Love Your Life Show: Personal Growth, Mindset, + Habits for Busy Moms

Do you consider yourself GenX? Do you know someone who was born between 1965-1980? Don’t miss this episode inspired by a TikTok on “The Top GenX Blindspots”. Whoa! For me, and many midlife women, these are things we learned to do to survive in a system where our emotional and mental needs weren’t met. We were pretty ingenious actually, one might even say, warrior like! Yet, as adults, these adaptive, protective strategies become maladaptive and hurt us and our relationships. Join me as I explain how the way we were raised might be quietly sabotaging our emotional wellbeing and the health of our relationships. If you have ever wondered why you say you are fine when you are not, why you push your own needs aside, or why you feel responsible for everyone around you, this episode will help so much. And I don’t leave you hanging - after listening, you’ll have some simple strategies to help you care for yourself, connect more deeply, and begin shifting patterns that have been in place for decades. This episode is the perfect starting point as we begin a new year and move toward February’s relationship healing work in the Love Your Life School. Join me, fellow GenX woman, as I look at three hidden patterns that are probably playing out in your relationships and affecting your mental health. If you liked this show, you’ll love these two: Learned helplessness on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/274-overfunctioning-and-learned-helplessness/id1434429161?i=1000634097009 Learned helplessness on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4MF4IJSaVSMpfNhRAb7wyN?si=JuwR8qQnRiydi4fKDz1UDw Enmeshment interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/enmeshment-codependency-with-dr-kate-balestrieri/id1434429161?i=1000733979384 Enmeshment interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6WMOkGaEpLNHcmvF0W5JTa?si=kMALGFXuTQWzb-oFH5qDGQ Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/391 ⭐️See if Susie has room on her schedule for a one-on-one session. Let’s get to where we’re going faster! https://smb.as.me/ 🤓Quick - Join us as we dive into relationships for February 2026! The Love Your Life School Membership http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Find, follow and connect with her on Instagram https://instagram.com/smb.wellness 📩 Subscribe to the weekly newsletter so you never miss an episode. 💬 Share this with a friend who’s feeling disconnected or overwhelmed. (or who often says “I’m fine” but you know she’s anything but ❤️‍🩹) The post Three Gen X Blind Spots That Hurt Our Relationships and How to Heal Them appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Anyone else out there tired? Emotionally exhausted? Ready to try something new for 2026? This is the episode for you. 💗 I sat down with Dr. Shonda Allen Hill to talk about the subtle “conversation traps” so many midlife women fall into without realizing it. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling drained, irritated, or like you just lost thirty minutes of your life you’ll never get back, click play. 🤓 These traps steal our time, amp up our stress, and keep us stuck in cycles of over-explaining, defending, and managing everyone else’s emotions. Dr. Hill breaks down why these patterns feel so exhausting and why they’re especially common for moms who are already carrying the emotional load of the whole household. But here’s the good news: communication doesn’t have to feel heavy. In this episode, Dr. Hill shares simple, doable shifts that help you reclaim your time, your energy, and your peace—even if the people around you don’t change. Her insights will show you how to say less, stress less, and sidestep the conversations that lead straight into conflict or resentment. If you’re ready to feel lighter in your relationships and more in control of your day, you’re going to love this conversation. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: Communication Tool: Less Drama, More Connection on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/communication-tool-less-drama-more-connection/id1434429161?i=1000658725819 Drama, More Connection on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4t8QgA2UAiFkB9a9XrZszU?si=OcxoBHQsT5a83zh2aiskew Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Dr. Shonda Allen Hill go here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/390 Want more support? 📩 Subscribe to the weekly newsletter so you never miss an episode. http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA 💬 Share this with a friend who feels like her conversations with her husband or kids never change or who sometimes complains “We can’t talk about that” 👩🏼‍🎓Take it to the next level and join the Love Your Life School http://theloveyourlifeschool.com/ 📸 Tag me on Instagram @smb.wellness so I can cheer you on! https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post Avoid these Conversation Traps: Your Communication Fresh Start appeared first on Susie Pettit.

