The Breakup Debrief Podcast

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly talks about something that doesn’t get said enough during breakup recovery: healing isn’t linear.You can be doing great. You can feel strong, grounded, and clear and then suddenly have a dip day that makes you question everything. That doesn’t mean you’re back at square one. It doesn’t mean you’ve undone your progress. It means you’re human.Kelly explores the emotional rollercoaster that can come with healing after a breakup, why bad days are part of the process, and how emotional resilience is built through allowing yourself to feel- not suppressing it. She shares practical advice on coping with emotional dips, recognising triggers and avoiding impulsive decisions when you’re feeling vulnerable.The episode also includes a listener’s story about walking away from a relationship that looked “good on paper,” highlighting the strength it takes to choose yourself, even when nothing dramatic has happened.This episode is a reminder that progress isn’t about never struggling again. It’s about learning how to navigate the hard days with self-compassion instead of self-criticism.📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Erin, who shares her deeply personal breakup story while working as a bridal stylist- helping other women prepare for weddings while quietly navigating heartbreak behind the scenes.Erin opens up about the pressure of societal timelines, the emotional weight of engagement & how red flags can be easy to overlook when you’re invested in the future you think you’re building. She reflects on the impact of being in a toxic relationship, how it affected her mental & emotional wellbeing, and the moment she realised choosing herself had to come first.Together, Kelly and Erin explore themes of self-love, self-discovery & healing after a toxic relationship. Erin shares how leaning into her passions, surrounding herself with supportive friendships & learning to trust herself again helped her rebuild her life and eventually find hope and love on the other side.This episode is a reminder that walking away from something that looks “right” on paper can be the most empowering decision you ever make & that healing doesn’t mean going backwards, it means choosing yourself.

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly explores how a breakup, as painful as it is, can become a powerful turning point for personal growth. Instead of rushing to “move on” or forcing a glow-up, Kelly invites listeners to see a breakup as an opportunity to consciously rebrand their life.The episode focuses on identity after a relationship, how to reconnect with who you are outside of a partnership & how to decide who you want to become next. Kelly also responds to a listener dilemma about seeking closure after a long-term relationship, unpacking why closure often isn’t something an ex can give you, but something you can create for yourself.This episode is a gentle but empowering reminder that healing doesn’t have to be dramatic or rushed. Sometimes, it’s about small, intentional changes, protecting your energy, and choosing yourself again- one step at a time!

In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly tackles a difficult but necessary topic: the victim mentality after a breakup.Kelly explains the difference between being hurt and staying stuck. While pain, betrayal, and grief are completely valid responses to heartbreak, allowing those experiences to become your identity can quietly keep you trapped in the past. This episode explores how a victim mindset can show up after a breakup — and how it can block healing, confidence, and future relationships.Kelly breaks down the signs that you may be stuck in this mindset, including replaying the same breakup story, feeling powerless about your future, and unconsciously keeping your ex at the center of your life. With honesty and compassion, she challenges listeners to take responsibility for what happens next — not by dismissing their pain, but by refusing to let it define them.This episode is a powerful reminder that healing requires self-awareness, courage, and choice. Your breakup can be a turning point — but only if you decide to move forward.🔗 Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore coaching, episodes & resources: Linktree

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly unpacks the growing conversations around declining birth rates, the so-called “male loneliness epidemic,” and the way responsibility for these societal issues is often unfairly placed on women.Kelly explores how modern relationships have fundamentally changed — particularly as women are no longer financially dependent on men and are increasingly prioritising emotional fulfillment, self-worth, and personal growth. Rather than rushing into relationships or settling after breakups, many women are choosing to heal, reflect, and raise their standards — leading to healthier partnerships in the long run.This episode challenges the narrative that women are “too picky” or anti-men, and instead reframes the conversation around emotional intelligence, maturity, and mutual effort in modern dating. Kelly also speaks directly to men, encouraging emotional accountability, self-reflection, and therapy as part of the solution — rather than blame.A thought-provoking episode that ties together breakups, dating culture, and the broader societal shifts shaping relationships today.Women are no longer financially dependent on men — and that has changed dating dynamics.Many breakups are happening because women are choosing happiness over settling.Wanting emotional intelligence and maturity is not “being too picky.”Healing after a breakup leads to healthier long-term relationship choices.The male loneliness epidemic cannot be solved by blaming women.Emotional growth and self-work are essential for modern relationships.Therapy and emotional support should be normalised for men.Independence does not mean anti-relationship — it means intentional partnership.🔗 Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

