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Who Were You Supposed to Be? The Ache of Doing Everything Right

Who Were You Supposed to Be? The Ache of Doing Everything Right

Update: 2025-04-29
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You did everything right.
So why does it feel so wrong?

In this episode of The Scenic Route, we dive into the quiet ache so many of us feel after building the life they thought they were supposed to want, only to realise it doesn’t feel like theirs anymore.

We explore:

  • Why “success” often leaves women feeling hollow instead of whole
  • How Symbolic Interactionism explains the silent shaping of your identity
  • Erving Goffman’s Front Stage vs. Backstage selves—and when the performance becomes unbearable
  • What happens when applause stops feeling like affirmation and starts sounding like a trap
  • How to begin untangling the scripts you inherited—and start writing your own

If you’ve ever thought, I don’t remember choosing this life,
If you feel the weight of doing everything “right” but still feel wrong inside –
This conversation is for you.

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Who Were You Supposed to Be? The Ache of Doing Everything Right

Who Were You Supposed to Be? The Ache of Doing Everything Right

Jennifer Walter