This is the episode you’ve been asking for! When you next feel overwhelmed, anxious, emotionally exhausted, or over. it. all….Before booking a one-way ticket to anywhere but here, press play and tap along with me. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I walk you through a full guided EFT tapping session. This is the exact practice I use when my emotions feel too big, when my anxiety hits a ten out of ten, or when life feels heavier than I want it to. EFT tapping blends Chinese acupressure with modern psychology and is known for helping with anxiety, stress, fear, sleep struggles, and emotional overload. You simply tap on 9 points of the body while repeating a setup statement.  This is a quick episode where I guide you through the exact practice. Not one more thing to do or research. I’ve done that for you. Literally, sit back, push play, and feel relief.  I’m serious when I say, this works.  Inside this episode you will learn: - How EFT tapping works and why it helps so quickly - The 9 tapping points and how to use them - A simple phrase to repeat for emotional relief - When to use tapping for stress, overwhelm, anxiety, and spiraling thoughts - Why this tool is in my personal emotional wellness toolbox This is a short, calming, supportive session designed for real life moments. You can tap along anywhere and any time you need grounding. If you have been feeling stretched thin or stuck in your head, this episode will help you reconnect with your body and breathe again. Give yourself the next few minutes. You deserve it. Press play and let’s tap together. 👉🏽Want another “push play, feel better” practice? Here’s a full body scan   Warrior Body Scan on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/warrior-body-scan/id1434429161?i=1000454944667 Warrior Body Scan on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UkMmFbdlO3wwzsi4Hcd2V?si=06f8f264216744c4   👉🏽Looking for more of what helps me when I’m anxious?  Listen here: 64: 10 All-Natural Ways to Beat Anxiety on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/64-10-all-natural-ways-to-beat-anxiety/id1434429161?i=1000454561162   64: 10 All-Natural Ways to Beat Anxiety on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4BFVByo5lmPC60mj3g6LeU?si=b31sBGL-QSC-5fHRs_PmIQ   Want to see where I’m tapping? Watch this video here: https://youtu.be/FaSuF_JbYM8   And if you’re new here, Here’s the PODCAST ROADMAP I mentioned: https://smbwell.com/roadmap for the foundational episodes on emotional regulation, emotional intelligence, and how to feel better in your life.   Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/389 CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE: ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership-http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Find and follow her on YouTube-LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG - YouTube Or Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post A Guided Tapping Session for the Days You Just Can’t Even appeared first on Susie Pettit.

If you’ve ever found yourself feeling resentful, irritated, or annoyed as a mom, wife, or friend, you don’t want to miss this episode. Learning from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife has helped me so much as a mom, through my divorce and into my now healthy, more mature marriage, my friendships, and my relationship with myself. I can not recommend her work highly enough. Please gift yourself a listen to today’s episode. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and I talk about why resentment shows up in marriage and motherhood and how to use it as a path toward self-understanding and deeper connection. We explore how relationships are powerful containers for personal growth, what it really means to self-confront and take responsibility for your part, and how to move away from compliance and people-pleasing into honesty and emotional maturity. Dr. Finlayson-Fife shares her perspective on self-authoring, costly accommodation, and the difference between love and victim entitlement. Together we talk about how to feel more connected in your marriage, less resentful in your motherhood, and more grounded in who you truly are. If you’ve been longing for more peace and authenticity in your relationships, this conversation will help you take the first step. If you liked this show, you’ll like these two: Resentment and Shame on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/233-resentment-feel-it-heres-the-greatest-tip/id1434429161?i=1000596420128 Resentment and Shame on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0kybmmxPsITmZxOflDBKBv?si=gQh8VJswShuK4N9V3AsxUA Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/234-resentment-in-marriage/id1434429161?i=1000597499677 Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yuhlXIrz0fsPN4OQsha16?si=vSURTNyKSiWWKKxo6O40uw Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/388 Find out more about Dr. Fife here: Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife’s website: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Say hi to Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/finlaysonfife/ Want more support? 📩 Subscribe to the weekly newsletter so you never miss an episode. http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA 💬 This is a GREAT episode to share with a friend. Who knows, you might pair up and take her Art of Desire Class together! Share the link to this show on Apple and Spotify here https://smbwell.com/listen 👩🏼‍🎓Take it to the next level and join the Love Your Life School  📸 Come say hi on Instagram @smb.wellness and ⭐️bonus points ⭐️if you let Dr. Finlayson-Fife know you appreciate her coming on the Love Your Life Show https://www.instagram.com/finlaysonfife/ The post How to Stop Feeling Resentful in Marriage and Motherhood | Conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife appeared first on Susie Pettit.