Breaking no contact after a breakup can feel overwhelming, shame-inducing, and emotionally destabilising — but it’s also incredibly common. In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly gently unpacks what it really means when you break no contact, why it happens, and how to regain your footing without spiralling or beating yourself up.Kelly reframes no contact as a tool for healing, not a test of strength, and explores the emotional triggers that often lead to reaching out — from loneliness and alcohol to nostalgia and nervous system dysregulation. She offers grounded, practical advice on what to do after you’ve sent the message, how to stop the follow-up spiral, and how to re-establish boundaries that protect your peace.This episode is a compassionate reminder that healing is not linear, slips don’t erase progress, and self-discipline grows through self-understanding — not self-punishment.Whether you’ve just broken no contact, you’re tempted to, or you’re trying to stay strong, this episode will help you respond with clarity, calm, and self-respect.✨ Key TakeawaysBreaking no contact is common — it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.No contact is a tool for emotional regulation and healing, not a punishment.One message does not require a follow-up message.Silence is a response — and it deserves to be respected.Alcohol can lower boundaries and increase emotional impulsivity.Understanding why you reached out helps prevent repeating the pattern.Healing isn’t linear — compassion matters more than perfection.Journaling can help process urges and emotional triggers.Protecting your peace means recommitting to boundaries.It’s okay to seek support if you feel stuck in a cycle.🔗 Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment:info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok:@kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources:Linktree

⚠️ Trigger WarningThis episode contains discussions around toxic relationships, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised.In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Erin Taylor, a mindset and nervous system regulation coach, to explore the realities of toxic and abusive relationships.Together, they unpack why emotional abuse can be so difficult to recognise and leave, how narcissistic traits and love bombing show up in relationships, and why the question “Why don’t they just leave?” oversimplifies a deeply complex situation. Erin shares insights from her work supporting people in domestic abuse situations, highlighting the emotional, financial, and nervous system factors that keep people stuck.The conversation also focuses on healing after abuse — from rebuilding self-trust and independence to regulating the nervous system through breath work and meditation. Erin introduces her membership Regulate, designed to support emotional healing, safety, and self-discovery.This episode is a compassionate, informative listen for anyone questioning a relationship, healing from emotional abuse, or wanting to better understand toxic dynamics.🆘 Support ResourcesIf this episode brings up anything difficult for you, please consider reaching out for support:IrelandWomen’s Aid National Freephone: 1800 341 90024/7 Online Chat: womensaid.ieEmergency: 999 or 112UKNational Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247Website: nationaldahelpline.org.ukInternationalLove Is Respect: loveisrespect.orgFind local helplines worldwide: hotpeachpages.netLinks & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching📲 Follow Erin on Instagram: @iamerintaylor🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

A new year can feel like pressure- or it can be permission to reinvent yourself!In Episode 27 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly reflects on the past year and guides listeners through a grounded, empowering approach to setting intentions for the year ahead. Whether you’re navigating breakup recovery, redefining your identity, or simply craving a reset, this episode is about creating clarity, balance, and momentum — without overwhelm.Kelly explores practical tools like the Wheel of Life, SMART goals, manifestation with action, and the power of self-love, gratitude, and accountability. This episode encourages listeners to stop waiting for the “perfect version” of themselves and start building a life that feels aligned, intentional, and supportive — one step at a time.You won't become someone new over night but you'll become more you!Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

