Why Your Kids Don’t Listen—and What to Do About It

Trust: The Forgotten Weapon of Fatherhood

In this episode of The Patriarchy Podcast, Pastor Joseph Spurgeon sits down with elder, father, and foster dad Aaron Sabie to talk about one of the most overlooked pillars of fatherhood: trust.

Why don’t your kids listen? It’s not because you’re not loud enough. It’s because they don’t trust you. We dive deep into what causes that breakdown, how to fix it, and why real leadership starts long before you open your mouth.

Aaron shares powerful stories from his time as a foster father—raising broken children and watching them transform through consistent, fatherly care. You’ll also hear about:

Why most dads lose their kids’ hearts

What a trustworthy father actually looks like

The role of discipline, conscience, and consistency

Why trust isn’t earned through volume, but through mission and follow-through

Fathers, if you want to raise sons and daughters who follow—not just obey—you need this episode.

Chapters & Timestamps

00:00 – Cold Open: Why your kids don’t listen

02:01 – Welcome & Episode Overview

04:15 – Interview Begins: Meet Aaron Sabie

07:30 – The Foster Experience: Rebuilding Trust from the Ground Up

14:45 – What Trust Looks Like in Daily Discipline

21:20 – Building a Family Identity & Why Mission Matters

27:00 – Proactive vs Reactive Parenting

31:50 – Creating a Moral Warehouse: Shaping the Conscience

36:40 – Restrictive vs Permissive Parenting Pitfalls

43:25 – How Trust Shapes Teenagers

47:10 – Why Follow-Through Is Everything

50:40 – Couch Time, Family Order, and Marital Unity

56:15 – Encouragement to Fathers: Build Trust Now

1:00:00 – Final Thoughts & Call to Action

About the Show

The Patriarchy Podcast features in-depth conversations on faith, culture, theology, and leadership. Each episode equips Christians to live boldly and biblically in an age of compromise—exploring the challenges and opportunities of standing firm for truth in the modern world.

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