Clean Your Toilet Podcast

What does it mean to rebuild your life when society only remembers your worst mistake?In this episode of Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Andrew Ong, co-founder of Break The Cycle, chats with Brenda Ng, Chief Fun(d) Officer, The Facilitators Project & Forest School coach, about incarceration, reintegration, and what it truly means to be seen as human again.Andrew’s story is not one of quick redemption or neat transformation. After dropping out of school, falling into gang life, and spending years in and out of prison, his journey became a long, often invisible process of reckoning with shame, responsibility, and the hard truth of his own choices. Turning his life around was about learning to “own the mess” instead of running from it.Today, Andrew channels that lived experience into Break the Cycle, a community initiative that uses cycling not just as a sport, but as a safe space for ex-offenders to rebuild dignity, identity, and belonging. Through shared roads, shared effort, and the simple principle of “leaving no one behind,” he helps others re-enter society without hiding who they are.Together, Andrew and Brenda explore the deeper layers of reintegration beyond jobs and stability; asking what it really takes for someone to heal when stigma, fear, and silence still follow them everywhere.In this conversation, they unpack:✨ Why reintegration fails when we treat people like cases instead of humans✨ How shame, denial, and blame quietly keep people stuck✨ What “owning your mess” actually looks like in real life✨ Why community is what sustains long-term change✨ How society can protect itself without dehumanising those trying to returnThis is a story rarely told out loud about relapse, responsibility, dignity, and the courage it takes to stop hiding your past in order to build a future.If you’ve ever believed that someone is more than the worst thing they’ve done,If you’ve ever carried parts of your story in silence because you feared judgment,If you’ve ever wondered what real second chances actually require,This episode will stay with you.🧼 Your past is not erased but it doesn’t have to define you.🚽 Reintegration begins when we see the human, not just their history.💛 And sometimes, breaking the cycle starts with telling the story we were never allowed to tell.GOODIES FROM BOOKS BEYOND BORDERS!- Use 'CYT10' for 10% off your online purchase at booksbeyondborders.com Valid till end March 2026#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters#StoriesWeDontTell #Prison #SecondChances #CommunityHealing #HumanBeforeLabel #Singapore #Podcast

What does it really take to build a life around doing good when the hardest parts usually hidden and unseen?Randall Chong, founder of Books Beyond Borders, sits down with Brenda Ng, Chief Fun(d) Officer, The Facilitators Project & Forest School coach for an honest, deeply reflective conversation about social enterprise, identity, money, and the quiet truths behind purpose-driven work.On the surface, Randall runs a beloved bookstore that sells pre-loved books and channels proceeds towards girls’ education in Nepal. But beneath the mission lies a story far less visible; one shaped by anxiety, self-doubt, financial insecurity, and the tension between wanting to do good and needing to survive.Randall opens up about the journey that led him here: leaving his job, trekking solo to Everest Base Camp in search of meaning, witnessing children trekking long distances to school in Nepal, and returning to Singapore determined to do something that mattered even when he didn’t yet know how to sustain it.This is not a story about charity as heroism. It’s a story about vulnerability, longevity, and the unspoken struggles of people working in the social impact space.Together, Randall and Brenda explore the realities that are rarely discussed openly:✨ How to balance meaningful work and financial stability✨ The quiet shame many social enterprise founders feel about wanting a “comfortable life”✨ The misconceptions around charity, grants, and what sustainability really looks like✨ How fear of judgment keeps people silent about money, ambition, and burnout✨ Why telling your personal story honestly can be more powerful than any mission statementThis episode sits right at the heart of Season 8: Stories We Don’t Tell because Randall’s journey reminds us that the most important stories aren’t always about success or impact, but about the inner battles we fight while trying to live with integrity.If you’ve ever felt torn between purpose and practicality,If you’ve ever struggled to reconcile ambition with values,If you’ve ever wondered whether wanting stability makes you “less noble”,This conversation will resonate more deeply than you expect.🧼 Your story doesn’t have to be polished to be powerful.🚽 Doing good doesn’t mean you stop being human.💛 And the stories we hide are often the ones that connect us most.GIVEAWAY FROM PURNAMA!- Comment 'CYTPURNAMA' on our socials to stand a chance to win a Charlie Pocket Wallet. Closing date: 10 March 2026#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters#StoriesWeDontTell #SocialEnterprise #PurposeAndSustainability #DoingGood #Singapore #Podcast #SocialImpact