Heartbreak has a way of shaking your identity, your confidence, and your sense of direction but what if it’s also the beginning of something bigger?In Episode 25 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Caroline McKenna, author of Breakups to Breakthroughs, to explore how heartbreak can become a powerful catalyst for self-discovery, healing, and personal growth.Caroline shares her own journey through a painful breakup that forced her to slow down, feel her emotions, and completely re-evaluate who she was outside of a relationship. Together, Kelly and Caroline unpack why breakups can feel as devastating as a bereavement, how identity often becomes entangled with partnership, and why rushing the healing process can do more harm than good.The conversation dives into attachment styles, how they shape our relationship patterns, and why understanding them can bring clarity and compassion — both for ourselves and our exes. They also explore the theory of the three loves, helping listeners reframe past relationships without romanticising them or seeing them as failures.This episode is a reminder that being single — especially in your 30s — is not something to “fix,” but something that can be deeply fulfilling. From mindset shifts and emotional processing to trusting the timing of your life, this conversation offers reassurance, perspective, and hope for anyone navigating heartbreak or learning how to thrive on their own.If you’re going through a breakup, questioning your path, or learning how to trust yourself again, this episode will help you see that healing doesn’t mean going backwards — it often means stepping into something better.✨ In This Episode, We Cover:Why breakups can feel as significant as a deathThe impact of heartbreak on identity and self-worthWhy feeling your emotions is essential for real healingUnderstanding attachment styles and relationship dynamicsThe theory of the three loves and how it reframes past relationshipsLetting go of the fantasy of old relationshipsHow mindset influences healing and growthThriving while single in your 30sTrusting the process when life doesn’t go to plan📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 📲 Follow Caroline on Instagram & TikTok: @acountydownunder🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly Hunt dives into the reality of being single during Christmas—a time when emotions feel louder, memories feel sharper, and comparison hits harder than ever. Whether you’re navigating your first Christmas post-breakup or your fifth, this episode offers the validation, grounding, and practical support you need.Kelly explores the emotional weight of “this time last year” thoughts, the triggers of festive couple content, and why loneliness tends to spike during the holiday season. She also shares ways to create your own Christmas magic, reconnect with yourself, and soften the sting of missing someone who used to be part of your traditions.This episode is your warm, honest, no-BS reminder that being single at Christmas is not a failure — it’s a season you can move through with intention, compassion, and even joy.

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly opens Season Three by tackling one of the most gut-wrenching parts of heartbreak: when your ex moves on before you.Whether you found out through social media, mutual friends, or pure accident, that moment hits like a punch to the chest. Kelly breaks down why this triggers panic, intrusive thoughts, comparison spirals, and the sudden fear that “I’ve been replaced.”Rather than focusing on the other person, this episode helps you understand your nervous system, your emotions, and why this moment does not mean you’ve lost, failed, or fallen behind.Kelly explains:💛 Why your brain spirals into “what does this mean?”💛 Why your ex moving on isn’t evidence that they’re happier💛 How avoidant or unhealed partners often jump into something new as a distraction💛 Why the person who sits with their pain actually heals deeper💛 How to avoid making their new relationship about you💛 And how to re-centre yourself when your confidence is shakenThis episode is your reminder that your healing isn’t a race, your worth hasn’t been touched, and someone else’s relationship is not a reflection of your value.Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

In this powerful episode, Kelly sits down with Orla Foster — therapist, coach & specialist in helping women recover from toxic and narcissistic relationships.Orla opens up about her own journey through toxic dynamics and how it shaped her mission to support women rebuilding their self-worth. Together, Kelly and Orla unpack:The subtle signs of toxic relationshipsWhat narcissistic traits actually look like in real lifeHow emotional abuse erodes confidence and identityWhy shame belongs to the abuser, not the survivorHow to stop repeating patterns with emotionally unavailable partnersThe role of therapy, coaching, meditation, and support systems in long-term healingThis episode is a reminder that healing is possible, support is available & nobody has to navigate toxic relationship recovery alone.Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree✨ Connect with Orla Foster:Instagram: Orla_Foster_Podcast: Because I Loved Myself First📚 Resources for Support:• Women’s Aid (Ireland) — https://www.womensaid.ie• Samaritans — https://www.samaritans.org• Therapy Directory — https://www.psychologytoday.com

