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With Ruby O’BrienIn this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley speaks with an inspiring young leader, Ruby O'Brien and winner of the Womanifest Future Voice Award.Ruby perfectly represents the heart of this podcast series, Only Takes One Person — because behind her journey is a youth worker who asked two powerful words that changed everything:“Why not?”As a young carer growing up in Knowsley, Ruby carried significant responsibility at home and struggled to trust people after a difficult experience in her family. But when a youth worker named Jack encouraged her to step into a youth group and later apply for Youth Parliament, Ruby began to realise something powerful:Her voice mattered.Today, Ruby has spent two years representing young people in her role as Youth MP, including speaking in the House of Commons and championing issues that matter to young people, including mental health, education, and community empowerment.In this conversation, Ruby shares how one person believing in her helped her find the confidence to step forward — and how she now hopes to be that person for other young people.She also talks about her latest campaign to raise £20,000 for an accessible lift at the Epstein Theatre in Liverpool, after witnessing wheelchair users unable to access the stage at a youth event.For Ruby, the message is simple:Accessibility is a right, not an option.This episode is a powerful reminder that when young people feel heard, supported, and believed in, incredible things can happen.And sometimes… it only takes one person.In this episodeRuby’s journey to becoming Knowsley’s Youth MPHow a youth worker helped her believe in herselfThe experience of growing up as a young carerFinding confidence and using your voiceRuby’s campaign for accessibility at the Epstein TheatreWhy young people must be heard in decision-makingRuby’s message to young people“If you’ve got a dream, go for it. If you fail, that’s not failure — it means you tried.”A reflection for listenersWho was the person who believed in you?The teacher, youth worker, coach, parent, or mentor who saw something in you before you saw it yourself.Because resilience isn’t built alone.And sometimes… it only takes one person.Time Stamps:00:00 One Person Matters01:03 Meet Ruby OBrien02:30 Youth Parliament Mission04:38 Finding Her Voice05:38 Jack The Turning Point08:16 From Fear To Leadership13:09 Confidence And Purpose15:37 Accessibility Lift Campaign20:10 How Adults Can Help23:50 Whats Next For Ruby28:31 Gratitude And ClosingFind all the resources in our Listeners Lounge:https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeYoutube Link: https://youtu.be/Mfoof6Spxck Spotify Link:Ruby's LinksInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/ruby_knowsleymyp LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruby-o-brien-22a157335Campaign Link- https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/ruby-obrien-1 Useful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

We often hear the phrase “It takes a village to raise a child.” And while community matters, research consistently shows something powerful: the single greatest protective factor in a child’s life is one stable, supportive adult.One person who believes in them.One person who advocates for them.One person who stays steady when life feels uncertain.This episode launches a brand-new series on The Resilient Kid Podcast called Only Takes One Person.Fresh off the stage after winning the Heart of the Community Award, Ashley reflects on the power of advocacy, connection, and the ripple effect one person can have on a life.In this opening episode, Ashley shares a deeply personal story about her Auntie Vera (Vee) — the woman who stepped in and advocated for her when she was just 21 years old.After finishing her psychology degree, Ashley had applied for a counselling course, only to be told she was too young to be accepted. While Ashley was travelling in South America, her Auntie Vee received the call from the course professor.Rather than accepting the decision quietly, Vee stood up for her niece.She explained the experiences Ashley had already navigated in life — growing up in a multi-generational family, supporting grandparents, and witnessing her father’s mental health struggles — and why those experiences had shaped her desire to help others.That moment of advocacy changed everything.Ashley became the youngest person ever accepted onto the course, beginning a journey that has now spanned 30 years of supporting children, families and schools.But this episode isn’t just about one phone call.It’s about the profound impact one person can have on a young life.Whether that person is a parent, teacher, mentor, coach or relative — a single relationship can change a child’s sense of safety, belief, and possibility.Through The Resilient Kid programme, Ashley and her team hope to be that person for many of the children and families they support.Because sometimes, the biggest changes begin with the smallest moments of belief.In this episode, we explore:Why one supportive adult is the strongest protective factor for childrenA personal story about advocacy and opportunityHow belief from others shapes confidence and resilienceWhy the work of supporting children is often about showing up consistentlyThe ripple effect one person can create across a lifetimeA reflection for listenersWho was the person who believed in you?A parent, teacher, coach, mentor, grandparent or friend who saw something in you before you fully saw it yourself?We would love to hear your story.Because resilience isn’t built in isolation.It’s built in connection.And sometimes… it only takes one person.Coming up nextIn the next episode of the series, Ashley will be joined by a special guest who will share the story of their one person and the impact that relationship had on their life.Time Stamps:00:00 One Person Matters01:00 Series Kickoff01:13 Heart of Community Night02:34 Why This Series Exists03:29 Auntie V Advocates06:22 Bread as Currency08:28 Coaches and Teachers10:16 Advocacy in Schools12:36 Parents Need Allies14:17 Your Person Reflection15:44 Closing and Call InFind all the resources in our Listeners Lounge:https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