The Year You Let It Be Easy What if your best year yet didn’t require more effort but less struggle? In this episode, I invite you to imagine a year that feels light, free, and full of possibility. Together we’ll look at how to stop overworking, overthinking, and over-caring so you can start creating a life that actually feels like yours. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn: - how to think intentionally about your future without pressure or hustle - why your thoughts, not your to-do list, shape your next year - a simple three-step process to create momentum and ease - how to reconnect with what you want, not what everyone else expects This is your reminder that it’s safe to slow down. You can dream, choose, and believe your way into a gentler, more joyful year. Press play and let’s make this the year you let it be easy. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: The Case for Boredom on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/155-the-case-for-boredom/id1434429161?i=1000530241019 The Case for Boredom on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4yxhcocfY1yrkNSvCTnLJs?si=r3np0HpMQjOv4LqddUwf7w If you’ve never chosen a word of the year before, you’ll want to 1️⃣ Listen to this episode here Word of the Year or Resolutions? on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/176-word-of-the-year-or-resolutions/id1434429161?i=1000545737438 Word of the Year 2022 on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3PRwxKZZWD5hhciK3qx1BF?si=ymdBB4VfSC6I_YeCRxSioA 2️⃣ Get your WORD OF THE YEAR WORKSHEET here https://smbwell.com/word Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/387 CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE: ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷SHARE YOUR WORD OF THE YEAR WITH ME here on Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness or email me at Susie@SMBwell.com The post The Year You Let It Be Easy appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Whoa warriors, this episode wasn’t planned. It started on a walk. One small moment after another, until something landed so clearly that I stopped short, pulled out my phone, and hit record. In this short bonus episode, I share a more personal side of my own life and what that walk stirred up for me in real time. It’s reflective, honest, and a little different than my usual episodes. Then, I bring you the heart of a listener-favorite teaching and walk you through how to choose your word of the year in a way that actually feels supportive instead of stressful. Not a word you should pick. A word that meets you where you are and gently guides you toward how you want to feel and live. If you’ve been craving clarity, a reset, or a softer way to step into the year ahead, this episode is for you. Let it be a pause, a breath, and an invitation to choose on purpose. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: 230: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/230-my-most-vulnerable-episode-yet/id1434429161?i=1000589799587 230: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kU0nc1wDkFMS0zo2ZmdY0?si=YBmV7dfFTkaUcRGt4_962g GET YOUR WORD OF THE YEAR WORKSHEET HERE: https://SMBwell.com/word Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://smbwell.com/word-of-the-year-2026/ ⭐️Work with Susie in 2026: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓Join the Love Your Life School -http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie + keep the podcast AD free: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Get the Weekly Warrior Wellness Newsletter: http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA 😊 Let’s be friends on Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post Word of the Year 2026 appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Are you tired of being the one who holds everything and everyone together? If you’re the go-to problem solver, the one who jumps in to “help” before anyone even asks, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. 💛 This week, I’m joined by psychotherapist and author Leah Marone, whose new book Serial Fixer explores why so many of us over-function, over-accommodate, and lose ourselves in relationships. Together, we unpack what drives our urge to fix and how to finally stop.  💬 Join us as we talk about: The difference between helping and fixing (and why it matters) What’s really behind our need to keep everyone happy The hidden rewards of over-functioning that keep us stuck Actual things you can say to validate others. What happens when you stop managing everyone else’s emotions Simple, daily steps to release control and reconnect with yourself How to Support not Solve (with your teenager, young adult, or spouse!) Whether you call it people-pleasing, emotional outsourcing, codependency, or just “being the responsible one,” this conversation will help you see that you’re not broken and you’re not alone. If you’ve been craving lighter, freer, more balanced relationships, you’ll want to listen in. Talking with Leah helped me so much. 🌿 Press play and start breaking the habit of fixing so you can finally find peace, connection, and joy that lasts. If you liked this show, you’ll like these too: - Lovingly Detached on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/286-loving-detachment/id1434429161?i=1000642743348 - Lovingly Detached on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bL2I9rFFHSf18buCOEZMi?si=gOQRe5rAR1mwHhfEIl30ow - Popcorn parenting on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/292-popcorn-parenting/id1434429161?i=1000648160327 - Popcorn parenting on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6W3ra8NW1jeJMx8quEQmwx?si=BtH-IixmT--23L3I6sxNtA Manuals https://smbwell.com/manuals-in-relationships/ Find out more about Leah here: https://www.leahmarone.com/ https://www.instagram.com/leahmaronelcsw/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahmaronelcsw/ HER BOOK: https://amzn.to/47L05k6 For the shownotes go here 👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/386 Want more support? 📩 Subscribe to the weekly newsletter http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA so you never miss an episode. 💬 Share this with a friend who’s navigating a tough relationship. 👩🏼‍🎓Take it to the next level and join the Love Your Life School http://theloveyourlifeschool.com/ 📸 Tag me on Instagram @smb.wellness https://instagram.com/smb.wellness so I can cheer you on! The post How to Break Free from the Habit of Solving Other People’s Problems appeared first on Susie Pettit.