In Episode 21 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the messiest — but most transformative — parts of healing after a breakup:the post-breakup clear out.From physical belongings to photos, social media, and the sentimental bits that keep you emotionally tied to your ex, Kelly breaks down exactly how to navigate the clear-out stage without spiraling… or sobbing over a hoodie.Kelly shares her own experiences from the end of her marriage and her most recent relationship — the anger, the awkwardness, the redecorating, the archiving, the box-in-the-storage-room era — and the strategies she used to reclaim her space and identity.You’ll learn why clearing out your ex’s belongings isn’t erasing your past — it’s creating space for your future. She also breaks down why archiving photos is better than keeping them visible, how social media prolongs heartache, why blocking is a form of self-respect, and how your algorithm can either help you heal or keep you stuck.The episode ends with a powerful Where Is She Now? listener story — a woman blindsided by a breakup who rebuilt her life, found peace, and realised she was never the problem.This episode is a must-listen if you’re heartbroken, stuck, or procrastinating the clear-out that you know you need to do.Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

In this episode, Kelly dives into the viral Vogue article titled “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” and unpacks what this cultural shift really means for women navigating modern dating and healing.Kelly explores why being in a relationship, something once seen as a badge of honour, now feels complicated or even “uncool” in certain spaces. From social media “soft launches” to the fear of losing your independence, she breaks down how culture, healing, and self-worth intersect when it comes to love.This episode challenges listeners to question why they want a relationship, whether they’re choosing love from wholeness or from fear, and how to avoid performing relationships for social media validation. Because at the end of the day- wanting love isn’t embarrassing. Losing yourself for it is.📖 Read the original Vogue article: Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? (Vogue)Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: LinktreeTakeaways💬 The Vogue article explores how “being partnered” no longer defines women the way it once did.💬 Some women now hide or “soft launch” their relationships due to cultural shifts in how we see commitment.💬 There’s a fine line between empowerment and emotional avoidance when it comes to staying single.💬 Being single isn’t automatically “healed” — and being partnered isn’t automatically “lost.”💬 You can want love and still prioritise self-awareness, boundaries, and growth.KeywordsVogue, relationships, dating, single, breakup healing, attachment styles, modern love, self-worth, emotional growth, identity, feminism, independence, social media, self-discovery, dating culture

In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal.If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again.Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind.This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.Why “knocking your ex off the pedestal” is essential for healingHow to separate the fantasy from the reality of who they wereWhy we confuse potential for love (and how to stop)The power of no contact and creating emotional distanceHow to rebuild your self-worth and confidence after heartbreakWhat avoidant attachment can teach you about the cycle of chasing unavailable love💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email ⁠info@kellyskoaching.com⁠✨ Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok ⁠@kellyskoaching⁠🔗 All links: ⁠linktr.ee/kellys_koaching⁠

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into a viral topic inspired by a video from Therapy Jeff.If you’ve ever felt completely disillusioned with dating, this one’s for you. Kelly unpacks the frustration of navigating modern relationships for a woman who’s self-aware, healing and tired of the same emotional patterns- yet still wants to believe in love again.She explores how to separate the system from the individual (yes, patriarchy is real but not every man is your ex), how to spot emotionally intelligent men & how to date with hope & self-respect instead of fear or resentment.This is a real, grounded & empowering conversation about keeping your standards high without closing your heart.In this episode, you’ll learn:💭 How to stop projecting past pain onto new people💭 Why expanding your “evidence file” of good men matters💭 What to do about the emotional intelligence gap💭 How to balance accountability with compassion💭 Why you don’t need to choose between awareness & optimismBecause you can call out the patriarchy and still believe in love- without lowering your standards or losing yourself.Listen for: real talk, humor & healing perspective on modern dating, inspired by the viral wisdom of Therapy Jeff.💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email info@kellyskoaching.com✨ Connect on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching🔗 All links: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching

What do you do when your husband cheats, your next boyfriend dumps you before your big Europe trip & life completely implodes?If you’re Gabrielle Stone, you buy a plane ticket, grab your journal & write a book about it that becomes a global phenomenon!In this week’s episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with actress, author & queen of heartbreak-to-healing, Gabrielle Stone, to talk about everything from betrayal & love bombing to solo travel & the infamous Self-Love Cocktail.Together, they dive into:✨ The messy truth about healing (spoiler: it’s not linear)✨ How to stop confusing love bombing for real connection✨ Why solo travel is the ultimate breakup glow-up✨ The importance of self-awareness and owning your patterns✨ How to turn rejection into redirection & pain into purposeThis episode is equal parts therapy session and girls’ night- complete with laughter, brutal honesty & the reminder that the person you really need to fall in love with is you.So grab your matcha (or a cocktail) & get ready to feel seen, empowered & maybe even inspired to book that solo trip!🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode)Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingFollow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellestoneShare your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree

In this episode, Kelly shares her personal journey through relationships, focusing on the lessons learned from her past mistakes. She discusses the importance of self-awareness, taking responsibility for one's actions & the need for personal growth after breakups. Kelly reflects on her experiences with anxiety, trust issues & the challenges of maintaining a sense of self-worth in relationships. She emphasises the significance of setting boundaries, recognising red flags & the journey towards healing & independence. Ultimately, Kelly encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences & to embrace the lessons learned from their past.🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord MeditationFollow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok:⁠ @kellyskoaching⁠Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources:⁠ Kelly’s Linktree⁠ Takeaways Kelly reflects on her past relationships and the lessons learned.Self-awareness and taking responsibility are crucial for growth.Anxious attachment styles can impact relationships significantly.Trust issues often stem from insecurity and paranoia.Reassurance should come from within, not solely from partners.Avoiding conflict can lead to unresolved issues in relationships.Having an identity outside of a relationship is essential.Recognising red flags is important for future relationships.Shame can be transformed into valuable lessons for personal growth.Healing involves compassion for oneself and understanding past behaviours.

In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly discusses the often-taboo subject of divorce in Ireland, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She explores the stigma surrounding divorce, the legal processes involved, & the differences between legal separation and divorce. Kelly also highlights the benefits of a DIY divorce, emphasising the importance of mindset and self-empowerment in moving forward. Additionally, she addresses the challenges of dating after divorce and encourages listeners to celebrate new beginnings with a divorce party. The episode concludes with a listener's inspiring story of resilience and personal growth after leaving an abusive relationship.🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord MeditationFollow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingShare your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources: Kelly’s LinktreeTakeawaysDivorce is still stigmatized in Ireland, affecting many people's decisions.Choosing happiness over an unhealthy marriage is essential.Legal separation and divorce are two different processes with distinct implications.DIY divorce can be a cost-effective option for amicable separations.The divorce process in Ireland can be lengthy and confusing.Mindset plays a crucial role in healing after a divorce.Dating after divorce can be daunting, but honesty is key.Celebrating a divorce can be empowering and liberating.It's important to acknowledge the emotional journey of divorce.Sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone in their experiences.

In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly & Dating Coach Lisa-Marie discuss the complexities of dating, healing from breakups & the importance of setting standards in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey through heartbreak & how it led her to become a coach, emphasising the significance of self-worth & belief in love. They explore the process of manifesting love, raising standards & the value of investing in personal growth through coaching or therapy. The conversation highlights the transformative power of breakups & the opportunities they present for self-discovery and growth. In this conversation, Kelly & Lisa-Marie discuss the nuances of dating, the importance of a supportive dating environment & the work required before entering a new relationship. They emphasise the significance of healing & self-awareness in recognising readiness for dating, navigating breakup phases & the necessity of surrendering to the process of finding love. The discussion also touches on the value of investing in oneself & the idea that there are multiple soulmates in life, each serving a purpose in personal growth🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord Meditation Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingShare your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree