In this episode, Kiana and Tara explore the vital role one-on-one meetings play in professional development and team communication. They break down what these meetings should look like, how to prepare for them, common misconceptions, and red flags to watch out for. Whether you're a new employee or a seasoned professional, this conversation will help you take charge of your one-on-ones and make them work for you.Key Takeaways:

Purpose of One-on-Ones: These meetings are private, dedicated time with your manager to discuss progress, challenges, feedback, career goals, and workplace concerns.

Types of One-on-Ones

• Regular check-ins (weekly, biweekly, or monthly)

• Performance reviews

• Career development discussions

• Feedback sessions

• Project-based updates

How to Lead the Meeting

• Come prepared with an agenda and discussion topics

• Share accomplishments and advocate for your needs

• Send follow-up notes to document feedback and action items

Mentality Shift

• Use this time to talk about your growth—not just status updates

• Remember: your manager isn’t a mind reader—clearly express your needs and goals

Red Flags to Watch For

• Frequent cancellations without reason

• Meetings focused only on status updates

• No discussion of your growth or development

• Manager dominates the conversation or offers only negative feedback

• Dismissal of concerns, gaslighting, or boundary violations

• No mention of promotions, raises, or long-term goals

Pro Tip: Where legally allowed, record or transcribe your one-on-ones to keep a clear record of discussions and commitments.TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to One-on-Ones00:44 Understanding the Purpose of One-on-Ones01:27 Common Issues with One-on-Ones03:40 Different Types of One-on-Ones07:27 Standard One-on-One Formats10:42 Boss's Perspective on One-on-Ones17:01 Maximizing Your One-on-One Meetings25:10 The Wrong Mentality in One-on-Ones26:52 Taking Control of Your One-on-One Meetings28:40 Preparing for Effective One-on-Ones31:22 Red Flags in One-on-Ones35:24 Handling Gaslighting and Toxic Environments48:06 Concluding Thoughts on One-on-Ones