What Kids REALLY Need When They Act Out
Description
In this S5E13 Schoolutions Teaching Strategies conversation, join me with attachment expert Eli Harwood ("The Attachment Nerd") as she revolutionizes our understanding of student behavior, classroom belonging, and student engagement. Discover why nervous laughter isn't defiance - it's a cry for help with emotional regulation.
In this transformative episode, you'll learn:
• Why "You're fine" might be damaging student success [33:00 ]
• The critical difference between confidence and arrogance in inclusive classrooms [8:00 ]
• How to transform low engagement through pro-kid mindset approaches
• Revolutionary strategies for student motivation and active learning
• The neuroscience behind classroom behavior and attention in class
Key Insights for Education Transformation:
✓ Innovative teaching method: "Reach before you teach" - the foundation of student participation
✓ How to create classroom belonging when students laugh at inappropriate times
✓ Instructional strategies that address tool deficiency, not heart deficiency
✓ Why 80% of brain development happens by age 3 - and what it means for teaching tips
Featured Teaching Strategies:
• One-down curiosity technique for inspiring students [29:00 ]
• Reaction journals for culturally responsive teaching [21:00 ]
• Enthusiastic greeting rituals for school culture improvement [33:30 ]
• Effective teaching approaches for whole child development
Resources Mentioned:
• Book: Raising Securely Attached Kids
• Website: attachmentnerd.com
• Research: Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation
Chapters
0:00 Introduction: When Students Laugh at Tragedy
1:00 Meet Attachment Expert Eli Harwood
2:00 Research Foundation: Mary Ainsworth & Attachment
5:36 "We Before Me": Understanding Development
7:00 The 80% Brain Development Milestone
8:00 Confidence vs. Arrogance Explained
10:00 The Problem with Praise-Based Feedback
13:00 Real Story: Connecting with Disengaged Students
14:14 "Reach Before You Teach" Philosophy
15:16 Why Students Laugh at Inappropriate Times
17:00 How to Respond to Nervous Laughter
19:00 Understanding Bullying Behavior
21:00 Creating Reaction Journals
22:00 Tool Deficient vs. Heart Deficient
23:00 Structure vs. Suffocation in Teaching
26:00 Setting Clear Expectations
28:00 Allowing Students to Fail Safely
29:00 One-Down Curiosity Technique
32:00 Lightning Round: Stop Saying "You're Fine"
33:30 Enthusiastic Greeting Ritual
35:00 The Secure Parent Program
Join our community of educators committed to cultivating student success, inspired teaching, and creating inclusive classrooms with a pro-kid mindset focused on the whole child. When coaches, teachers, administrators, and families work hand in hand, it fosters a school atmosphere where everyone is inspired and every student is fully engaged in their learning journey.
📧 Connect: schoolutionspodcast@gmail.com
🎵 Music: Benjamin Wahl
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When coaches, teachers, administrators, and families work hand in hand, it fosters a school atmosphere where everyone is inspired and every student is fully engaged in their learning journey.



