EP20 - You’re Not Broken, Stop Fixing Yourself

The key to true personal growth isn’t fixing your flaws, but embracing them as part of your wholeness. Hilary dives into this idea, challenging the widespread obsession with constant self-improvement. Do we really need to fix every perceived flaw, or is there a better path? In this episode, she advocates for a radical shift—moving away from the relentless pursuit of perfection and embracing unconditional self-love and acceptance.

Episode Highlights:

• Hilary explores the exhausting cycle of self-improvement, where individuals continuously question “What is wrong with me?” and seek ways to fix themselves.


• Hear the powerful story of a client who found freedom by letting go of the need for self-fixing, allowing herself to enjoy life without the burden of constant self-criticism.


• Delve into the concept of shame and how it can prevent true self-expression and authentic connections with others.


• Hilary emphasizes embracing both the light and dark parts of oneself as essential to forming a complete and authentic identity.


• Discover how viewing imperfections as opportunities for growth, rather than flaws to be fixed, leads to a more fulfilling journey towards wholeness.

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00 ] The Concept of Constantly Working on Oneself and Seeking Self-Improvement


• [02:06 ] Client Story


• [03:09 ] Desire for Acceptance


• [06:28 ] The Light and Dark Parts of Ourselves


• [07:10 ] Truths to Accept


• [14:40 ] Integration and Self-Love 

Listener Takeaways:

• Learn why self-acceptance and unconditional love are the foundations for true personal growth and fulfillment.


• Understand the importance of stepping away from the never-ending quest for self-improvement to embrace who you are, as you are.


• Find out how embracing all aspects of yourself, including perceived imperfections, can lead to deeper, more genuine connections with others.


• Shift your mindset from fixing flaws to integrating and accepting every part of yourself, paving the way for personal fulfillment and achieving your true purpose.

Helpful links:

• Loneliness - The Other “L” Word Nobody Wants To Talk About:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000657906255

If you’ve ever felt trapped in the endless cycle of trying to “fix” yourself, Hilary’s insights will be a breath of fresh air. Tune in to start your journey toward true wholeness and fulfillment.