This holiday season, skip the stress of finding the “perfect” gift. Time and time again, I’ve found that these three gifts last far longer than any new xbox game, fancy watch, or clothing item my teen or spouse wants.    I made this week’s Love Your Life Show episode to quickly share three things you can give your loved ones that will mean far more than anything you can buy.   I think you’ll like my ideas, especially when you listen in to hear how they work in real life! Click play to learn simple ways to:  ✨ Shift your focus to what’s good in your spouse and kids  💬 Use words that build confidence and connection  🤝 Create loving memories through presence and touch I credit these gifts as foundations to the close relationships I have with my kids now. They’ve also helped me in the empty nest! There’s no time that’s too late to start - End your year with less pressure and more peace, and give your loved ones what they truly want: you. If you liked this show, you’ll like these too: 10 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/30-10-ways-to-deepen-your-relationship/id1434429161?i=1000430706493 10 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6zTH6vdwdqFHSmLF9biqVI?si=j6ax0P2wQDmbAjzJbhqf3Q Active Listening on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/active-listening/id1434429161?i=1000724674712 Active Listening on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2d7ZvGySJXicEZb2qIvxSK?si=76ab34247a8742ec Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/385 GIFTS FOR YOU: ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 💌Get the Weekly Wellness Newsletter delivered straight to you: https://SMBwell.com/newsletter 🎁Actual Gifts: Susie’s favorite gifts, books and resources:  https://www.amazon.com/shop/smbwell (buying from this list is a gift for both of us: you get the gift, my mission is supported. Thank you 🙏🏾) GIFTS FOR SUSIE:  🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission “To help as many women as possible live lives they love”: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Let’s be friends on Instagram: https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post 3 Gifts for Your Loved Ones They’ll Remember Far Beyond the New Year appeared first on Susie Pettit.

The holidays can bring joy AND… stress. Between the parties, the pressure, and the people-pleasing, it’s easy to slip into that “F it” mindset with our wellness and mental health habits.   Which is why many of us, myself included, get to January feeling down on ourselves and/or like our wellness is broken and we need massive change. Now. Dammit. And yet, we know that mindset doesn’t work. Did you know that more than 90% of people quit their new years resolutions before 20 days have passed?! By January 17th!  This year and in this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I’m inviting you to try something gentler: a good enough mindset. Instead of throwing your wellness out the window until January, what if you took just one minute to reset? I’ll walk you through simple, realistic stress reduction, wellness, and mental health tips that actually work. From movement to quick ways to calm your brain, nourish your body, and restore your energy. These are the small, mindful holiday habits that help you feel better (not behind) this season. No perfection required 💗 just a willingness to start small. Join me for your One-Minute Holiday Reset and learn how to bring more holiday wellness, peace, and self-compassion into your days. How would it feel to head into the new year feeling proud, grounded, and recharged? If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: How to Change Your Life without Changing Your Life on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/161-how-to-change-your-life-without-changing-your-life/id1434429161?i=1000534653997 How to Change Your Life without Changing Your Life on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/7LjTFPnJYvDjun1trMMXjJ?si=xUeh06g9RuWBjrYlI4-XFQ Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/384 CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE: ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Find and follow her on Instagram: https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post The One-Minute Holiday Reset: Feel Better, Not Behind appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Do you ever feel drained or tired after your interactions with others in your life? Like maybe your spouse or teen but also with a parent, sibling, coworker or friend? Please know, this is totally normal. We weren’t taught skillful relationship tools and so it makes sense that we’ll feel more reactive, resentful, or heavy after certain interactions. The great news is that we can learn these skills! In fact, I’ve found that there are some very simple things I’ve learned that make all the difference for me in how I feel in my relationships. Even better news? I share three simple ones today. Just in time for you to use them over the holidays! 🌲 These skills aren’t about changing others; they’re about helping you feel calmer, more confident, and back in control of your emotional energy. If you use them, you’ll be practicing mindful communication, active listening, and even non-violent communication (perfect for what’s happening in the world right now!). Tune in and start turning those draining interactions into moments of growth, love, and peace. NEW! 