The Erotic Realm

Can humiliation and devotion coexist as love languages?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, M speaks with Petitmortician — a submissive, worshipper, and emotional masochist — about the psychology of male submission, cuckolding, and worship as pathways to self-understanding.We discuss: • The emotional and erotic layers of cuckolding beyond the stereotype. • How humiliation, jealousy, and devotion can coexist in intimacy. • Why research shows cuckolding is a normal and complex sexual expression. • The misunderstood psychology of male submission and worship. • Why pain can be pleasurable for some — and transformative for others. • A message for submissive men seeking freedom through surrender.Research Article: Cuckolding and Troilism: definitions, relational and clinical contexts, emotional and sexual aspects, and neurobiological profiles. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the most powerful phase of your sexuality starts at menopause?In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with MsSugarSpice, a 55-year-old Domme, cuckoldress, and writer who lives a 24/7 female-led relationship. Her story is one of transformation — from repression to erotic power, from silence to soulsexual expression, from wallflower to Dominant.We explore:Female-led relationships: daily rituals, dominance, and devotion.Post-menopause sexuality as an erotic awakening.Cuckolding as intimacy, not humiliation.How kink became a tool for healing after trauma.The importance of sharing erotic wisdom later in lifeand moreResearch Article: Current biopsychosocial science on understanding kink.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when repression breaks open into erotic freedom? In this episode of The Erotic Realm, we meet HelenATL — a submissive and self-described seeker of “erotic intensity.” From a shocking electric chair scene in the 90s to the reawakening of her sexuality after decades of silence, Helen’s story shows us the risks, rewards, and realities of living authentically.We discuss:How yoga and kink reawakened her erotic self after repressionThe challenges and transformations of opening a long-term marriage“Erotic intensity” as a personal kink and altered state of consciousnessWhat research tells us about CNM satisfactionAdvice for those in sexless marriages yearning for integrity and desireand much more!Research Article: What do we know about consensual non-monogamy?Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do people eroticize regression, petplay, and degradation — and what does it mean to be your own Dom?In this episode, Valkyrie shares her journey from Pro-Domme to submissive pet. We explore the misunderstood kinks of ABDL, degradation, and regression, and end with her powerful reflection on self-domination.You’ll hear about:How she shifted from dominating others to surrendering herself — and what that taught her about power.Petplay & ABDL: the emotional logic behind regression, care, and erotic release.Degradation vs. liberation: when words sting, and when they open new erotic truths.Why stigma around “dark” kinks often misses the intimacy behind them.Valkyrie’s insight on being her own Dom — and why every submissive should cultivate inner authority.Research Article: ⁠Sadomasochistically Oriented Behavior: Diversity in Practice and Meaning.⁠Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What's it like to be a disciplinarian?In this episode, MistressBaton — a South African disciplinarian Domme — shares her story of power, discipline, and erotic devotion.We discuss:The spark of sadism and why it’s not always sexual.Misconceptions about sadists and corporal punishment.Research showing BDSM sadists score lower on “dark traits”.Baumeister’s idea of masochism as an escape from the self.What makes a spanking scene unforgettable.and so much more!Research Article: ⁠Trait Sadism in BDSM Practitioners and Non-Practitioners.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does it mean to live a fluid erotic life?In this episode, Sage — a bisexual, polyamorous, sub-leaning switch — shares her journey of fluid identity, queer kink, and erotic psychology. From growing up in an open family to studying deviant behavior, she explores how bisexuality and kink intertwine as paths of liberation and truth.We discuss: Growing up queer in an open family and how it shaped desire Bisexuality, stigma, and freedom in poly + kink spaces Discovering her Dominant side after years as a submissive The psychology of deviant behavior and erotic identity Polyamory, community, and what bisexual switches rarely share Research Article: Bisexuality, pansexuality, queer identity, and kink identityInterested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here. Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you! Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does Mastery really mean? In this episode, Master Xtac — a leatherman, educator, and 24/7 practitioner — opens up about his journey through power exchange, love, and leadership within BDSM.We discuss:• His 12-part teaching series on power exchange and mastery.• Nietzsche’s idea of chaos and creativity in BDSM scenes• BDSM as sexual orientation vs. serious leisure.• How a Master proposes marriage to a slave.• His advice for young Dominants and the legacy of leather culture.Research Article: Is BDSM a Sexual Orientation or Serious Leisure?Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does it mean to step into a 40-year love—and reshape it into a triad of submission, dominance, and devotion?In this third and final part of our relationship series, Iris shares her journey as the third partner of Master MissMarie (episode 31) and MelissaBound (episode 32). From embracing compersion to navigating the psychology of polyamory, Iris brings a unique perspective on love, kink, and erotic care.We explore: How Iris balances submission to MissMarie with domination of MelissaBound. The psychology of compersion vs. jealousy in poly relationships. Cuckquean & cuckcake identities explained through lived experience. The healing power of BDSM. Everyday rituals that keep erotic energy alive in a triad. and much more!Research article: Polyamorous Women, Sexual Desire, and Relationship QualityWant to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What can 40 years of submission teach us about love, chastity, and surrender?In part two of our three-part relationship series, we meet MelissaBound—a bisexual, transgender cuckquean, rope bunny, and collared submissive who has been in a devoted D/s relationship with Master MissMarie for over 40 years.We discuss: Melissa’s journey from her first erotic awakenings to decades of submission in a 24/7 power exchange dynamic. What it truly means to live as a trans cuckquean and how this role shapes her relationships, desires, and erotic psychology. The secret to long-term happiness and devotion in kink, straight from someone who has lived it for over four decades. Melissa’s personal erotic writings that reveal the intimate headspace of a collared submissive. Explore the intersections of gender identity, BDSM roles, and sexual fulfillment for transgender individuals. and much more... Research Article: Sexual Pleasure in Transgender and Gender Diverse Individuals: an Update on Recent Advances in the FieldWant to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How does a Domme stay erotically alive for over 40 years? In this episode, MissMarie shares: Her journey from awakening to ascension as a lifelong Domme What it means to collar and guide a partner through decades of growth The role of queerness, chosen family, and community recognition Her personal philosophy of “bottoming from the top” How sadism, ritual, and reaction all fuel her pleasure Research Article: Playing on the Edge: Sadomasochism, Risk, and IntimacyWant to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does it mean to create an erotic space—not just play inside one?In this episode, we meet Gala, the Mum of Hedon House—a queer BDSM sanctuary designed for ritual, pleasure, and deep erotic inquiry. We discuss her philosophy of erotic hospitality, how she curates objects and atmosphere for psychological safety, and why perversion can be a path to power.We explore:What it means to be a “pervert” as a creative, ethical identity.The difference between producing eroticism vs. performing it.Why design is a form of invisible consent.The healing power of queer BDSM sanctuaries.How being the Mum of Hedon House has shaped Gala’s erotic philosophy.And moreResearch Article: Kinky & Queer: Exploring Experiences of LGBTQ+ Individuals Who Practice BDSM.Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does it mean to turn a whip into a language of power, rhythm, and connection?Master Dex is a 69-year-old BDSM educator, author, and Dominant with over 25 years in the lifestyle. From his background in dance to his reverence for the singletail whip, Dex brings a spiritual and artistic lens to impact play.We explore:Whipping as language, ritual, and orchestration.The connection between dance and whipping.BDSM’s psychological depth, not just its physicality.Legacy, aging, and passing on erotic knowledge.and much more!Research Article: Pleasure, power, and pain: A review of the literature on the experiences of BDSM participants.Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if submission was the most radical thing you could do?Gender-nonconforming writer and kink educator Auntie Vice joins The Erotic Realm for a powerful conversation on erotic resistance, queer identity, and rewriting sexual norms.We discuss:How bisexuality, gender nonconformity, and submissive identity intersect.The slap that changed everything—and sparked a feminist reckoning.Practical wisdom on writing kink, navigating desire as a public educator, and choosing who to submit to.Auntie Vice’s upcoming book on kink & mental health, and why the personal is always political.Research Book: Techniques of Pleasure: BDSM and the Circuits of SexualityWant to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a photographer sees desire not just as an act — but as an art? In this visually charged episode, we enter the mind of JC Stark, founder of Fet-Erotica as he shares his journey into erotic photography, shibari, and oral fixation.We discuss:Why shibari changed how JC saw kink.The birth of fet-erotica.How Fet-Erotica chooses its themes & images.The deeper meaning of oral fixation—and how it shows up in his work.and more!Research Article: Mainstreaming kink: The politics of BDSM representation in US popular media.Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? ⁠Link here.⁠Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does healthy masculinity look like in a world of dominance, sadism, and polyamory? In this episode, Melbourne-based kinkster Biker Bear shares his journey through power, pleasure, and queer identity. We discuss:The Key Elements of Healthy MasculinityElectrical play as erotic connectionWhy dominance isn’t control — it’s presenceSadism as serious identityA lived critique of toxic masculinityand more!Research Article: Rethinking Kink: Sadomasochism as Serious LeisurePsychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do we write what we desire? In this literary deep-dive, Carly — founder of Aurore — joins me to explore erotic storytelling as a path to self-discovery, healing, and expression.We discuss: The transition from dominance to submission Reclaiming power after abuse Feminism, shame & desire The psychology behind erotic writing AURORE’s birth as a confessional community Research Article: Relationship between Sexual Fantasy, Sexual Communication, Personality Traits and Sexual Satisfaction in Married Individuals.To enter the giveaway take these 3 steps:1. Subscribe to Aurore's Substack here.2. Subscribe to Psychology of Desire Substack here.3. AND comment on the podcast episode on Substack here.Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? Link here.Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How is a Dominant different to Andrew Tate? Can a Dominant be romantic? Master Arcane, founder of The Crow Academy, shares his journey through love, power, and full-time dominance in a decade-long Master/slave relationship. This follow-up to Daphne’s episode explores healthy D/s, toxic dominance myths, and the deep emotional rituals behind real BDSM.We discuss: Arcane’s early BDSM dreams and the formation of The Crow Academy. Why he believes dominance is an act of love, not control. Rituals and philosophies behind long-term power exchange. How BDSM can be deeply romantic, not just erotic. The difference between healthy D/s and toxic "Red Pill" models. What he wishes more people asked about being a Dominant. Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you! Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. ⁠⁠Inquire here.⁠⁠ Thanks for listening! M See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does it mean to be both a feminist and a slave?In this episode, we explore the emotional, psychological, and erotic architecture of 24/7 submission with Daphne, a collared slave of Master Arcane and educator of The Crow Academy for over 10 years.We discuss:• Reconciling feminism and submission.• Daily rituals of devotion and service.• Erotic transformation through power exchange.• Star Wars roleplay and kink identity.• Concerns about the manosphere in kink spaces.…and more!PLUS stay tuned for next week's episode where Master Arcane shares his side of the relationship in part 2!Research Article: Navigation of Feminist and Submissive Identity by Women in the BDSM Community: A Structured Literature ReviewDon't miss the first Psychology of Desire Case File, "The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins", released last week on Substack. It’s the perfect companion to last weeks episode — diving deeper into the neuroscience, symbolism, and origins of foot fetishism. The Case Files are a new series unpacking specific kinks and patterns of desire through research and lived experience. ⁠Link here⁠.Emma is also offering two presale courses:Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. ⁠Link here.⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!MSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What is it about feet?In this episode we explore the psychology, sensuality, and stigma of foot fetishes with 53-year-old fetishist and photographer Larry.We discuss: Early foot memories Where he thinks his fetish comes from The different types of foot fetishists The visual appeal of soles The neuroscience behind foot-based arousal. and more! PLUS — M announces her first Psychology of Desire Case File, "The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins", out tomorrow on Substack. It’s the perfect companion to this episode — diving deeper into the neuroscience, symbolism, and origins of foot fetishism. The Case Files are a new series unpacking specific kinks and patterns of desire through research and lived experience. Link here.M is also offering two presale courses:Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.Research Article: Relative prevalence of different fetishes.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.Thanks for listening!MSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mo also known online as Darkest Mercy is a 22 year old goth, queer Domme and evolving kinkster who joins The Erotic Realm to talk about desire, darkness, and the erotic power of blasphemy.We explore:What it means to be a Demoness Domme.Finding erotic beauty in the macabre.Why taboo, sacrilege, and shadow work can be healing.Queer kink identity, mentorship, and transformation.Highlights from Mo’s kink bucket list (yes, she reads it out loud!).Research Article: A thematic analysis of a sample of partnered lesbian, gay, and bisexual people’s concepts of sexual satisfaction.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!MSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.