The Power of Dads, Community & ConnectionWith Rob from Davenham & Macclesfield Dads ClubWhat does it really mean to be a dad in 2026?In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I’m joined by Rob, founder of Davenham Dads Club and Macclesfield Dads Club, to talk about modern fatherhood, male mental health, and why community matters more than ever.This isn’t about criticising schools, families, or men.It’s about recognising the quiet pressure many fathers carry — and why safe spaces to talk are no longer optional. They’re essential.Drawing from lived experience, community work, and honest conversation, we explore what resilience really looks like for dads — and why confident, regulated adults raise confident, regulated children.In this episode, we explore:The quiet loneliness many dads carryThe stigma around men talking about emotionsMiscarriage and dads being “left behind” in griefWhy boys need love, time, and strong role modelsThe power of roughhousing, play, and presenceHow dads build confidence differentlyWhy regulated adults raise regulated childrenHow a simple “safe space to talk” is quietly changing livesKey Takeaway:Resilience isn’t built in isolation.It’s built in community.And sometimes it starts with two hours, once a month.Who This Episode Is For:Dads feeling isolated or overwhelmedPartners who want fathers to feel supportedParents raising boys who need emotionally healthy male role modelsSchool leaders thinking about community wellbeingAnyone who believes children deserve emotionally regulated adults around themIf This Episode ResonatedPlease consider sharing this episode.Your shares help these conversations reach the dads who may never ask for help — but deeply need it.🎧 Share this episode with someone who quietly carries more than they show.Spotify – Listen here YouTube – Watch here Time Stamps:00:00 What does it mean to be a dad in 2026?00:58 Meet Rob & The Dads Club Story02:35 The Soup Pitch & Why Humility Matters04:12 How Dads Club Started06:20 The Safe Space in the Pub08:45 Building a Support Network11:30 Why Dads Stay Silent14:02 Miscarriage, Grief & Men Being Left Behind17:10 Rebuilding Community for Men19:42 WhatsApp Community Wins22:05 What Dads Bring to Confidence Building25:30 Roughhousing, Feral Play & Boundaries28:40 What Boys Need Most From Dads32:55 What Rob Hopes His Sons Will Say One Day35:10 Where to Find Dads Club37:00 Final ReflectionsFind all the resources in our Listeners Lounge: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Rob’s LinksFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586925473953 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davenham_dads_club/ Email: robertvgarner@hotmail.com Useful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share Get “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957 Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

As my youngest turns 16 and prepares for his final year of school, I found myself reflecting on a bigger question:Are we building systems that nurture who young people are becoming — or are we asking them to constantly adapt to pressure?In this episode, I explore the growing gap between academic performance structures and emotional wellbeing support in education. This isn’t about criticising schools — far from it. Schools are not failing. They are stretched.Drawing from our CPD work, Resilient Schools training, and research into teen brain development, I unpack:Why burnout is showing up younger than everWhy behaviour often reflects nervous system overloadHow performance pressure can narrow creativityWhy belonging is a protective factor for mental healthAnd what preventative resilience work really looks likeIn this episode, we cover:Why February fatigue is real for children and staffThe neuroscience of teen risk-taking and impulse controlEmotional containment in classroomsThe difference between reactive and preventative supportWhy disengagement from education is often a signal, not defianceThe importance of strengthening emotional scaffolding around academic systemsPractical takeaways:We don’t need to dismantle the education system.We need to strengthen the emotional scaffolding around it.Resilience isn’t a “nice to have.”It’s foundational.Key reminder:You are not burning out because you are weak.You are burning out because you care deeply inside a system that rarely slows down.The goal is not to care less.The goal is to protect yourself while you care.Who This Episode Is For:Parents navigating anxiety or school-related stressTeachers carrying emotional load in the classroomSchool leaders thinking about whole-school wellbeingTherapists, coaches, and professionals who feel the gap in supportAnyone who believes young people deserve both achievement and emotional safetyResources & SupportIf this episode resonated with you:Share it with a school leader or colleagueStart a conversation in your setting about preventative resilienceOr reach out to explore how The Resilient Kid framework could support your communityBecause young people don’t just need standards.They need scaffolding.Time Stamps:00:00 Education vs Emotional Wellbeing: The Growing Gap00:14 A Personal Reflection: Watching My Son Grow Up01:13 Schools Aren’t Failing—They’re Overstretched02:14 What Teachers Are Really Doing Now (Beyond Teaching)04:12 Where’s the Emotional Scaffolding? From Rote Learning to Regulation05:20 Psychological Safety & the Shock of High School Transition06:48 Lunch on the Run: The Hidden Stressors Kids ‘Put Up With’08:05 Reactive vs Preventative: What Teen Brain Science Tells Us10:38 Creativity, Identity & Why Performance Culture Breaks Kids12:29 Disengagement & ‘School Refusal’: A Belonging and Safety Issue14:11 What Needs to Change: Shared Language, Staff Training, Prevention15:04 A Model That Worked: Preventative Wellbeing in an Abu Dhabi School16:31 The Resilient Kid Framework: Partnering With Schools to Fill the Gap17:59 Call to Educators & Helpers: The Gap Is Real—and It’s an Opportunity19:04 Closing Message: Support Builds Resilience (Not Pressure)20:07 Thanks for Listening + Get In Touch / Join the PodcastFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

The Hidden Emotional Labour of School Staff (And Why It’s Breaking You)🎙️ The Hidden Emotional Labour of School Staff (And Why It’s Breaking You)Teachers and school staff are walking out of buildings every day completely exhausted — not because the day was dramatic, but because it was relentless.In this episode, Ashley explores the hidden emotional labour inside schools — the constant co-regulation, emotional containment, and nervous system management that rarely gets acknowledged but leaves staff mentally and physically depleted.If you’re a teacher, TA, SENCO, pastoral lead, or school-based professional who goes home emotionally drained and unable to switch off, this episode explains why — and what you can do about it.In this episode, we cover: What emotional labour in schools really means Why supporting dysregulated children drains your nervous system The difference between busy-tired and emotionally exhausted Why compassionate staff are most at risk of burnout The difference between empathy and absorbing Why burnout isn’t weakness — it’s sustained emotional outputWhy school staff feel so drainedSupporting children with behaviour, trauma, and regulation needs requires calm tone, steady presence, and emotional containment. Staff regulate multiple nervous systems before reaching their own.Without space to reset, this creates nervous system overload.This isn’t about resilience. It’s sustained emotional output without protection.Practical takeaways: Separate empathy from absorbing — ask “Is this mine or theirs?” Close emotional loops after difficult moments Use short nervous system resets between interactions Build one low-demand moment into your day Name the emotional load instead of suppressing it Create a transition ritual before going homeKey reminder:You are not burning out because you are weak.You are burning out because you care deeply in a system that rarely slows down.The goal isn’t to care less — it’s to protect yourself while you care.Who This Episode Is For: Teachers and teaching assistants SENCOs and pastoral leads School leaders School-based professionals working with childrenResources & SupportIf you’d like support with emotional regulation, nervous system tools, or CPD for your school, explore Ashley’s work at The Resilient Kid, including workshops, training, and the Resilient Kid Programme.Visit: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukIf This Episode HelpedPlease consider sharing it with a teacher, TA, or school professional who may need to hear they’re not failing — they’re carrying a lot.🎧 Share this episode with someone who walks out of school exhausted but still deeply cares.Spotify –YouTube –Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and Apologies00:16 Understanding Emotional Labour in Schools02:29 The Impact on School Staff03:49 Recognising Burnout08:26 Managing Emotional Labour13:24 Transition Rituals17:57 Final ThoughtsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

More children are starting school without the skills they need to feel confident, settled, and ready to learn — and it’s not because parents don’t care.In this episode, Ashley explores why so many nursery-aged children are being described as “not school ready,” what professionals across early years and education are seeing, and how small, everyday changes at home can make a big difference.With warmth, honesty, and practical guidance, this episode covers speech and language development, independence, toileting, screen use, and the simple skills that truly prepare children for school — without panic, blame, or unrealistic expectations.In this episode, we cover:What “school readiness” really means (and what it doesn’t)Why more children are struggling with communication, regulation, and independenceThe rise in speech and language delays in nursery-aged childrenWhy toilet training is an important part of school readinessThe impact of screen use on communication and social skillsWhy iPads at the table don’t support language developmentHow independence, turn-taking, and conversation build confidenceWhat parents can do — practically and gently — to support readiness at homeWhy school readiness isn’t about pushing children faster, but building strong foundationsPractical takeaways:Create screen-free mealtimes to encourage conversationPractise turn-taking through games and everyday interactionsSupport toilet training with consistency and gentle leadershipBuild independence through everyday tasksReduce background noise and increase face-to-face interactionFocus on emotional coaching, not perfectionKey reminder:School readiness isn’t about academic ability — it’s about communication, connection, independence, and confidence. Small, consistent changes at home can make a powerful difference in helping children feel safe, capable, and ready for the transition to school.Who This Episode Is For:Parents of nursery and pre-school childrenEarly years practitioners and educatorsParents feeling unsure or worried about school readinessAnyone wanting practical, realistic guidance without judgementResources & SupportIf you’d like more support around emotional regulation, confidence, and helping children feel ready for big transitions, explore Ashley’s work at The Resilient Kid, including workshops, resources, and the Resilient Kid Programme for families and schools.Resources & SupportIf you need support, you can reach out via social media or email ashley@theresilientkid.co.uk. We have an Anxiety Workshop coming up in February for £25, which includes a 60-minute session and a 30-minute Q&A. Sign up here - https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/parent-workshop Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction: The School Readiness Crisis01:31 Understanding School Readiness02:05 Communication and Emotional Regulation02:29 The Role of Independence and Social Skills03:06 Challenges in School Readiness03:33 Impact of Screen Time on Development06:16 Practical Tips for Reducing Screen Time07:29 Building Independence in Daily Routines10:23 Toilet Training: Overcoming the Challenges16:33 Enhancing Speech and Language Skills27:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement31:00 Conclusion and ResourcesFind all the resources in our Listeners Lounge https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Useful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share Get “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957 Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

Low mood in children often shows up in ways that are easy to misinterpret — especially in January.In this Blue Monday week episode, Ashley explores what low mood can look like in children, what’s happening in the brain, and how parents and teachers can respond in ways that support recovery rather than add pressure.This episode is for anyone supporting children at home or in school.In this episode, we cover:How low mood in children often looks like irritability or withdrawalThe difference between low mood and defianceHow stress and reduced daylight affect children’s brainsWhy January increases vulnerability for many childrenHow school and home responses can work togetherPractical takeaways:What genuinely helps children experiencing low moodHow predictability and connection support emotional safetyWhy adjusting demand can be protective, not permissiveWhat well-intentioned responses often make things harderWhen to keep an eye on things and seek extra supportKey reminder:Low mood is information — not failure.And children recover best when the adults around them respond with steadiness, understanding, and connection.🎧 Share this episode with a teacher or parent supporting a child who feels “not quite themselves” right now.Spotify –YouTube –Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction to Low Mood in Kids and Teens00:30 Understanding January Blues02:14 Recognising Low Mood Symptoms03:35 Brain Science Behind Low Mood07:14 Why January Exacerbates Low Mood09:03 Effective Strategies for Parents and Educators16:59 What Not to Do: Common Mistakes19:03 When to Seek Help20:20 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

Mornings and bedtimes often take the biggest hit after the holidays — and this episode explains why.Ashley breaks down what’s happening in children’s brains during transitions, why routines fall apart before they improve, and how parents and carers can support calmer starts and smoother evenings without constant battles.This is a practical, reassuring episode for families who are feeling stretched at the bookends of the day.In this episode, we cover:Why transitions are hard for children’s nervous systemsWhat the prefrontal cortex needs to function well in the morningWhy bedtime resistance increases when children are overtiredThe role of safety and predictability in sleepWhy “trying harder” rarely helps tired brainsPractical takeaways:How to build resilience into mornings without rushing or shoutingSimple changes that reduce decision-fatigueWhy protecting the wind-down matters more than bedtime itselfBody-based strategies that help children settle at nightLanguage that reduces pressure and supports sleepKey reminder:You don’t need perfect mornings or peaceful bedtimes.You need predictable cues, calmer rhythms, and fewer power struggles.🎧 This episode is especially helpful after school holidays or periods of change.Link to buy weighted blankets Ashley spoke about – Kids weight: Weighted Blanket - KidsTeen & Adult Weight: Weighted Blanket - TeensTime Stamps:00:00 Introduction: Why Mornings and Bedtimes Go Off the Rails00:29 Understanding the January Struggle02:11 The Brain After the Holidays: Why Transitions Are Hard04:31 Why Mornings Are So Hard07:25 Building Resilient Mornings: Practical Tips17:35 Why Bedtimes Fall Apart After the Holidays19:25 Creating Calmer Bedtimes: Practical Tips26:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for ParentsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share Get “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

January is often sold as a “fresh start”, but for many families it feels anything but.In this episode, Ashley explores why January can be emotionally and behaviourally challenging for children, teens, and parents — and why this doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong.Using child development and brain science, this episode reframes January as a nervous-system recovery period, not a time for pressure or perfection.In this episode, we cover:Why children’s nervous systems don’t “reset” after the holidaysHow stress hormones and tired brains affect behaviourWhy emotions often show up before wordsWhy January is particularly tough for teensHow adult expectations can unintentionally increase pressurePractical takeaways:How to spot when behaviour is coming from overload, not defianceWhy gentler routines help children settle fasterSimple ways to support emotional safety during transitionsWhat parents can do when January feels heavy for everyoneKey reminder:January isn’t a failure.It’s a biologically and developmentally demanding time for growing brains.🎧 Share this episode with a parent who feels like they’re “behind” this month — they’re not.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and New Year Greetings00:51 Why January Feels Harder02:00 The Myth of the Fresh Start03:57 Brain Development and January Struggles07:13 Why January Is Harder for Teens11:02 Behavioural Changes and Communication13:40 Supporting Kids and Teens in January19:37 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid”: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

