WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR GRIEF

ON RIGHT TIMING: A NOTE BEFORE WE GET STARTED

I devoured books on grief and loss when Matt first died. I hated most of

them. I

would flip to the back of a new book to see if the widowed author had

remarried.

If they had, I wouldn’t read the book—clearly, they did not understand

what it

was like to be me. I would get all excited reading the first few chapters of a

new

book on loss, only to hurl it away in disgust when subsequent chapters

started

talking about rebuilding my life and all the great things I might do as a

result of

this loss.