What happens when the world teaches you to shrink yourself long before you learn how to love yourself?And who do you become when the body you’ve spent years fighting finally becomes the body you choose to honour?In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Cheryl Tay, Chief Editor, Baseline Media and Founder, Rock The Naked Truth, sits down with Benjamin Byrne, content creator The Smiling Afro, for a conversation that moves through shame, courage, identity, and the unspoken shadows we carry in our relationships — especially the relationship we have with ourselves.Cheryl’s journey began with years of dieting, over-exercising, and striving for a body that felt “acceptable” enough to earn love, visibility, and belonging. She shares candidly about the internal narratives that shaped her adolescence and early adulthood — the belief that worthiness was tied to perfection, discipline, and physical control. But it wasn’t just about size; it was about safety. About hiding the parts of herself she feared others might judge.Her relational world cracked open when she fell in love with someone unexpected — a woman, her best friend. This love forced her to confront the biggest shadow of all: the fear of losing belonging for choosing truth. Coming out meant risking family acceptance, unsettling cultural expectations, and standing firm in a version of herself that didn’t fit the script she was raised with. It required courage, grief, and a deep re-examination of love as not something you “earn,” but something you allow.Through therapy and self-exploration, Cheryl learned to dismantle the emotional habits of over-giving, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. She now sees love — romantic and platonic — as a space where honesty is the highest form of intimacy.If you’ve ever found yourself:— Feeling unworthy because of your body or your past— Afraid to be fully seen by the people who matter most— Torn between belonging and authenticity— Loving someone who challenges old definitions of identity— Or trying to break the cycle of self-abandonment…This episode is for you.It’s a reminder that love doesn’t demand perfection —it demands presence.And the moment you stop performing is the moment you finally come home to yourself.GOODIES FROM WILDFLOWER STUDIOS!- Use code CLEANYOURTOILET at checkout for $40 off their ‘Chill & Paint with Cats’ workshop. An hour is $20 per person, so they want to encourage you to bring a friend or family member!- 10 codes valid till end January 2026#CleanYourToiletPodcast #Shadow #Relationships #Podcast #Singapore #BodyImage

What do you do when your deepest longing is also your deepest source of pain?How do you stay connected to yourself and the people you love, and continue to persist when life throws you challenges that wear down and break your spirit? How do you continue forward in a dark endless tunnel where you struggle to see the light at the end?In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Rafidah Jalil, edutainer (Kak Fifi and Mimi), volunteer & director, Fertility Support SG, sits down with Benjamin Byrne, content creator The Smiling Afro, to share a journey shaped by uncertainty, heartbreak, surrender, and the quiet resilience required to keep choosing hope.Before becoming a mother, Rafidah was a high-achieving SVP in a bank. She worked hard, planned well, and excelled under pressure. But infertility disrupted every formula she knew. Multiple IVF cycles, miscarriage, and years of waiting pulled her into emotional territory no career success had ever prepared her for. She speaks with honesty about the shadows of this journey: the loneliness of silent grief, thoughts of suicide, the spiritual exhaustion of praying without guarantees, and the identity crisis that comes from feeling like you can’t “achieve” the life you imagined.This conversation explores how infertility reshaped her marriage: revealing the limits of strength, the importance of communication, and the deep vulnerability required to let someone walk with you through pain they cannot fully understand. She shares how her lowest moments opened doors to unexpected connection: community, shared stories, and the healing that comes not from solutions, but from being seen by others who understand.Today, as a mother of three, Rafidah carries her past not as a wound, but as wisdom. She holds the paradox of joy and grief, gain and loss and shows how relationships deepen when we flow with what life brings, instead of hardening ourselves.If you’ve ever:— Faced a season of waiting with no clear ending— Questioned your worth when things fell apart— Struggled to communicate pain you can barely name— Carried grief quietly because you didn’t know where it belonged— Or learned to surrender a life that didn’t go to plan…This episode is a tender reminder that surrender is not weakness, it is the moment your heart makes space for something new.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #Shadows #Relationships #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #InfertilityJourney #Grief #Healing #Marriage #IVF #LettingGo #Podcast #Singapore

What happens when the life you built with precision, planning, and control suddenly demands that you surrender?And what if the relationship you’ve been avoiding is the one with your own shadow?In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Stephanie Dickson, Conscious Leadership Speaker & Exited Founder, sits down with Benjamin Byrne, content creator The Smiling Afro, for a conversation that is equal parts tender, disruptive, and deeply revealing. Stephanie has spent years advocating for sustainability, mindfulness and conscious living, yet the inner journey she shares here reminds us that transformation isn’t always gentle.Stephanie grew up believing that control was safety. Anxiety, perfectionism, and high achievement shaped her identity from a young age. The more she mastered, the more secure she felt. But motherhood changed everything. It stripped away predictability, routine, and the illusions of certainty she had relied on. In its place came rawness, mess, and a mirror she could no longer look away from.She speaks openly about confronting her triggers, navigating burnout, unlearning old emotional patterns, and releasing the internal systems that once protected her but now held her hostage. She reflects on the evolution from performance to presence, from control to trust, from self-pressure to self-compassion.This conversation explores the shadow side of being “the strong one,” the undiscussed loneliness of burnout, the grief of letting go of old identities, and the unexpected joy that comes from making peace with uncertainty.If you’ve ever found yourself:— Trying to control everything so nothing can hurt you— Burning out while pretending you’re okay— Realising your coping mechanisms no longer fit who you’re becoming— Struggling to embrace imperfection— Learning to surrender in a season that demands softness…This episode is your reminder that surrendering and letting go isn’t giving up, it’s about accepting and embracing your full self. The shadows you’re afraid to confront may be the exact places where joy, clarity, and connection take root.GOODIES FROM MOOM!- Comment on our socials to stand a chance to win a SUPER GREENS STARTER KIT. Closing date: 7 February 2026- Use code CYTMOOM15 for 15% off one-time purchases on http://moom.health/, no minimum spend. Valid till 15 February 2026#CleanYourToiletPodcast #Shadows #Relationships #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #LettingGo #Motherhood #Burnout #ConsciousLiving #Podcast #Singapore #Leadership #SelfLeadership #SelfLove #Transformation