How do we cultivate motivation at any age? In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello explores how to foster motivation in children, teens, and adults. She dives into what drives motivation, including intrinsic and extrinsic factors, and offers strategies to create environments that inspire curiosity, play, identity, and belonging. Special attention is given to supporting neurodivergent minds and the role of community in keeping motivation alive. You’ll leave with practical tips to encourage purposeful action across all stages of life.You’ll HearThe difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivationHow motivation develops and changes from childhood through adulthoodPractical strategies for motivating younger childrenApproaches for supporting teens in finding purpose and engagementTips for adults to maintain drive and progress in personal and professional goalsHow neurodivergent minds experience motivation differentlyThe importance of community and connection in sustaining motivationReal-life examples and actionable tips for every age groupTimestamps00:00 – Introduction and Podcast Overview01:10 – Understanding Motivation: A Recap02:50 – Motivation Across Different Ages03:08 – Motivating Younger Children05:38 – Motivating Teens09:42 – Motivation in Adults12:02 – Neurodivergence and Motivation24:35 – The Power of Community and Connection28:12 – Real-Life Examples and Practical Tips35:53 – Final Thoughts and ConclusionFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or reach out if you’d like to get involved in creating stronger, motivated communities for children, teens, and adults alike.

Why do we put things off, even when we want to get them done? In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello unpacks procrastination—what drives it, what’s really happening in the brain, and how to move from avoidance to action. You’ll learn why procrastination isn’t laziness but emotional resistance, and get practical tools to help kids, teens, and adults push past it with purpose and progress.You’ll HearWhy procrastination is emotional, not a sign of lazinessThe three emotional roots of procrastination: fear, overwhelm, and disconnectionHow the brain’s amygdala triggers avoidanceTools to break the cycle: chunking, the five-minute rule, the Pomodoro technique, and body doublingHow to connect tasks to your deeper “why” for lasting motivationReal-life stories from students and adults overcoming procrastinationA reflection exercise to help you and your kids take the next stepTimestamps00:00 – Why Procrastination Isn’t Laziness01:00 – What Happens in the Brain When We Resist Tasks02:00 – Emotional Roots: Fear, Overwhelm, and Lack of Connection05:00 – Turning Resistance Into Action06:00 – Tool 1: Chunking Big Tasks into Small Steps07:00 – Tool 2: The Five-Minute Rule08:00 – Tool 3: The Pomodoro Technique10:00 – Tool 4: Body Doubling for Accountability12:00 – Why “Finding Your Why” Matters15:00 – Examples: Students, Professionals, and Parents Reconnecting with Purpose19:00 – Lucy’s Story: From Paralysis to Progress23:00 – Reflection Exercise: Write Your Why Statement24:00 – Pairing Strategy with Purpose25:00 – What’s Next: Motivation at Different Life StagesFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parent’s Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or drop us a message if you’d like to get involved in reaching more children.

What really drives us? In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello kicks off a mini-series on motivation. She explains what fuels motivation, what blocks it, and how kids, teens, and adults can build more of it in daily life. From brain science to practical tools, you’ll learn how motivation really works and how to support it at home, in school, and at work.You’ll HearThe difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivationWhy internal motivation lasts longer than external rewardsHow dopamine helps us feel progress and momentumThe three keys of self-determination theory: autonomy, competence, and relatednessReal-world examples for kids, teens, and adultsA story of how linking revision to a bigger purpose helped a teen thriveA reflection exercise to spot your own intrinsic motivatorsTimestamps00:00 – What Drives Us and Why Motivation Matters01:00 – Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation02:00 – Why Intrinsic Motivation is Stronger03:00 – Dopamine and the Brain’s Role04:00 – Self-Determination Theory Explained06:00 – Autonomy: Having a Sense of Choice07:00 – Competence: Building Skills and Confidence10:00 – Relatedness: Connection and Support15:00 – Why Some Environments Boost Motivation16:00 – A Teen’s Story: From Bribes to Purpose18:00 – Reflection Exercise to Find Your Motivators19:00 – What’s Next in the Motivation Mini-SeriesFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or drop us a message if you’d like to get involved in reaching more children.

