional counselor and founder of Willow Tree Counseling and Educational Center.
- To explore strategies for navigating life’s complex stages, breaking generational patterns, and building authentic relationships.
- To provide actionable insights for entrepreneurs and individuals on self-awareness, fear management, and relationship dynamics.
Key Takeaways
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Understanding Complexity
- Life stages vary in complexity for each person—middle school for some, adulthood for others.
- Evans emphasizes listening and identifying what balance, peace, or contentment means for each individual.
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Early Awareness and Discipline
- At age 12, Evans set a goal to earn a scholarship, showing intentionality and discipline.
- Athletics taught her teamwork, problem-solving, and resilience, shaping her leadership style.
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Reading the Room
- Start by reading yourself—know your energy and intentions.
- Authenticity and confidence are key to building relationships and leveraging opportunities.
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Fear and Family Systems
- Fear often originates from family systems and generational patterns, not just personal experiences.
- Example: Parents’ limited worldview can project fear of the unknown onto children.
- Recognizing these patterns helps individuals break cycles and pursue their own paths.
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Generational Patterns & Healing
- Evans uses Genograms (visual family trees) to identify psychological and behavioral patterns across three generations.
- Acceptance of parents and family history is crucial for personal and professional growth.
- Rejecting parents = rejecting life and success; honor them while creating new narratives.
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Practical Steps for Change
- Build a relationship with yourself through solitude, meditation, yoga, and movement.
- Reduce stress (cortisol levels) to improve clarity and decision-making.
- Examine your money story—how family attitudes toward money shape your financial behavior.
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Relationships
- Romantic: Partners often mirror unresolved childhood issues; do inner work to avoid projecting.
- Professional: Maintain boundaries; emotional needs should not be placed on workplace relationships.
- Personal: Define roles clearly; avoid expecting friends to fill parental gaps.
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Consistency and Authenticity
- Success requires consistency with yourself before expecting it from others.
- Ask: Are your goals truly yours or influenced by societal expectations?
Notable Quotes
- “I become a visitor in your world and start listening to your story.”
- “Reading the room starts with reading yourself.”
- “Fear is often not yours—it comes from your family system.”
- “You can’t reject your parents; when you reject your mother, you reject life.”
- “Consistency with yourself is key to achieving the results you desire.”
- “Your partner cannot carry the burden of your parents.”
- “People are divorced from themselves—I teach them how to get married to themselves.”
#SHMS #STRAW #BEST
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