“Let’s just figure it all out right now…”
You’ve said it. Or your partner has. And before you know it, it’s 10:30 pm, you’re in survival mode, and the ‘solution’ turns into another fight.

In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea and Mike get honest about why trying to fix your relationship during fight-or-flight doesn’t work and what to do instead.

You’ll learn:

• What happens in your brain and body during conflict

• Why “just talking it out” often backfires

• The neuroscience behind repair and regulation

• How to pause a fight without ignoring it

• Tools you can use to come back together in a healthier, more connected way

This is the next step after last week’s viral episode on feeling touched out. Together, they unpack what stress really does to our relationships and how to build safety, repair, and teamwork in the hard moments.

“You can’t fix a relationship in fight-or-flight. But you can come back stronger.”

• 🎧 Missed last week’s episode? Listen to: ⁠Touched Out: What Your Nervous System Is Trying to Tell You⁠

• 🔄 Reconnection Kit for Couples: ⁠Download Here⁠

• 💬 Work with Chelsea & Mike: ⁠Coaching Options⁠

References:

• Gottman Institute: Physiological Self-Soothing During Conflict

• NIH Study: Stress and Marital Communication

Keywords:

• fight or flight in relationships

• relationship repair after conflict

• nervous system and conflict resolution

• postpartum relationship struggles

• co-regulation for couples

• how to stop fighting with your partner

• stress and communication in marriage

• parenting and relationship stress

• emotional disconnection in relationships

• nervous system dysregulation and intimacy