What happens when the life you built suddenly no longer fits?And how do you learn to love a body, a future, and an identity that look nothing like what you once imagined?In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Cheryl Miles, founder of Miles Nixon Media and author (“Smitten in the Kitchen, 60 Recipes for Love”) sits down with Benjamin Byrne, content creator The Smiling Afro, for a conversation about reinvention, aging, grief, and the tender shadows that shape our relationships with ourselves and others.Cheryl spent 16 years in broadcasting, a world where youth, energy, and visibility are currency. Walking away from that career forced her into a new season of life, one where identity had to be rebuilt from the inside out. Alongside this transition came the physical and emotional realities of perimenopause and menopause, experiences often shrouded in silence and stigma. Cheryl opens up about navigating shifting hormones, fluctuating energy, and a changing sense of self-worth in a world that can make aging women feel invisible.But the shadows run deeper. Cheryl’s journey through late marriage, IVF, miscarriage, and the grief of unrealised motherhood reshaped her understanding of love and lineage. She speaks gently about learning to hold both acceptance and sorrow, and how her marriage evolved through these seasons of loss and longing. Her story reveals how relationships transform not just through joy, but through the courage to confront what cannot be controlled.This episode explores what it means to redefine strength, to reclaim visibility, and to honour the body and life you have today, not the one you expected to have. Cheryl shows how aging can become an act of empowerment, and how love can deepen when you stop measuring your life against milestones you never reached.If you’ve ever:— Faced a major life transition that asked you to let go of who you were— Struggled with a changing body or sense of identity— Carried silent grief about paths that didn’t unfold— Questioned your relevance or visibility as you age— Longed to find meaning beyond traditional markers of success…This episode is your reminder that reinvention takes courage and integration of parts you have not seen or accepted.And sometimes, the shadows of what didn’t happen illuminate the journey of who you’ve grown to be.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #Shadows #Relationships #MidlifeCrisis #Reinvention #Menopause #Perimenopause #Identity #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #Acceptance #Podcast #Singapore

What happens when the person you love most also becomes the person who triggers you the most?And what if the relationship you’re trying to build publicly is the one you’re still learning to build privately?In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Lee Jing Lin & Liu Zhiqun, co-founders of KopiDate, join Benjamin Byrne, content creator The Smiling Afro to peel back the layers of modern relationships and the shadows that shape them.Zhi Qun and Jing's relationship journey embodies the essence of KopiDate, having started out as friends, then business partners before becoming romantic partners and now parents. They help thousands date with intention, yet they found themselves being shaped, sometimes uncomfortably, by the very principles they teach. Working together magnified everything: attachment styles, insecurities, conflict patterns, childhood conditioning, and the silent expectations they didn’t realise they were carrying until they collided.They speak honestly about the inherited stories from their families, the fights that broke them open, the tenderness that rebuilt them, and how therapy, self-awareness, and conscious communication reshaped their partnership from the inside out.At the heart of this episode is the simple truth that every relationship is a mirror reflecting both our deepest capacity for love and the parts of ourselves we’d rather avoid.If you’ve ever:— Repeated the same conflicts without knowing why— Loved someone who triggers your oldest wounds— Carried your family’s emotional habits into adulthood— Felt torn between connection and self-protection— Wanted to love intentionally instead of on autopilot…This episode meets you where you are.Healthy love doesn't happen by accident, it is built brick by brick, truth by truth, shadow by shadow.GOODIES FROM UNPACKT!- Mention 'CLEANYOURTOILETPODCAST' at the counter for: 15% off with a minimum spend of $15 on weekdays. 10% off with a minimum spend of $15 on weekends.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #Shadows #Relationships #ConsciousDating #AttachmentStyles #InnerWork #Podcast #Singapore #PersonalMastery #Intention