Burnout isn’t just for adults. Kids and teens feel it too. In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello explores how to spot early warning signs of burnout, why it happens, and what parents and teachers can do to help children reset and build resilience.You’ll HearThe difference between normal tiredness and true burnoutEarly red flags such as loss of motivation, mood swings, and withdrawalWhy neurodivergent children may be more at riskCommon causes of burnout in schools and at homeSimple strategies to reduce pressure and create downtimeHow rest, decompression, and self-care support recoveryTimestamps00:00 – Spotting Early Signs of Burnout in Kids and Teens00:35 – What Burnout Looks Like in Children01:31 – Personal Story of Recognizing Burnout04:01 – Warning Signs to Watch For09:25 – Causes of Burnout in Kids and Teens15:27 – Strategies to Support Kids and Teens20:47 – Recap and Key Takeaways21:56 – Invitation to Join Our CommunityFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukJoin Our CommunityWe’re building a space where parents, teachers, and coaches can support each other and share tools to help kids thrive. Visit our Facebook group or drop us a message if you’d like to get involved in reaching more children.

Friendships play a huge role in your child’s confidence, happiness, and learning. In this episode of the Back to School mini podcast series, we explore how friendships change as children grow, the pressures of online life, and how you can support your child to feel connected and resilient.You’ll HearWhy even one good friend protects against stress, anxiety, and bullyingHow friendships boost confidence and academic performanceWhat changes in friendships look like from primary to secondary schoolWays to guide kids through peer pressure and online challengesPractical tips to build social skills and resilienceHow to support without stepping in too quicklyTimestamps00:00 – Introduction to the Podcast Series01:04 – The Importance of Friendships01:39 – Friendship Dynamics in Primary School04:35 – Challenges in High School Friendships07:44 – Navigating Online and Peer Pressure09:49 – Helping Kids and Teens Build Social Skills18:40 – Parental Role in Supporting Friendships22:55 – Conclusion and Merchandise AnnouncementFind all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.ukNew MerchandiseWe’ve partnered with Rachel to create a range of supportive and fun items for kids and parents. Expect weighted blankets with affirmations, hoodies with fidget ties, mugs with bold logos, and more. To join the priority list for early access, email us at hq@theresilientkid.co.uk or ashley@theresilientkid.co.uk.

The school year is here in full swing—and with it, the return of chaotic mornings, rushed evenings, and tired kids. But it doesn’t have to feel so stressful.In this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, we talk about simple, practical routines that help your home feel calmer while giving your kids and teens the predictability they need to thrive.You’ll hear:Why routines matter for kids and adults alikeHow sleep resets can transform mornings (and why teens aren’t lazy—they’re wired differently)Practical morning tips: charts, clothes prep, and no screens before breakfastAfter-school decompression strategies that prevent meltdownsWays to hand over responsibility to teens without constant naggingWhy connection beats perfection when it comes to parentingA simple question to ask your family: “What’s one small shift that would help us all breathe easier?”You’ll also get updates on The Resilient Kid’s teacher training, exciting new merch, and where to find us at the upcoming Peace Festival.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeTimestamps00:00 – Back to school vibes: the return of routine01:17 – Why routines reduce stress for kids and adults03:10 – Sleep reset: foundations for calmer mornings05:00 – Morning hacks: charts, prep, and no-screen rule09:32 – After-school routines: decompression and homework15:11 – Teen independence and responsibility19:36 – Parent mindset: connection over perfection22:20 – Quick family question to reset routines24:05 – Updates: teacher training wins and new merch27:40 – Peace Festival announcement and invite30:15 – Closing: embrace rhythm and flow, not rigid rulesUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk

The back-to-school season brings big emotions—not just for kids, but for parents too. In this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, we dive into how families can manage the wobbles that come with new teachers, timetable changes, friendships, and transitions to high school, college, or university.You’ll hear:Why mental health challenges are rising among children and teensSigns of stress to look out for (clinginess, stomach aches, irritability, withdrawal)Practical tools like hot chocolate breathing, pocket anchors, and calming playlistsHow to use journaling and simple mindset shifts to reduce worriesTips for parents: short goodbyes at drop-off, open-ended questions with teens, and holding back judgmentThe message: every child’s path looks different, and that’s okay. Whether your child is starting primary school, navigating the shift to high school, or preparing for university, you’ll leave with practical ways to support them—and yourself—through the transition.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 – Introduction to Back-to-School Emotions00:40 – Summer reflections and the shift into September01:52 – Rising child mental health statistics02:55 – Understanding back-to-school wobbles03:31 – Practical hacks and routines for a smoother start04:22 – Friendships, confidence, and belonging09:59 – Recognizing signs of stress and anxiety13:52 – Emotional regulation tools for kids and teens22:47 – Parent and carer tips for drop-offs and conversations28:41 – Final encouragement and supportUseful Links Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Navigating Consent, Sex, and Safety at University Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist and founder of The Resilient Kid, discusses the importance of understanding consent, safe sex, and personal boundaries for young adults transitioning to university. She addresses the challenges posed by new freedoms, social media, and substance use, and underscores the crucial need for open communication and education on these topics to ensure students' emotional and physical well-being. Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Consent and Safety 01:04 Why Discuss Consent Before Uni? 02:32 Understanding Consent: The FRIES Model 02:52 The Importance of Clear and Enthusiastic Consent 03:14 Navigating Intoxication and Consent 04:00 Consent in Relationships 04:57 Teaching Boundaries and Respect 07:54 The Importance of Safe Sex 11:24 Emotional and Physical Wellbeing 15:23 Practical Tips for Parents 22:29 Conclusion and ResourcesUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Join psychotherapist Ashley Costello on the Resilient Kid Podcast as she discusses how to support your kids transitioning to university without smothering them. Covering the emotional challenges parents face, Ashley provides practical advice on maintaining connections, recognizing when to step in, and empowering young adults to manage their new responsibilities. With tips on creative communication and helping during stressful times, this episode aims to help parents and their children navigate this significant life change.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 Introduction: Supporting Your Kids at University00:38 Adjusting to the Empty Nest02:38 Maintaining Connection Without Control03:58 Creative Ways to Stay Connected08:42 When to Step In: Recognizing the Signs10:01 Empowering Independence14:47 Adapting to Change: Staying Curious18:15 Conclusion: Embracing the JourneyUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Essential Life Skills for University-Bound TeensIn this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello discusses the essential life skills that 18-year-olds need before leaving for university. The episode covers fundamental areas such as cooking, laundry, cleaning, financial confidence, and healthcare.Ashley provides practical advice on how to equip teens with the resourcefulness and confidence to handle these aspects of independent living, ensuring they can thrive and remain safe while away from home. The episode emphasizes the importance of preparation and ongoing conversations between parents and their soon-to-be university students.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/loungeTimestamps00:00 Introduction: Preparing for University Life01:10 Essential Domestic Skills: Cooking Basics06:59 Laundry Lessons: Keeping Clothes Clean08:58 Cleaning and Household Maintenance12:01 Financial Confidence: Budgeting and Jobs19:30 Administrative Skills: Adulting 10120:57 Healthcare and Safety: Staying Healthy and Safe25:09 Conclusion: Future-Proofing Your KidsUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

This episode dives into the emotional turmoil parents face when their teens prepare to leave for university. It addresses the mixed emotions involved for both parents and children, tips on emotional preparation, and the importance of maintaining open communication. The host also highlights the significance of teaching coping mechanisms and offers practical advice to manage this significant transition period.Find all the resources in our Listeners Loungehttps://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge Timestamps00:00 Introduction: The Emotional Whirlwind of Letting Go01:43 Understanding the Emotional Cocktail05:12 Invisible Backpack: Silent Expectations10:44 Preparing for the Emotional Transition12:11 Practical Tips for Emotional Resilience16:43 Encouraging Independence and Connection21:58 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Practical TipsUseful LinksSign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/shareGet “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkidukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkidLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkidPinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademyYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costelloWebsite: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk