Almost 50% of guys ages 18–25 have never asked someone out in person.
Not because they do not want to, but because they hesitate.

In this episode of Guyset, I break down why asking someone out feels so nerve-wracking now, where the fear actually comes from, and why the usual advice like "just shoot your shot" does not help when you are in your head.

I talk about dating anxiety, fear of rejection, confidence, and the shame loop that keeps guys frozen instead of moving. I share my own experiences, the mindset shift that helped me stop overthinking, and a way to reframe fear so it stops running the show.

If you have ever wanted to ask someone out but talked yourself out of it, replayed the moment on the way home, or felt like everyone else has it figured out except you, this episode is for you.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to Guyset
00:18 The statistic that explains why dating feels harder now
01:30 Why so many guys avoid asking someone out in person
02:20 The shame loop that keeps you stuck
03:50 Fear of rejection vs fear of confirming what you already believe
05:00 Why asking someone out feels so high-stakes
06:40 Cuffing season pressure and feeling behind
08:20 Why "just go for it" advice does not work
10:30 What rejection actually does to your confidence
12:55 The regret of not saying anything
14:40 How my perspective on confidence has changed
16:50 Reframing fear into excitement
18:20 The "fear vs potential" mindset
23:05 Why potential is more powerful than trying
26:25 Getting out of your head and into action
28:35 Realizing you are not the only one feeling this way
30:10 How you put yourself in the other 50%
31:45 Final takeaway

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