Welcome back to Moments of Authenticity! 

Here’s a thought-provoking question for you: Have you ever stopped to consider the language you use when you talk to yourself? I mean, we all have that inner voice, right? Well, I’ve got something special for you in today’s episode: What Language Do You Use with Yourself? 

So, what language do you use with yourself? I’m diving into this fascinating topic because let’s face it, sometimes we’re way too hard on ourselves, often coming from places that don’t even belong to us.

In this episode, we’re going to explore:

• The influence of early voices in shaping our self-talk

  
  



• How self-talk impacts our behavior and interactions

  
  



• The difference between “have to” and “want to” mindset

  
  



• Overcoming the trap of all-or-nothing thinking

  
  



• Showing up for yourself with patience and self-compassion

  
  



• Embracing curiosity and making space for growth

  
  

Ready to dive into the fascinating world of self-talk? Tune in to this episode of Moments of Authenticity and let’s explore the language we use with ourselves. Listen now and embark on a journey of self-discovery and positive change!

Timestamps

• [00:00 ] What language do you use with yourself?

  
  



• [01:05 ] How language affects our behavior.

  
  



• [03:25 ] “I don’t know” – people will say they don’t know, instead of giving themselves the time to slow down.

  
  



• [05:59 ] Shifting your mindset and making a shift.

  
  



• [07:34 ] Is it never going to happen or do you need more time?

  
  



• [09:35 ] You always do or you never do.

  
  



• [11:50 ] How long does it take to be patient?

  
  



• [13:12 ] What do you need instead of criticism?

  
  

Notable Quotes

• “We have a tendency to sometimes be a lot more critical than we need to be.”

  
  



• “Being mindful of how language also impacts behavior, and being cognizant of how you move in the world based on the language that you speak to yourself, it impacts how we move in the world and impacts what we receive as a result.”

  
  



• “Do you have to? Or do you want to? Because those are two different things.”

  
  



• “Is it your failing? Or do you need to shift either your mindset or your behaviors or both?”

  
  



• “All or nothing. Those are cognitive distortions, which means that they are things that you think in your head that are absolutely true, that may or may not be true.”

  
  



• “The idea of you yelling at yourself telling yourself something negative that can sometimes feel like a booster. But how long does that actually last for you?”

  
  



• “I think sometimes we don’t always see how badly we speak to ourselves, and how gently and kindly we speak to someone else.”

  
  



• “Exhibit some curiosity, slowing yourself down to ask what’s underneath that thought.”

  
  



• “What kind of encouragement do you need? What do you need to unpack?”

  
  



• “What might have been good for you in one season may not be good for you in the next. So being cognizant of how you’ve moved so far, and how you would like to continue to move, exhibit some curiosity around that and make space for what could be true now.”

  
  

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