🚨Free PDF with top ranked episodes on Narcissism, Energy Vampires, and Emotionally Immature People: https://SMBwell.com/narc If you liked this show, you’ll like this one:  How to STOP Over-functioning and FEEL BETTER on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000554161604 How to STOP Over-functioning and FEEL BETTER on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2JPETjXq221KsocVrQkXrR?si=dUdidIrZRNKQYynRTpkPqg ⭐️ Make progress faster! Get on Susie’s calendar here: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 📲 Don’t miss out! Get weekly Wellness Updates in your inbox here: https://SMBwell.com/newsletter 🤓 The Love Your Life School Membership: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷 Let’s be friends on Instagram - https://instagram.com/smb.wellness 🖥️ Get the full show notes here 👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/383 The post Feeling Drained by Relationships? 3 Tools That Work! appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Why do some relationships feel so draining? Do you ever feel stressed when you hear those studies talk about how important healthy relationships are? I know I do! When I hear relationship and happiness experts say how important the quality of the relationships we’re in are, I can sometimes feel overwhelmed and drained, with a “but wait, this is my kid?” Well this is the episode for you! I have looked back over the past 381 episodes of the Love Your Life Show to teach you the thing to help you feel less stressed and more peace and calm. Just in time for the holidays! Whether you’re feeling drained after interacting with a partner, a parent, a teen, or a friend, this will help! We’ll let them be emotionally immature or reactive while we learn this basic shift to feel less reactive and more in control of your emotions.  So, for those relationships we want to keep, click play to feel lighter, calmer, and more empowered. 🎁 Resources Mentioned: ✨ Free Relationship PDF for Narcissistic & Emotionally Immature Relationships → www.smbwell.com/narc ✨ Subscribe to the weekly wellness newsletter for holiday wellness tips and fun gift ideas →http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA If you liked this show, you’ll like these two: Let Them [Emotional Freedom] on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000619325997 Let Them [Emotional Freedom] on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/5o6LzBpYFIB7QvEZJwiLp9?si=v4wKTmRyQeqXAyTwS7ECzQ Expectations and Expectation Hangovers in Relationship on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000644436619 Expectations and Expectation Hangovers in Relationship on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/1YQcTIJ6D2mPLMS2n1kIDz?si=gnv9ikccRuuS3wEiQ8Uu1g Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/382 ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership-http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Let’s be friends on Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post Why Relationships Feel Draining and How to Bring the Peace Back appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Do you feel like you’re carrying everyone else’s needs on your shoulders? Or maybe you struggle to set boundaries without feeling guilty? You are not alone. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, Susie Pettit sits down with Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach, podcast host, and author of Stronger in the Difficult Places. Dr. Zoe specializes in helping women heal from complex shame™ and codependency so they can experience healthy love, freedom, and stronger relationships…including the one with themselves. Together, Susie and Dr. Zoe unpack: ✨ What complex shame really is and how it sneaks into our daily lives ✨ The difference between healthy guilt and toxic shame ✨ Why so many women struggle with codependency in midlife ✨ How to set boundaries without the guilt ✨ The first steps to breaking unhealthy patterns and creating a lighter, freer life If you’ve ever thought, “It’s too late for me to change,” or felt exhausted from always taking care of others before yourself—this conversation will give you the hope and tools you need. Press play and discover how you can become stronger in your own difficult places. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: How to STOP Over-Functioning and FEEL BETTER on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/188-how-to-stop-overfunctioning-and-feel-better/id1434429161?i=1000554161604 How to STOP Over-Functioning and FEEL BETTER on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2JPETjXq221KsocVrQkXrR?si=ec41e2c71af74168 Find Dr. Zoe Shaw’s book, podcast and all other great things mentioned here👉🏾https://SMBwell.com/381 Get her book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593601084?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzstmibo-20&creativeASIN=0593601084&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.1ZD9W98EKL8GL&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ons_mixed_d_asin Want more support? 📩 Subscribe to the weekly newsletter http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA so you never miss an episode. 💬 This is a great episode to share with a friend. Didn’t you love getting to know Dr. Zoe? Send a quick text with the link now 🙏🏾 👩🏼‍🎓Take it to the next level and join the Love Your Life School http://theloveyourlifeschool.com/ 📸 Tag me on Instagram @smb.wellness https://instagram.com/smb.wellness so I can cheer you on! The post Breaking Free from Shame + Codependency with Dr. Zoe Shaw appeared first on Susie Pettit.

What if this holiday season you could walk into family gatherings feeling calm, grounded, and at peace—no matter what your relatives do? 🎄🕎  In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, Susie Pettit reveals a surprising secret that can help you handle the aunt who always criticizes your clothes, the dad who brings up politics, the uncle who drinks too much, or the sibling glued to their phone. Instead of dreading the drama or wishing people would change, Susie will show you how this one mindset shift can free you from frustration, help you set boundaries that actually work, and let you enjoy your holidays in a whole new way. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: How Lowering Your Expectations Helps Your Relationships on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/71-how-lowering-your-expectations-helps-your-relationships/id1434429161?i=1000459268579 How Lowering Your Expectations Helps Your Relationships on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0FX8n9nQk2d7hRAyUzJ6eV?si=N6K73wYJSvuCEkCM7p39rg Boundaries AND Unconditional Love on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/217-can-you-have-boundaries-and-unconditional-love/id1434429161?i=1000581490495 Boundaries AND Unconditional Love on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0M5zIyHvryHm26EiEbqXXF?si=1389340e9cf94cff Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/380 CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE: ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership-http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Find and follow her on YouTube-LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG - YouTube Or Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post How to Stop Family Drama and Find Peace This Holiday Season appeared first on Susie Pettit.

What can the Australian outback and a Dr. Seuss story teach us about perfectionism and anxiety? Ever hear yourself saying “I’ll feel better once ‘this’ is over” or ‘this’ is done? Like, once your kid gets through this thing or your partner learns how to manage his anger or you lose that weight or you check off that last goal? That’s the trap of the arrival fallacy, and it keeps so many of us stuck in worry and self-criticism. For me, I find that it steals my present day happiness and calm. I’m always feeling like there’s something more to do or fix or change. Well, listen to this episode as I share two powerful life lessons that were reinforced for me when I was on my Australian camper van adventure through the outback and Great Barrier Reef. With wisdom from Dr. Seuss’s Solla Sollew, I’ll share how perfectionism and anxiety sneak into our daily lives (and how to kick those joy stealers out!) If you’ve ever felt weighed down by worry, waiting for “someday” to feel better, this conversation will help you see why life doesn’t need to be perfect to be meaningful—and how to experience more peace and joy today. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: How To Worry Better: https://smbwell.com/how-to-worry-better/ Lovingly detached on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-your-life-show/id1434429161?i=1000642743348 Popcorn parenting on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-your-life-show/id1434429161?i=1000648160327 Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/379 CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE: ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership-http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Find and follow her on YouTube-LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG - YouTube Or Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post What the Outback Taught Me About Perfection and Anxiety appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Are you struggling to set boundaries with a parent?  Do you feel responsible for other people’s emotions?  Are you having trouble breaking free from codependent behavior? Well great news….you might be experiencing enmeshment! Enmeshment and enmeshment trauma can deeply affect your sense of self, your peace, and your current relationships. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I sit down with expert Dr. Kate Balestrieri, to break down: - What enmeshment and enmeshment trauma really are - How it shows up in families, divorces, and romantic relationships - Red flags that you might be stuck in an enmeshed dynamic - How to begin healing and individuating (even if this has been your “normal” for years) - How to be the CYCLE BREAKER 🙌🏾 Whether you were the child who had to emotionally support a parent, or the parent realizing you may have leaned too heavily on your kids, or you’ve heard of emotional incest or none of those but love learning about new things, this episode is a must listen!  🎧 Listen now to understand enmeshment and take the first steps toward freedom. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: Eloisa, please hyperlink and make this prettier 🤓 Codependency + Over-Responsibility on Apple Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000673249931 Codependency + Over-Responsibility on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fet9LWWFslZJODHpjV3or?si=6f6a7b675e394bdf Connect with Dr. Kate and get the links we mentioned here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/378 ⭐️Break your enmeshment patterns! Join the Love Your Life School now: http://TheLoveYourLifeSchool.com ⭐️Get one-on-one support from Coach Susie here: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11643751 ⭐️Find this video on YouTube here: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW9PibXJfNpKk5Yr6rpNVq4P_utWFkvYS The post Enmeshment and Enmeshment Trauma appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Have you ever left a conversation replaying it in your head, wishing you had had the perfect response? In this episode, Susie Pettit shares two powerful tools that will help you stay calm, protect your energy, and know exactly what to say when someone is rude or disrespectful. Whether you’re dealing with a moody teen, a critical parent, or a dismissive co-worker, you’ll learn simple strategies to stop pleasing people, set boundaries, and step into your self-authority without guilt. Because while you can’t control rude people…you can control how much power they have over you. 🙌🏾 🎧 Tune in now to learn how to: - Stay calm when others get disrespectful - Use short phrases that stop arguments before they start - Protect your peace with toxic people - Step into the season with more confidence and freedom If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: How to Deal with Emotionally Immature People on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-communicate-with-narcissists-and/id1434429161?i=1000711108596 How to Deal with Emotionally Immature People on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0FTaNbB8tCwPfI0sLyix92?si=80962a636d7144f7 Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/377 CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE: ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Find and follow her on YouTube: LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG - YouTube https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW9PibXJfNpKk5Yr6rpNVq4P_utWFkvYS Or Instagram: https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post What to Say When Someone is Rude or Disrespectful appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Do you ever feel guilty taking time to do something you enjoy?  Or have you ever said things like “I don’t have time for that” (and by that, you mean basic human needs, like you don’t have time to eat, to sleep, to pee?!?) Maybe you are running around so much taking care of everyone and everything that you find yourself fantasizing about hiding in a closet somewhere for a couple of days?  I’ve been there/thought that and am so excited for you to listen to this interview. This week I’m joined by Jenny Lytle, a nurse with over 30 years of experience in end-of-life and hospice care. She now helps caregivers stop running on empty so they can keep showing up without losing themselves in the process. Together, we talk about: How to keep caring without collapsing What we get wrong about being a “good caregiver” How to survive caregiving and being in the sandwich generation Tiny, doable ways to refill your energy tank (even if you only have 10 minutes) If you’re the one holding everything (and everyone) together, caring for aging parents, supporting kids, managing the household, this episode is for you. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: Self Care is NOT Selfish on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/7-self-care-is-not-selfish/id1434429161?i=1000420602956 Self Care is NOT Selfish on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/55jg3Kwif8eFiGKbf2OBJe?si=39e0b2dbb11240f9 Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Jenny Lytle go here👉🏾https://SMBwell.com/376 Watch the interview on YouTube here:  ⭐️ NEW OPPORTUNITY: 20-min Life Consult https://smb.as.me/lifeconsult ⭐️ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 👋🏽 Let’s be friends on Instagram: https://instagram.com/smb.wellness 📩 Subscribe to the weekly newsletter so you never miss an episode. http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA The post Caregiving without Guilt and Burnout appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Last week, in part one, we talked about three common behaviors many of us carry after leaving a narcissistic relationship: hypervigilance and people-pleasing, difficulty trusting our perceptions, and emotional dysregulation or numbness. In this week’s episode of The Love Your Life Show, we’re talking about how to break free from those patterns so you can move forward with more peace, confidence, and joy. You’ll learn practical, compassionate steps for: Calming hypervigilance and reclaiming your energy Rebuilding trust in your own thoughts and feelings Regulating emotions and reconnecting to yourself If you’ve ever wondered “I’m out… but why do I still feel stuck?” this episode will give you the tools to start shifting your life in small, powerful ways. This is your next step in healing — and you don’t have to do it alone. If you liked this show, don’t miss part one last week!  Also, here’s another great one: How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/62-how-to-raise-emotionally-empowered-kids/id1434429161?i=1000452847373 How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Yp3R4Un5XBfMtcPczNp7l?si=d3d8d72f989a422c This is an extra special important one to share with someone you care about in your life. Please click the link and share away. Also, it’s my birthday week! ☕️For the price of a coffee, please head to  https://patreon.com/susiepettit to support my mission and me, while I sit here week after week, year after year, bringing you tips and support to live a life you love. You  matter to me, warrior! 💗 Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/375 ⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 👋🏽 Let’s be friends on Instagram: https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post Healing Tools to Break Free from Narcissistic Abuse appeared first on Susie Pettit.

If you’ve ever been in a narcissistic relationship (with a partner, parent, boss, or friend), you know the effects don’t magically disappear when you leave. In fact, sometimes that’s when the real work begins. In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I share three common behaviors many of us carry after narcissistic abuse: Hypervigilance and people-pleasing Difficulty trusting your own perceptions Emotional dysregulation or numbness These aren’t signs you’re broken. Rather, they’re survival patterns your brain and body learned in unsafe environments. Coping techniques you learned to protect yourself in complex PTSD.  Today is part one of a two-part series, and we’re starting with awareness: how these behaviors show up, what they look like in everyday life, and why you might still be doing them even years later. Whether you’re early in recovery or decades out, this episode will help you see your patterns with compassion — and prepare you for next week’s conversation about how to heal and move forward. If you liked this show, you’ll like this one:  Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-recovery/id1434429161?i=1000679967740 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4LZOMV5GGxgk21Tt2oMtYu?si=fe90af4f7cb24793 This is an extra special important one to share with someone you care about in your life. Please click the link and share away. Also, it’s my birthday next week! And I’d love to share a cup of coffee with you! For the price of a coffee, please head to  https://patreon.com/susiepettit to support my mission and me, while I sit here week after week, year after year, bringing you tips and support to live a life you love. You  matter to me, warrior! 💗 Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/374 ⭐️Work with Coach Susie - https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓The Love Your Life School Membership - http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 👋🏽 Let’s be friends on Instagram - https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post 3 Habits That Keep You Stuck After Narcissistic Abuse appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Are you questioning whether that nightly glass of wine is actually serving you? Feeling like you're stuck in the "wine mom" cycle but not sure how to break free? I'm sitting down with Emily Allen, a certified alcohol-free life coach, to have an honest conversation about what it really means to live alcohol-free in midlife - and why it might be the game-changer you've been looking for. Emily shares her personal journey from wine o'clock to freedom, including the wake-up call that shifted everything for her. We're talking about why the alcohol industry has specifically targeted midlife women, how "wine culture" keeps us feeling trapped, and what actually happens when you choose to step away from drinking. From navigating social pressure and family dynamics to discovering energy and clarity you forgot you had, Emily and  Susie speak of their personal experiences and surprise at the benefits of sobriety and alcohol free living. You don’t want to miss this! If you've ever wondered if there's more to life than managing your days around when you can have your next drink, or if you're simply curious about what an alcohol-free lifestyle could look like, this conversation will open your eyes to possibilities you may not have considered. It's time to consider if an alcohol free lifestyle might be part of you living a life you love and thriving in midlife! If you liked this show, you’ll like this one: Living Sober with Lori Massicot on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000501793535 Living Sober with Lori Massicot on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/7htBqSLD923uj4W2v23bj8?si=Ecfk_hWsQwerUUeDkQ1KPw One Percent Better on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000569733995 One Percent Better on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0jwwj6ulR7MPAMMGjbvxzo?si=IWhiUBKpSp-shpiF0fVHIw Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Emily go here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/373 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Join us in the Love Your Life School next month as we QUIT SOMETHING! (maybe your thing is alcohol?) If you haven’t yet, why not? I know your health and wellbeing matter, what do you have to lose (except hangovers, weight, poor sleep, and anxiety)? http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 🩷Find and follow her on Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post Sober: Why Midlife Women are Choosing an Alcohol Free Lifestyle appeared first on Susie Pettit.