Beyond a group or community, what does it truly mean to find belonging within yourself?And what happens when the parts of you that never seem to fit are actually the ones trying to lead you home?In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Andee Chua, Founder of OFFFORM, sits down with Benjamin Byrne, the Smiling Afro, for a conversation that cuts straight to the heart of identity, acceptance, and the shadows we carry into every relationship.Growing up navigating family expectations, school environments, the gay community, and creative and corporate worlds, Andee learned early that visibility can be both celebration and scrutiny. He shares candidly about the years he spent shape-shifting: softening his edges and amplifying his strengths to fit into spaces that were never built for him. But beneath the confidence was a quieter longing: to be seen without performance.Andee explores the emotional inheritance of a conflict-avoidant family, the pressure of being the “stable one,” and the cost of being the listener who rarely gets listened to. He opens up about relationships that mirrored his deepest insecurities, and the inner work required to reclaim vulnerability and self-trust.If you’ve ever found yourself:— Balancing authenticity with acceptance— Feeling like an outsider even among your own people— Taking care of everyone else while hiding your own needs— Being strong while secretly craving softness— Learning to trust that you’re allowed to be fully seen…This episode reminds you that belonging isn’t something you find, it’s something you choose.And sometimes, the parts you spent years trying to “fix” are the ones that finally set you free.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #Shadows #Relationships #Belonging #Identity #InnerWork #Podcast #Singapore #SelfLove #PersonalMastery

What if the real foundation of financial confidence wasn’t strategy or luck — but passion for the people and the conviction to stand the transformation it takes to make this dream a reality?In this episode, former NTUC Income CEO Tan Kin Lian sits down with Kat Aziz for a conversation that’s surprisingly unpolished, disarmingly honest, and refreshingly human. Long before he led one of Singapore’s biggest insurers, Tan Kin Lian grew up in a modest kampong, learning early that money wasn’t something to chase — it was something to understand, manage, and steward with intention.He shares how those childhood lessons shaped the rest of his life: why he committed to a long, steady career when society glorified fast achievement, how he built trust with millions of policyholders through transparency and simplicity, and why he still believes that financial wisdom begins with living below your means and knowing what “enough” looks like.But this conversation doesn’t romanticise frugality.Instead, it explores the quiet emotional truths behind his choices — the pressure of leadership, the responsibility of managing collective resources, and the personal values that kept him grounded even as success grew louder around him.You’ll hear Tan Kin Lian break down concepts we often overcomplicate:why clarity beats ambitionhow a simple life gives you more optionality, not lesswhy understanding risk is more important than avoiding itand how purpose — not prestige — has guided every major decision he’s madeAnd woven through the conversation is the same question that anchors Season 6:How do you build a life where money supports you, not defines you?If you’ve ever struggled with comparison, questioned your financial choices, or wondered whether success must come with stress, this episode offers a different blueprint — one built not on hustle, but on alignment.🧼 Your spending habits are the reflection.🚽 Your fears are the clog.💧 Clarity is the water that gets everything flowing again.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

What does it take to become one of the most successful businesses out there integrated with passion and intention?In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Sant Qiu, founder of Maneuver Marketing, a 9 figure business, sits down with Kat to unpack a journey that didn’t begin with confidence, clarity, or even a dream — but with survival. Growing up a sickly child in a small Indonesian town with limited access to healthcare, Sant learned early what it meant to be independent and to take care of himself. Those early lessons in resourcefulness became the backbone of everything he would eventually build.Before running multiple e-commerce brands in the health supplement space, Sant spent years in the trenches of SME coaching, marketing, self-development, and personal reinvention. His passions were never linear — and that’s precisely what shaped him. Fitness, marketing, psychology, business building… he layered each one over the years, combining them into a unique ecosystem of strategy, resilience, and real-world pragmatism.But the heart of this episode isn’t about hustle. It’s about clarity.Sant shares how passion alone is never enough — not if you want it to sustain you.You need proficiency. You need market reality. You need emotional resilience.His “3P” framework — Purpose, Proficiency, Profit — becomes a compass for anyone trying to build a life that doesn’t collapse under pressure.And in this conversation, Sant reveals the uncomfortable tension many of us carry:Do you start with what you love? Or do you start with what pays the bills?For Sant, the answer lies in integration. You don’t abandon your past, your skills, or your wounds. You learn from them. You use them. You combine them. And when you’re finally honest about what the market values — that’s when passion becomes sustainable.If you’ve ever found yourself:— Feeling torn between security and self-expression— Unsure whether your passion is “enough”— Wanting to pivot but terrified of losing stability— Or wondering how to build something that lasts…This episode is your reminder that passion isn’t magic — it’s mastery.And money isn’t the enemy — it’s information.The inner work is the strategic work.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

How can pure, simple and joyful dedication to your craft become a business big enough to outgrow the version of you who started it?For Ong Jing Ting, founder of Puffs and Peaks Bakery, that question has shaped every chapter of her 10-year journey. What started as a small Instagram side-hustle she ran with her mother slowly expanded into two physical bakeries, a growing team, and a life far bigger (and faster) than she ever imagined.But scaling a dream isn’t the same as living one.In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Jing Ting sits with anchor speaker Kat Aziz to revisit the quieter truths behind her success:the early years of selling trinkets, the strange clarity of realising recipes made more sense than textbooks, the blessing of finding passion young, and the emotional whiplash of becoming “a businesswoman” when all she wanted was to bake, connect, and create joy.They talk honestly about the turning points many creators face but seldom admit:✨ When passion meets pressure — which one wins?✨ When your business grows faster than you do, how do you keep from shrinking inside it?✨ When money enters the picture, can joy survive the spreadsheets?✨ What happens when you wake up one day and realise the thing you love now comes with payroll, leases, systems, and expectations?Jing Ting shares the moments she wanted to rewind everything, the fear of losing joy to responsibility, the bittersweet nostalgia of “simpler days” working alongside her mother, and the discipline it takes to build a business rooted not in expansion, but in quality, community and feeling.Because for her, success isn’t how many shops she has — it’s whether the people who walk through her doors feel seen, nourished, and a little more confident than when they arrived.If you’ve ever:Turned your passion into a job and wondered if you broke something along the wayStruggled with the fear that growth might cost you yourselfTried to balance joy with responsibilityQuestioned whether your dream still belongs to you…this conversation will feel like a deep breath you didn’t know you needed.🧼 Your joy is the spark.🚽 Your responsibilities are the clutter.💩 The overwhelm is the mess in between.Clear it, understand it, and maybe — like Jing Ting — you’ll remember why you started in the first place.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

When cruising in life becomes an experience of painful unhappiness and emptiness, and you see no other way out, stepping away from your familiar comfort to the unfamilar unknown can be the medicine you need to discover a new lease of life.For Anna Ong, creator of What’s Your Story Slam, her calling arrived in the most unexpected way — on a silent improv stage in New York.In this episode of the Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Anna shares the moment that changed everything: a pause, a feeling in her body, and a coach’s simple instruction — “When your body moves, don’t let your head stop you.” What followed was the first story she ever told aloud… a moment she describes as the skies opening and the angels singing. That night, she found not just her voice — but her purpose.But stories don’t become a livelihood overnight.When Anna returned to Singapore and told people she wanted to be a storyteller, they assumed she meant acting or Universal Studios. Personal narrative wasn’t a recognised craft — so she built it herself. What began as a one-off event became What’s Your Story Slam, now six years strong. And then something remarkable happened: opportunities started coming to her. Companies asked her to keynote. Executives hired her for narrative coaching. Strangers approached her for workshops. Her show became her marketing arm — and storytelling became her business.Throughout the conversation, Anna speaks with clarity and humility about the craft of story, the vulnerability it requires, and the emotional responsibility of helping others see themselves clearly on stage. She shares the joy of watching students shine for the first time, the power of the first paying client, and what it means to turn passion into something sustainable without losing its soul.If you’ve ever:✨ been told your passion isn’t “practical enough”✨ struggled to explain a calling that others don’t understand✨ wondered whether your personal story matters✨ or tried to build a business around something deeply human and deeply you…Anna’s journey will meet you exactly where you are.Her story is a reminder that passion doesn’t begin with certainty — it begins with a moment. A moment your body moves before your fear can stop you.🧼 Your story is your clarity.🚽 Your fears are the noise.💩 And the real work is learning which voice to trust.Tune in to rediscover the story you’re meant to tell — and the life it can lead you toward.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

Money is often a means to living with meaning and purpose. Taking it to the next level, what does it look like living and breathing money passionately, and impact livelihoods while doing so?For Reshveen Rajendran, CEO of Modern Wealth Academy, money was never just numbers — it was a money passion with a focus to uplift socio-economic statuses of folks wanting a better life, and it starts with a strong investment base.In this episode of Clean Your Toilet, Resh sits down with anchor speaker Kat Aziz to unpack the years before his big breakthrough — the long stretch where he was a 19-year-old faced with a major wake-up call which he had to give up his known passions to carve a new passion path for himself. It took asking the hard questions most of us are afraid to confront:“How do ordinary people build extraordinary outcomes?”“Is wanting money shallow — or is it self-respect?”“And what if passion doesn’t come first… what if it forms only after you decide to pay attention?”Before he became known for investing and business teaching, Resh studied trends, behaviour, obsession, and value long before he taught anyone else how to do it. That curiosity became the seed of his financial journey.But his story isn’t a glossy rags-to-riches arc. Resh opens up about:Being dismissed as someone “good with money” but not understood for the hardship behind itRebuilding from zero while the world was shutting down in 2020Facing hate, doubt, and cultural beliefs around wealthRealising that mindset — not strategy — is what actually attracts or repels moneyKat and Resh also explore the emotional side of ambition: guilt around wanting wealth, the fear of instability, and how rebellion, family expectations and self-belief shape the way we chase opportunity.And this conversation lands where all honest money conversations eventually do:What do you really believe you deserve?Do your habits match the future you want?Can money and passion co-exist without burning you out?If you’ve ever:💰 Wanted to rebuild your life but didn’t know where to start🔥 Wondered why some people seem to attract opportunities🧠 Felt torn between stability and ambition💸 Or questioned whether your own money mindset is helping or sabotaging you…this episode will challenge the way you think about wealth — not as luck, privilege, or linear progression, but as energy, attention, and the courage to take yourself seriously.🧼 Your mindset is the water.🚽 Your old stories are the dirt.💩 Your money habits are the pipes.Clean out the blocks, and you might discover just how much flow your life has been capable of all along.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

What does it mean to inherit a business that wasn’t your dream — but becomes your responsibility, your teacher, and eventually, your purpose?In this episode of Clean Your Toilet, Brillyn Toh sits down with Kat Aziz for a grounded, deeply human conversation about legacy, identity, and the emotional labour of running one of Singapore’s most beloved second-hand institutions: Hock Siong.Most people know Hock Siong for its pre-loved furniture, kampung charm, and the unspoken warmth of a family-run business. But behind the scenes is a daughter navigating expectations, change, and the quiet question many second-generation leaders carry:“If this path wasn’t chosen by me, can I still make it mine?”Brillyn opens up about growing up watching her parents build a business from necessity and grit, and the moment she realised that stewardship is a calling of its own. She speaks candidly about modernising a legacy brand without losing its soul, dealing with the pressure to honour what came before, and the complexity of leading teams who are called to evolve and transform as well.This is not a story about overnight success. It’s about slow leadership, anchored values, and learning to grow into a role that chooses you long before you choose it.Throughout the conversation, Brillyn and Kat explore:✨ What makes a legacy worth protecting — and what needs to change for it to survive✨ How financial responsibility shapes passion, purpose, and boundaries✨ Why second-generation entrepreneurs often feel torn between duty and desire✨ The hidden emotional work of caring for staff, community, and customers✨ The freedom that comes from redefining success on your own timelineIf you’ve ever struggled with expectation, inherited pressure, or the fear of disappointing the people who raised you…If you’ve ever questioned whether the life you’re living is yours or something you inherited…If you’re learning what it means to honour the past while building a future that feels true…This episode will sit with you long after it ends.🧼 Your story is allowed to evolve.🚽 The legacy you inherited does not have to trap you — it can grow with you.💛 And sometimes, the work that feels least chosen becomes the work that shapes you most.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

When does a hobby become a serious passion to monetize systematically, to live and breathe from?In this episode of Clean Your Toilet, botanical artist and founder of InOut Atelier, Ming Kuang, sits down with Kat Aziz to unpack what it really costs to build a life around the work you love. Before he was sculpting moss into miniature worlds, he was trained in architecture — steady job, clear path, predictable future. Until he realised that the life he was building looked stable on paper… but felt hollow on the inside.Leaving architecture wasn’t a brave leap — it was a terrifying calculation.What if this new journey doesn’t fit me? What if I earn less than my full-time job? What if I’m wrong?And the hardest part wasn’t money.It was the inner demons — the voices that said you’re not good enough, your craft won’t sustain you, people won’t value what you make.But that’s where his philosophy crystallised:If your passion can’t pay you yet, it doesn’t mean you chose wrongly —it means you have to hone your craft until the world can see what you see.Through stories of clients, tiny figurines, 3D-printed memories, and the meditative quiet of moss work, Ming Kuang shares how he builds landscapes that hold people’s most intimate moments — proposals, milestones, grief, joy. And he explains why “zen” isn’t an aesthetic; it’s a discipline you earn through repetition, precision, and patience.This conversation dives deep into:💭 The real definition of passion (and why most people confuse it with hobby)💭 How to decide if your passion can carry your life — or just your weekends💭 Why inner resistance is the real battlefield, not money💭 The emotional cost of choosing an artist’s path💭 How to know if it’s time to leave your stable jobAnd at the heart of it:Why do we spend one-third of our life working… only to be miserable?Ming Kuang reminds us that work is not just about time. It’s about aliveness, contentment, and crafting a day — and a life — you can stand behind.If you’ve ever:wondered whether your passion is “enough,”questioned if you have the discipline to make your craft sustainable,struggled with fear, identity, or the expectations of others,or felt torn between survival and soul……this conversation offers clarity, courage, and the honest, grounded truth from someone who has walked that bridge barefoot.🧼 Your craft is the landscape.🚽 Your insecurities are the overgrown weeds.💩 And your inner demons? They’re the shadows you must trim back — again and again — to let your real work shine.Clear the noise. Honour the craft. Build the life you’re meant to shape.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

When you’re a new mother running on fumes, juggling business calls between feeds, and losing track of who you are beyond the roles you hold — the smallest inconvenience can become the turning point.For Eugenia Ye-Yeo, founder of Nodspark, it wasn’t a grand moment of revelation. It was chipped nails, busy days, and the quiet frustration of wanting to feel put-together without sacrificing precious minutes she didn’t have. What started as a personal pain point became the seed of a brand now beloved across Singapore: a fuss-free beauty solution designed for real modern women with busy lives.But this episode isn’t just about nail wraps or entrepreneurship. It’s about the invisible labour behind the things we build — the motherhood guilt, the exhaustion you hide, the pressure to be “on” even when you want for rest, and the courage required to build something gentle in a world that demands hardness.In this conversation, Eugenia sits down with Kat Aziz for one of the most honest, vulnerable episodes of the season as they unpack:The myth of “doing it all” — and what it actually costs women who try.The emotional and physical burnout of building a business while mothering young children.The guilt-tax women pay when they prioritise themselves, even for a moment.Why convenience is not vanity, but survival — and how Nodspark was born from that truth.How a brand can be an extension of identity rather than a mask to hide behind.The tension between passion and responsibility, and why women often feel they must apologise for their ambition.What emerges is not a founder story polished for LinkedIn — but a deeply human narrative about reclaiming identity, choosing ease without shame, and building a business that supports life rather than competes with it.And that’s the heart of Season 6:In a world obsessed with hustle, how do you make money in ways that honour your passion, your limits, and your humanity?If you’ve ever found yourself torn between caring for others and caring for your dreams…If you’ve ever wondered whether convenience can be meaningful…If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting more ease, more time, more space to breathe…This episode will meet you exactly where you are.🧼 Your energy is the resource.🚽 Your patterns are the plumbing.💛 Your truth is the redesign.Make it flow — and let yourself be supported by the life you’re building.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

