Do you ever wish you had a time machine to go back and give yourself advice before starting your divorce journey? In this episode, we share valuable insights and tips from listeners who have gone through it all. Together, we will break down some of the most important things people wish they had known before starting the process, from not rushing into decisions to custody issues. They also discuss some of the key mistakes to avoid, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic divorces. Whether you’re just starting out or deep into the process, this episode will offer practical advice to help guide you through your divorce with more confidence and clarity.

Listen to This Episode If You:

❓ Wonder how to gather the right information and evidence to protect yourself.

💡 Need to understand the importance of not rushing into decisions or being pressured by others.

🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and need strategies to protect yourself from manipulation.

📚 Want to learn how to create a strategy and stay organized during the divorce process.

🌟 Are at the beginning of your divorce and want advice on how to avoid common mistakes.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

Don’t Rush: Take your time to gather all your information before making any major decisions. Avoid being pressured into rushing through the process.

Collect and Organise Your Information: Get all your documents and information together before starting the legal process to avoid mistakes and delays.

Parenting Plans: Don’t force your children into uncomfortable situations—especially when the other parent may not be interested in the relationship.

Look Out for Hidden Assets: Learn how to identify secret bank accounts and other financial manipulations that may arise during a divorce.

Get a Lawyer Who Understands Narcissistic Behaviour: Make sure your lawyer knows how to handle high-conflict individuals who use manipulative tactics.

Court Orders for Sole Occupancy: Understand how to get your ex out of the house if needed, and the risks involved.

Don’t Settle Too Quickly: Take your time to evaluate any settlement offers and don’t let anyone pressure you into accepting less than what is fair.

Protect Your Mental Health: Treat the divorce process like a part-time job—don’t let it consume your entire life.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Related Episodes:

How to Document Coercive Control - Communicating Coercive Control in Documents / Ep. 161

Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNrLiwyDO07jnbzNVxe4m?si=OPR9iwTzQKOKc2HOHvcH-Q

Divorce Delay Tactics https://open.spotify.com/episode/2st3qxvJByN981xqZgPRIR?si=l0LL9935S0GAQ6Wx2qJhIg

Disclosure Dilemas Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas: Your Path to Divorce Victory / Ep. 148

Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies / Ep. 119

 

Free Resources:

Property Settlement Checklist www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Divorce Documentation Guide www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

 

Emergency Contacts:

WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

LEGAL AID

Lifeline: 13 11 14

Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

Relationships Australia

Police: 000

DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

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Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope these listener-shared insights and practical advice will help guide you through your divorce journey. Remember, you are not alone, and taking the time to understand and plan will make all the difference. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Contents of this Video

00:00 Introduction: Navigating Divorce 

01:25 Key Tip: Don't Rush

02:43 Gathering Information: Collate Your Documents

04:00 Children and Visitation and Custody: Complexities and Considerations

05:38 Property Settlement Financial Precautions: Secret Bank Accounts and Abuse

08:22 Legal Strategies: Understanding Narcissistic Tactics

08:56 Court Orders: Sole Occupancy and Safety Concerns

10:50 Disclosure Challenges: Waiting for Information

12:33 Settlement Tips: Don't Settle for Less

15:14 Emotional Toll: The Full-Time Job of Divorce

20:24 Free Resources for Mediation and Negotiation

21:03 Is the System Child-Centred?

23:40 Dealing with Nasty In-Laws

27:03 Family Court Legal Costs and Settlements

29:34 Importance of Family Violence Protection Orders

34:46 Managing Expectations and Seeking Support in Divorce

38:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell