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The Hidden Emotional Labour of School Staff (And Why It’s Breaking You)🎙️ The Hidden Emotional Labour of School Staff (And Why It’s Breaking You)Teachers and school staff are walking out of buildings every day completely exhausted — not because the day was dramatic, but because it was relentless.In this episode, Ashley explores the hidden emotional labour inside schools — the constant co-regulation, emotional containment, and nervous system management that rarely gets acknowledged but leaves staff mentally and physically depleted.If you’re a teacher, TA, SENCO, pastoral lead, or school-based professional who goes home emotionally drained and unable to switch off, this episode explains why — and what you can do about it.In this episode, we cover: What emotional labour in schools really means Why supporting dysregulated children drains your nervous system The difference between busy-tired and emotionally exhausted Why compassionate staff are most at risk of burnout The difference between empathy and absorbing Why burnout isn’t weakness — it’s sustained emotional outputWhy school staff feel so drainedSupporting children with behaviour, trauma, and regulation needs requires calm tone, steady presence, and emotional containment. Staff regulate multiple nervous systems before reaching their own.Without space to reset, this creates nervous system overload.This isn’t about resilience. It’s sustained emotional output without protection.Practical takeaways: Separate empathy from absorbing — ask “Is this mine or theirs?” Close emotional loops after difficult moments Use short nervous system resets between interactions Build one low-demand moment into your day Name the emotional load instead of suppressing it Create a transition ritual before going homeKey reminder:You are not burning out because you are weak.You are burning out because you care deeply in a system that rarely slows down.The goal isn’t to care less — it’s to protect yourself while you care.Who This Episode Is For: Teachers and teaching assistants SENCOs and pastoral leads School leaders School-based professionals working with childrenResources & SupportIf you’d like support with emotional regulation, nervous system tools, or CPD for your school, explore Ashley’s work at The Resilient Kid, including workshops, training, and the Resilient Kid Programme.Visit: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukIf This Episode HelpedPlease consider sharing it with a teacher, TA, or school professional who may need to hear they’re not failing — they’re carrying a lot.🎧 Share this episode with someone who walks out of school exhausted but still deeply cares.Spotify –YouTube –Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and Apologies00:16 Understanding Emotional Labour in Schools02:29 The Impact on School Staff03:49 Recognising Burnout08:26 Managing Emotional Labour13:24 Transition Rituals17:57 Final ThoughtsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

More children are starting school without the skills they need to feel confident, settled, and ready to learn — and it’s not because parents don’t care.In this episode, Ashley explores why so many nursery-aged children are being described as “not school ready,” what professionals across early years and education are seeing, and how small, everyday changes at home can make a big difference.With warmth, honesty, and practical guidance, this episode covers speech and language development, independence, toileting, screen use, and the simple skills that truly prepare children for school — without panic, blame, or unrealistic expectations.In this episode, we cover:What “school readiness” really means (and what it doesn’t)Why more children are struggling with communication, regulation, and independenceThe rise in speech and language delays in nursery-aged childrenWhy toilet training is an important part of school readinessThe impact of screen use on communication and social skillsWhy iPads at the table don’t support language developmentHow independence, turn-taking, and conversation build confidenceWhat parents can do — practically and gently — to support readiness at homeWhy school readiness isn’t about pushing children faster, but building strong foundationsPractical takeaways:Create screen-free mealtimes to encourage conversationPractise turn-taking through games and everyday interactionsSupport toilet training with consistency and gentle leadershipBuild independence through everyday tasksReduce background noise and increase face-to-face interactionFocus on emotional coaching, not perfectionKey reminder:School readiness isn’t about academic ability — it’s about communication, connection, independence, and confidence. Small, consistent changes at home can make a powerful difference in helping children feel safe, capable, and ready for the transition to school.Who This Episode Is For:Parents of nursery and pre-school childrenEarly years practitioners and educatorsParents feeling unsure or worried about school readinessAnyone wanting practical, realistic guidance without judgementResources & SupportIf you’d like more support around emotional regulation, confidence, and helping children feel ready for big transitions, explore Ashley’s work at The Resilient Kid, including workshops, resources, and the Resilient Kid Programme for families and schools.Resources & SupportIf you need support, you can reach out via social media or email ashley@theresilientkid.co.uk. We have an Anxiety Workshop coming up in February for £25, which includes a 60-minute session and a 30-minute Q&A. Sign up here - https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/parent-workshop Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction: The School Readiness Crisis01:31 Understanding School Readiness02:05 Communication and Emotional Regulation02:29 The Role of Independence and Social Skills03:06 Challenges in School Readiness03:33 Impact of Screen Time on Development06:16 Practical Tips for Reducing Screen Time07:29 Building Independence in Daily Routines10:23 Toilet Training: Overcoming the Challenges16:33 Enhancing Speech and Language Skills27:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement31:00 Conclusion and ResourcesFind all the resources in our Listeners Lounge https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Useful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share Get “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957 Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

Low mood in children often shows up in ways that are easy to misinterpret — especially in January.In this Blue Monday week episode, Ashley explores what low mood can look like in children, what’s happening in the brain, and how parents and teachers can respond in ways that support recovery rather than add pressure.This episode is for anyone supporting children at home or in school.In this episode, we cover:How low mood in children often looks like irritability or withdrawalThe difference between low mood and defianceHow stress and reduced daylight affect children’s brainsWhy January increases vulnerability for many childrenHow school and home responses can work togetherPractical takeaways:What genuinely helps children experiencing low moodHow predictability and connection support emotional safetyWhy adjusting demand can be protective, not permissiveWhat well-intentioned responses often make things harderWhen to keep an eye on things and seek extra supportKey reminder:Low mood is information — not failure.And children recover best when the adults around them respond with steadiness, understanding, and connection.🎧 Share this episode with a teacher or parent supporting a child who feels “not quite themselves” right now.Spotify –YouTube –Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction to Low Mood in Kids and Teens00:30 Understanding January Blues02:14 Recognising Low Mood Symptoms03:35 Brain Science Behind Low Mood07:14 Why January Exacerbates Low Mood09:03 Effective Strategies for Parents and Educators16:59 What Not to Do: Common Mistakes19:03 When to Seek Help20:20 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

Mornings and bedtimes often take the biggest hit after the holidays — and this episode explains why.Ashley breaks down what’s happening in children’s brains during transitions, why routines fall apart before they improve, and how parents and carers can support calmer starts and smoother evenings without constant battles.This is a practical, reassuring episode for families who are feeling stretched at the bookends of the day.In this episode, we cover:Why transitions are hard for children’s nervous systemsWhat the prefrontal cortex needs to function well in the morningWhy bedtime resistance increases when children are overtiredThe role of safety and predictability in sleepWhy “trying harder” rarely helps tired brainsPractical takeaways:How to build resilience into mornings without rushing or shoutingSimple changes that reduce decision-fatigueWhy protecting the wind-down matters more than bedtime itselfBody-based strategies that help children settle at nightLanguage that reduces pressure and supports sleepKey reminder:You don’t need perfect mornings or peaceful bedtimes.You need predictable cues, calmer rhythms, and fewer power struggles.🎧 This episode is especially helpful after school holidays or periods of change.Link to buy weighted blankets Ashley spoke about – Kids weight: Weighted Blanket - KidsTeen & Adult Weight: Weighted Blanket - TeensTime Stamps:00:00 Introduction: Why Mornings and Bedtimes Go Off the Rails00:29 Understanding the January Struggle02:11 The Brain After the Holidays: Why Transitions Are Hard04:31 Why Mornings Are So Hard07:25 Building Resilient Mornings: Practical Tips17:35 Why Bedtimes Fall Apart After the Holidays19:25 Creating Calmer Bedtimes: Practical Tips26:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for ParentsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share Get “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

January is often sold as a “fresh start”, but for many families it feels anything but.In this episode, Ashley explores why January can be emotionally and behaviourally challenging for children, teens, and parents — and why this doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong.Using child development and brain science, this episode reframes January as a nervous-system recovery period, not a time for pressure or perfection.In this episode, we cover:Why children’s nervous systems don’t “reset” after the holidaysHow stress hormones and tired brains affect behaviourWhy emotions often show up before wordsWhy January is particularly tough for teensHow adult expectations can unintentionally increase pressurePractical takeaways:How to spot when behaviour is coming from overload, not defianceWhy gentler routines help children settle fasterSimple ways to support emotional safety during transitionsWhat parents can do when January feels heavy for everyoneKey reminder:January isn’t a failure.It’s a biologically and developmentally demanding time for growing brains.🎧 Share this episode with a parent who feels like they’re “behind” this month — they’re not.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and New Year Greetings00:51 Why January Feels Harder02:00 The Myth of the Fresh Start03:57 Brain Development and January Struggles07:13 Why January Is Harder for Teens11:02 Behavioural Changes and Communication13:40 Supporting Kids and Teens in January19:37 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

How do we cultivate motivation at any age? In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello explores how to foster motivation in children, teens, and adults. She dives into what drives motivation, including intrinsic and extrinsic factors, and offers strategies to create environments that inspire curiosity, play, identity, and belonging. Special attention is given to supporting neurodivergent minds and the role of community in keeping motivation alive. You’ll leave with practical tips to encourage purposeful action across all stages of life.You’ll HearThe difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivationHow motivation develops and changes from childhood through adulthoodPractical strategies for motivating younger childrenApproaches for supporting teens in finding purpose and engagementTips for adults to maintain drive and progress in personal and professional goalsHow neurodivergent minds experience motivation differentlyThe importance of community and connection in sustaining motivationReal-life examples and actionable tips for every age groupTimestamps00:00 – Introduction and Podcast Overview01:10 – Understanding Motivation: A Recap02:50 – Motivation Across Different Ages03:08 – Motivating Younger Children05:38 – Motivating Teens09:42 – Motivation in Adults12:02 – Neurodivergence and Motivation24:35 – The Power of Community and Connection28:12 – Real-Life Examples and Practical Tips35:53 – Final Thoughts and ConclusionFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or reach out if you’d like to get involved in creating stronger, motivated communities for children, teens, and adults alike.

Why do we put things off, even when we want to get them done? In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello unpacks procrastination—what drives it, what’s really happening in the brain, and how to move from avoidance to action. You’ll learn why procrastination isn’t laziness but emotional resistance, and get practical tools to help kids, teens, and adults push past it with purpose and progress.You’ll HearWhy procrastination is emotional, not a sign of lazinessThe three emotional roots of procrastination: fear, overwhelm, and disconnectionHow the brain’s amygdala triggers avoidanceTools to break the cycle: chunking, the five-minute rule, the Pomodoro technique, and body doublingHow to connect tasks to your deeper “why” for lasting motivationReal-life stories from students and adults overcoming procrastinationA reflection exercise to help you and your kids take the next stepTimestamps00:00 – Why Procrastination Isn’t Laziness01:00 – What Happens in the Brain When We Resist Tasks02:00 – Emotional Roots: Fear, Overwhelm, and Lack of Connection05:00 – Turning Resistance Into Action06:00 – Tool 1: Chunking Big Tasks into Small Steps07:00 – Tool 2: The Five-Minute Rule08:00 – Tool 3: The Pomodoro Technique10:00 – Tool 4: Body Doubling for Accountability12:00 – Why “Finding Your Why” Matters15:00 – Examples: Students, Professionals, and Parents Reconnecting with Purpose19:00 – Lucy’s Story: From Paralysis to Progress23:00 – Reflection Exercise: Write Your Why Statement24:00 – Pairing Strategy with Purpose25:00 – What’s Next: Motivation at Different Life StagesFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or drop us a message if you’d like to get involved in reaching more children.

What really drives us? In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello kicks off a mini-series on motivation. She explains what fuels motivation, what blocks it, and how kids, teens, and adults can build more of it in daily life. From brain science to practical tools, you’ll learn how motivation really works and how to support it at home, in school, and at work.You’ll HearThe difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivationWhy internal motivation lasts longer than external rewardsHow dopamine helps us feel progress and momentumThe three keys of self-determination theory: autonomy, competence, and relatednessReal-world examples for kids, teens, and adultsA story of how linking revision to a bigger purpose helped a teen thriveA reflection exercise to spot your own intrinsic motivatorsTimestamps00:00 – What Drives Us and Why Motivation Matters01:00 – Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation02:00 – Why Intrinsic Motivation is Stronger03:00 – Dopamine and the Brain’s Role04:00 – Self-Determination Theory Explained06:00 – Autonomy: Having a Sense of Choice07:00 – Competence: Building Skills and Confidence10:00 – Relatedness: Connection and Support15:00 – Why Some Environments Boost Motivation16:00 – A Teen’s Story: From Bribes to Purpose18:00 – Reflection Exercise to Find Your Motivators19:00 – What’s Next in the Motivation Mini-SeriesFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or drop us a message if you’d like to get involved in reaching more children.

Burnout isn’t just for adults. Kids and teens feel it too. In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello explores how to spot early warning signs of burnout, why it happens, and what parents and teachers can do to help children reset and build resilience.You’ll HearThe difference between normal tiredness and true burnoutEarly red flags such as loss of motivation, mood swings, and withdrawalWhy neurodivergent children may be more at riskCommon causes of burnout in schools and at homeSimple strategies to reduce pressure and create downtimeHow rest, decompression, and self-care support recoveryTimestamps00:00 – Spotting Early Signs of Burnout in Kids and Teens00:35 – What Burnout Looks Like in Children01:31 – Personal Story of Recognizing Burnout04:01 – Warning Signs to Watch For09:25 – Causes of Burnout in Kids and Teens15:27 – Strategies to Support Kids and Teens20:47 – Recap and Key Takeaways21:56 – Invitation to Join Our CommunityFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or drop us a message if you’d like to get involved in reaching more children.

Friendships play a huge role in your child’s confidence, happiness, and learning. In this episode of the Back to School mini podcast series, we explore how friendships change as children grow, the pressures of online life, and how you can support your child to feel connected and resilient.You’ll HearWhy even one good friend protects against stress, anxiety, and bullyingHow friendships boost confidence and academic performanceWhat changes in friendships look like from primary to secondary schoolWays to guide kids through peer pressure and online challengesPractical tips to build social skills and resilienceHow to support without stepping in too quicklyTimestamps00:00 – Introduction to the Podcast Series01:04 – The Importance of Friendships01:39 – Friendship Dynamics in Primary School04:35 – Challenges in High School Friendships07:44 – Navigating Online and Peer Pressure09:49 – Helping Kids and Teens Build Social Skills18:40 – Parental Role in Supporting Friendships22:55 – Conclusion and Merchandise AnnouncementFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukNew MerchandiseWe’ve partnered with Rachel to create a range of supportive and fun items for kids and parents. Expect weighted blankets with affirmations, hoodies with fidget ties, mugs with bold logos, and more. To join the priority list for early access, email us at hq@theresilientkid.co.uk or ashley@theresilientkid.co.uk.

The school year is here in full swing—and with it, the return of chaotic mornings, rushed evenings, and tired kids. But it doesn’t have to feel so stressful.In this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, we talk about simple, practical routines that help your home feel calmer while giving your kids and teens the predictability they need to thrive.You’ll hear:Why routines matter for kids and adults alikeHow sleep resets can transform mornings (and why teens aren’t lazy—they’re wired differently)Practical morning tips: charts, clothes prep, and no screens before breakfastAfter-school decompression strategies that prevent meltdownsWays to hand over responsibility to teens without constant naggingWhy connection beats perfection when it comes to parentingA simple question to ask your family: “What’s one small shift that would help us all breathe easier?”You’ll also get updates on The Resilient Kid’s teacher training, exciting new merch, and where to find us at the upcoming Peace Festival.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeTimestamps00:00 – Back to school vibes: the return of routine01:17 – Why routines reduce stress for kids and adults03:10 – Sleep reset: foundations for calmer mornings05:00 – Morning hacks: charts, prep, and no-screen rule09:32 – After-school routines: decompression and homework15:11 – Teen independence and responsibility19:36 – Parent mindset: connection over perfection22:20 – Quick family question to reset routines24:05 – Updates: teacher training wins and new merch27:40 – Peace Festival announcement and invite30:15 – Closing: embrace rhythm and flow, not rigid rulesUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

The back-to-school season brings big emotions—not just for kids, but for parents too. In this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, we dive into how families can manage the wobbles that come with new teachers, timetable changes, friendships, and transitions to high school, college, or university.You’ll hear:Why mental health challenges are rising among children and teensSigns of stress to look out for (clinginess, stomach aches, irritability, withdrawal)Practical tools like hot chocolate breathing, pocket anchors, and calming playlistsHow to use journaling and simple mindset shifts to reduce worriesTips for parents: short goodbyes at drop-off, open-ended questions with teens, and holding back judgmentThe message: every child’s path looks different, and that’s okay. Whether your child is starting primary school, navigating the shift to high school, or preparing for university, you’ll leave with practical ways to support them—and yourself—through the transition.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 – Introduction to Back-to-School Emotions00:40 – Summer reflections and the shift into September01:52 – Rising child mental health statistics02:55 – Understanding back-to-school wobbles03:31 – Practical hacks and routines for a smoother start04:22 – Friendships, confidence, and belonging09:59 – Recognizing signs of stress and anxiety13:52 – Emotional regulation tools for kids and teens22:47 – Parent and carer tips for drop-offs and conversations28:41 – Final encouragement and supportUseful Links Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Navigating Consent, Sex, and Safety at University Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist and founder of The Resilient Kid, discusses the importance of understanding consent, safe sex, and personal boundaries for young adults transitioning to university. She addresses the challenges posed by new freedoms, social media, and substance use, and underscores the crucial need for open communication and education on these topics to ensure students' emotional and physical well-being. Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Consent and Safety 01:04 Why Discuss Consent Before Uni? 02:32 Understanding Consent: The FRIES Model 02:52 The Importance of Clear and Enthusiastic Consent 03:14 Navigating Intoxication and Consent 04:00 Consent in Relationships 04:57 Teaching Boundaries and Respect 07:54 The Importance of Safe Sex 11:24 Emotional and Physical Wellbeing 15:23 Practical Tips for Parents 22:29 Conclusion and ResourcesUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Join psychotherapist Ashley Costello on the Resilient Kid Podcast as she discusses how to support your kids transitioning to university without smothering them. Covering the emotional challenges parents face, Ashley provides practical advice on maintaining connections, recognizing when to step in, and empowering young adults to manage their new responsibilities. With tips on creative communication and helping during stressful times, this episode aims to help parents and their children navigate this significant life change.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 Introduction: Supporting Your Kids at University00:38 Adjusting to the Empty Nest02:38 Maintaining Connection Without Control03:58 Creative Ways to Stay Connected08:42 When to Step In: Recognizing the Signs10:01 Empowering Independence14:47 Adapting to Change: Staying Curious18:15 Conclusion: Embracing the JourneyUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Essential Life Skills for University-Bound TeensIn this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello discusses the essential life skills that 18-year-olds need before leaving for university. The episode covers fundamental areas such as cooking, laundry, cleaning, financial confidence, and healthcare.Ashley provides practical advice on how to equip teens with the resourcefulness and confidence to handle these aspects of independent living, ensuring they can thrive and remain safe while away from home. The episode emphasizes the importance of preparation and ongoing conversations between parents and their soon-to-be university students.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeTimestamps00:00 Introduction: Preparing for University Life01:10 Essential Domestic Skills: Cooking Basics06:59 Laundry Lessons: Keeping Clothes Clean08:58 Cleaning and Household Maintenance12:01 Financial Confidence: Budgeting and Jobs19:30 Administrative Skills: Adulting 10120:57 Healthcare and Safety: Staying Healthy and Safe25:09 Conclusion: Future-Proofing Your KidsUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