What if you could find alignment to your passion, and overcome your internal conflicts through an innerwork process? Anita Kapoor offers just such a short demonstration on how to do so with our anchor speaker Kat Aziz to access a different experience. In this intimate conversation, Anita Kapoor sits down for one of her most honest, unfiltered reflections on identity, meaning, and the lifelong journey of becoming who you actually are. Known for her two decades of work across television, writing, advocacy and wellbeing, Anita has lived many lives. But as she shares here, the real work wasn’t in the career pivots — it was in learning to listen to herself again.From the start, Anita challenges the cultural narratives that shape us: the conditioning that tells us who we “should” be, the pressures to perform, the patterns we unconsciously repeat because we’ve been taught to prioritise approval over authenticity. She speaks about the years it took to unlearn these scripts, the cost of living out of alignment, and the quiet relief that comes when you stop running from your own truth.This episode goes deeper than passion as a buzzword. Anita reframes it as a life force — something shaped by your wounds, your wisdom, and all the versions of yourself you’ve had to shed along the way. She talks about the reckoning that comes with midlife, the discomfort of honest self-inquiry, and the radical idea that “success” only holds meaning when it’s grounded in self-trust and self-knowledge. At the heart of this conversation is a tension we all face:How do you honour your inner calling while navigating the reality of earning a living?Anita doesn’t offer easy answers — instead, she offers the more powerful truth: making passion and money work is not a formula, but a relationship. And it starts with knowing who you are beneath the noise.Together, we explore themes of:- Identity beyond job titles- Cultural conditioning and inherited expectations -The evolution of passion across a lifetime- The emotional cost of misalignment- The inner work required to build a meaningful, sustainable life- Learning to choose yourself without guiltIf you’ve ever questioned the life you’re living…If you’ve ever felt torn between meaning and survival…If you’ve ever wondered what it takes to build a version of success that actually feels like yours…This episode will meet you exactly where you are.🧼 Your truth is the clean water.🚽 Your conditioning is the mess in the bowl.💩 And the patterns that keep repeating? That’s the sludge we’re here to talk about.This is Anita Kapoor — raw, real, and ready to help you look inward.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #MoneyAndPassion #PersonalTransformation

When a flamboyant, colorful kid learns to hide himself because the world tells him he’s “too much,” you don’t just get a story about fashion — you get a story about survival. In this episode of Clean Your Toilet, Leonard Cheong, founder of Singapore’s first gender-fluid athleisure label, joins Barbara Latimer for a raw conversation about suppression, bullying, and the long road back to authenticity.Most people think the hardest part of building a business is the grind: raising funds, managing operations, keeping up with trends. But what if the real battle isn’t in the market — it’s in the mirror?Leonard grew up loving drama, color, and flair. But teachers told him boys shouldn’t move that way. Classmates mocked him for being “too gaudy.” Even adults piled on, until he learned to shrink himself into something more acceptable. The result? A silence that lasted years. Only through the process of designing — first for himself, then for others — did he begin to reclaim the pieces of identity he’d buried.His brand isn’t just a clothing line. It’s a declaration that life doesn’t have to fit into rigid categories. Athflo, his “athletic + flow” aesthetic, emerged from his own need for clothes that could carry him from workouts to travel to work. But behind every seam and stitch lies a deeper truth: this is about creating space for people who, like him, were told they didn’t belong.And that’s the tension at the heart of this conversation.On one side: a culture that still polices gender, expression, and identity. On the other: the liberating act of designing for who you really are. Between them lies a messy middle every creative eventually confronts:Do I keep conforming to expectations, or do I risk being seen?How do I create work that reflects who I am without apology?What does it take to turn personal liberation into public leadership?Leonard shares openly about the cost of hiding, the liberation of expression, and the ongoing struggle to balance authenticity with acceptance. His journey is not just about fashion — it’s about reclaiming identity after years of erasure.If you’ve ever:Been told you were “too much” or “not enough”Felt the sting of bullying that made you question your worthWondered if there’s room in the world for your full, authentic self…this episode is your reminder that sometimes the most trailblazing thing you can do is to show up exactly as you are.🧼 Authenticity is the clean water.🚽 Suppression is the clogged pipe.💩 Shame is the sludge that blocks the flow.When you clear the pipes of judgment, you create space for color, movement, and life to stream through without apology.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters#LivingAuthentically #Trailblazing #DiscoverIdentity #Transformation #Personal Growth #GenderFluid #GenderFluidFashion

Food is never just food. For Yeo Min, pastry chef and author, every recipe is a story, every ingredient a memory, and every dish a link between past and present. In this episode of Clean Your Toilet, Barbara Latimer enters her kitchen of ideas to talk about heritage, identity, and what it means to preserve more than just flavors.Most people think the hardest part of choosing a career is mastering the skills: the exams, the training, the hours of practice. But what if the deeper struggle is explaining why your choices matter at all?Yeo Min’s story didn’t begin with cookbooks or pastry courses. It began with social work — a path she pursued out of care for people and community. But studying overseas in London brought unexpected questions. When classmates rejected her pandan cake for being green, such encounters nudged her wrestle with identity: was food just something to eat, or was it something more? Slowly, she began to see that cooking could be activism, storytelling, and preservation rolled into one.Today, through her writing and the Museum of Food, she documents recipes not just as instructions but as cultural memory. Each dish is an archive of conversations with seniors, a record of techniques that risk being lost, a bridge between generations. Her work asks us to consider what’s worth carrying forward — and how easily the details of heritage can disappear if no one pays attention.And that’s the tension at the heart of this conversation.On one side: a world obsessed with food as content, aesthetics, and trend. On the other: the deeper calling to preserve food as memory, story, and truth. Between them lies the messy middle every culture must confront:What parts of heritage are we willing to let go of?Can preservation happen without becoming nostalgia?How does food become both survival and identity?Yeo Min speaks with candor and warmth about what it means to pivot careers, challenge expectations, and carry heritage in the most everyday of mediums: what we eat. Her story is a reminder that preservation isn’t passive — it’s active, creative, and deeply personal.If you’ve ever:Felt out of place because of what you carried from homeWondered whether your traditions still matter in a changing worldWanted to connect to your past but weren’t sure where to start…this episode is your invitation to taste memory differently.🧼 Heritage is the clean water.🚽 Forgetfulness is the slow leak.💩 Dismissal is the residue that erodes culture.Pay attention, hold onto the details, and let what nourishes you also remind you who you are.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #TrailBlazing#FoodIdentity #CulturalPreservation #StoriesThroughFood #HeritageInEveryBite

From prison officer to real estate entrepreneur, Melvin Lim’s (Property Lim Brothers) path was never straightforward. In this episode of Clean Your Toilet, he and Barbara Latimer dive into the messy evolution of a career that began in uniform and grew into multiple businesses, including one of Singapore’s most recognized real estate brands.Most people assume the hardest part of entrepreneurship is scaling up: hiring teams, managing systems, keeping the numbers afloat. But what if the real challenge is learning to shift your mindset — from chasing the next commission to seeing humans as more than transactions?Melvin entered real estate in what he calls the “cowboy era” of the industry. It was fast, unregulated, and rewarding to anyone who closed quick deals. For years, he treated clients like one-off commissions. But then came what he describes as a drought season: deals dried up, momentum stalled, and he was forced to ask deeper questions about what kind of leader — and man — he wanted to become.That crisis became a turning point. Instead of quitting, Melvin recalibrated. He read voraciously, studied business and leadership, and began to build not just sales but relationships. From there, he pioneered storytelling in real estate marketing, bringing video tours and lifestyle-driven narratives to a market that had barely left flyers behind. Today, he leads multiple ventures, but he still credits that season of drought as the moment he stopped hustling blindly and started leading with intention.And that’s the tension at the heart of this conversation.On one side: the lure of quick wins, commissions, and surface-level success. On the other: the slower, harder work of building trust, systems, and legacy. Between them lies a messy middle every entrepreneur eventually faces:Do I measure myself by deals closed or lives impacted?How do I reinvent when the old way of working no longer works?Can failure be the doorway to a different kind of growth?Melvin doesn’t shy away from the hard truths. He admits to his early mistakes, the cost of ego, and the temptations of shortcuts. But he also shows what’s possible when you stop seeing people as dollar signs and start seeing them as families, communities, and stories.If you’ve ever:Chased external markers of success only to feel empty afterwardWondered if your “drought season” was a sign to quit or a call to growWanted to lead with more purpose but didn’t know where to start…this episode is your reminder that trailblazing isn’t about avoiding the desert — it’s about who you become when you walk through it.🧼 Integrity is the clean water.🚽 Ego is the clogged pipe.💩 Shortcuts are the sludge that pollute your flow.Never mistake the drought for the end of the story.#CleanYourToiletPodcast #GetReal #InnerWork #PersonalMastery #WhatTrulyMatters #TrailBlazing #ReinventIdentity#ValuesBasedLeadership #Entrepreneurship #FromHustleToPurpose #RealEstateReinvented