In this episode, Matt speaks with queer relationship coach Lonay Halloum about why we attract unavailable men. This episode will provide you with a deeper understanding of your relationship patterns and why you might be attracting unavailable men. This episode was inspired by a deep desire to help you heal the subconscious programs that lead to self-abandonment so you can end this exhausting cycle and finally attract available men. 

The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:

• Matt and Lonay both share their stories about attracting unavailable men





• Why do we attract unavailable men?





• How do attachment styles play a role?





• What is the subconscious mind, and how does it contribute to this?





• How can we work with the subconscious mind to heal?





• How does low self-worth play a role in this?





• How can we break this cycle and start to attract available men?

Related Topics:

• Matt's blog “Why do I keep on attracting avoidant men”?





• Meeting your emotions: guided meditation





• Research study about gay men having avoidant attachment styles

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