Why We Crave External Validation and How to Let It Go
Update: 2025-04-15
Description
In this episode, I’m diving into external validation - why we crave it, why it feels so annoyingly good, and how it can quietly take over if we’re not paying attention.
I share some thoughts on where this need comes from (hint: it’s very human), how it shows up in work and life, and a few gentle shifts that have helped me build more self-trust and internal steadiness.
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “Do they like me?” more than "Do I like them?" this one’s for you. ❤️
Chapters
The Craving for External Validation
The Dangers of Seeking Approval
Mindfulness and Self-Trust
Embracing Rejection and Self-Acceptance
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