This episode dives into the emotional turmoil parents face when their teens prepare to leave for university. It addresses the mixed emotions involved for both parents and children, tips on emotional preparation, and the importance of maintaining open communication. The host also highlights the significance of teaching coping mechanisms and offers practical advice to manage this significant transition period.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 Introduction: The Emotional Whirlwind of Letting Go01:43 Understanding the Emotional Cocktail05:12 Invisible Backpack: Silent Expectations10:44 Preparing for the Emotional Transition12:11 Practical Tips for Emotional Resilience16:43 Encouraging Independence and Connection21:58 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Practical TipsUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Ashley discusses the importance of teaching children and teens about money with Leslie Thomas, the founder of the Money Confidence Academy. Leslie emphasizes the lack of financial education in schools and highlights her mission to improve financial literacy and mindset for young peopleFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeTimestamps00:00 Introduction: Talking to Kids About Money00:11 Meet Leslie Thomas: Money Confidence Expert00:38 The Importance of Financial Education04:48 The Emotional Side of Money07:38 The Influence of Marketing and Social Media12:07 Teaching Kids Financial Responsibility17:25 Practical Tips for Parents33:05 Leslie's Resources and Final Thoughts36:39 Conclusion and FarewellGuest LinksAcademy - https://www.themoneyconfidenceacademy.com Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/wheremindsetgoesmoneygrows Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamlesley_thomas LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesley-thomas Book Waitlist 2025 - https://lesleyathomas.kartra.com/page/book-waitlist-2025 Money at Home Sales Course - https://lesleyathomas.kartra.com/page/money-at-home-salesUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

We explore the various types of boundary violations that children may face and the importance of teaching them how to recognize and uphold these boundaries. Covering aspects such as physical, emotional, intellectual, and social media boundaries, we discuss strategies to help children manage their emotions, build empathy, and develop healthier relationships. Our goal is to future-proof kids by raising emotionally intelligent and resilient young adults.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeTimestamps00:00 Introduction to Boundaries02:03 Physical Boundaries and Personal Space02:55 Emotional Boundaries and Guilt Tripping03:56 Time and Overcommitment05:54 Intellectual Boundaries and Respecting Opinions06:45 Material Exploitation and Respect08:35 Digital Boundaries and Social Media11:28 Boundaries at School12:41 Family Boundaries and Respect13:54 Teaching Kids the Language of Boundaries16:17 Assertiveness vs. Aggression17:25 The Importance of Setting Boundaries21:40 Long-term Benefits of Strong Boundaries23:10 Conclusion and Next Week's PreviewUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Teaching Boundaries to Kids: Essential Lessons for Emotional Health and ResilienceIn this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, host Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster, addresses the crucial topic of teaching boundaries to children.The podcast begins with a personal anecdote involving a technical glitch during a call with her virtual assistant, Chantelle, which segues into the importance of boundaries.Ashley discusses various types of boundaries - emotional, physical, verbal, sexual, time, and material - explaining why each is vital for children's development. The episode provides strategies for teaching these boundaries, emphasizing the need for parents and guardians to respect and model them.Ashley concludes by highlighting the role of boundaries in fostering self-respect, healthy relationships, stress reduction, and self-care.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/products/courses/view/1167222Timestamps00:00 Welcome and Introduction03:04 The Importance of Boundaries05:16 Types of Boundaries05:29 Emotional Boundaries06:22 Physical Boundaries09:49 Verbal Boundaries11:52 Sexual Boundaries14:52 Time Boundaries16:49 Material Boundaries19:01 Why Boundaries Matter22:10 Violating Boundaries27:43 Teaching Boundaries to Kids31:10 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, host Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist and TEDx speaker, discusses the importance of parenting on the same page. She highlights that consistent and aligned parenting, whether done co-operatively by married, separated, or solo parents, creates a sense of safety and security for children.The episode delves into common areas where co-parents might clash, such as discipline, sleep routines, tech independence, and academics. Ashley emphasizes the need for intentional and collaborative parenting strategies and introduces an exercise where parents list their 'wants, needs, and non-negotiables' to foster agreement on key family values and boundaries.The episode also offers practical advice for maintaining consistency in solo parenting and co-parenting in different households while ensuring the emotional and mental well-being of children. Finally, Ashley shares tips on involving older children and teens in the decision-making process and suggests revisiting the agreed-upon values periodically to adapt to changing family dynamics.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/products/courses/view/1167222Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Parenting on the Same Page01:24 The Importance of Consistency for Children's Safety04:08 Common Areas of Parenting Clashes06:33 Creating a Unified Parenting Strategy08:13 Practical Exercises for Parents15:07 Involving Children in the Process22:36 Handling Parenting Differences in Various Situations27:16 Final Thoughts and EncouragementUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk