Reclaiming Me: Heal Your Childhood Attachment Wounds, People Pleasing, and Complex PTSD for Women

Do unanswered texts or subtle shifts in connection send your nervous system into overdrive—and leave you questioning yourself?If you have an anxious attachment style, moments of uncertainty in relationships can quickly turn into self-doubt, shame, or the urge to people-please. This short midweek reframe helps you slow that cycle by learning self-validation—so instead of judging your reactions, you can understand them, soothe your nervous system, and respond with compassion.Understand why anxious attachment feelings are meaningful signals, not personal flawsLearn how self-validation can calm your nervous system and reduce emotional reactivityPractice simple, trauma-informed self-compassion tools based on Kristen Neff’s researchPress play to learn how self-validation can help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more secure in your relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.Resources:Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in PracticeSue Johnson, Hold Me TightBessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreAmir Levine & Rachel Heller, AttachedDan Siegel, The Developing MindKristen Neff, Self-Compassion, Fierce Self-Compassion-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comConnect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.comC

Do you ever feel like you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop in your relationships—reading into texts, tone shifts, or moments of silence? If you’ve noticed that connection can feel intense, fragile, or anxiety-provoking, this episode speaks directly to that experience. Anxious attachment isn’t about being “too much”—it’s about how your nervous system learned to stay safe in relationships, especially if you grew up with inconsistency, emotional neglect, or trauma. In this episode, you’ll gain:A clear, compassionate understanding of how anxious attachment forms and why it’s so commonInsight into how anxious attachment shows up in adult relationships, including texting anxiety, over-giving, and fear of abandonmentA trauma-informed lens to distinguish anxious attachment from disorganized patterns, especially in the context of CPTSD Press play to finally make sense of your relationship anxiety and learn how understanding attachment can bring relief, clarity, and self-compassion.Resources:Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in PracticeSue Johnson, Hold Me TightBessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreAmir Levine & Rachel Heller, AttachedDan Siegel, The Developing Mind-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever caught yourself overthinking a text, pulling away to protect yourself, or feeling flooded with emotion in relationships—and wondered why it feels so hard to pause? If you’re a woman healing from C-PTSD, attachment triggers can show up fast and feel overwhelming, pulling you into people-pleasing, shutdown, or anxiety before you even realize what’s happening. This episode meets you right in those moments, translating attachment theory into a simple, nervous-system–aware practice you can use in real time to create safety and choice. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize attachment triggers as they happen instead of after the fact. You’ll discover a step-by-step grounding tool to calm your nervous system and interrupt reactive patterns. You’ll gain clarity on what you actually need in triggering moments so you can respond with self-trust and boundaries. Press play to learn the Attachment Pause and start responding to relationship triggers with calm, clarity, and compassion instead of old survival reactions.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Why do you keep choosing the same kinds of partners—even when you know they’re not good for you?If you struggle with people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, emotional shutdown, or that confusing push-pull feeling in relationships, this episode connects the dots between attachment styles and complex PTSD so you can finally understand why your nervous system reacts the way it does—and why it makes so much sense.Gain clarity on how the four attachment styles actually show up in real-life relationships, especially for women with C-PTSDLearn to identify your own nervous system triggers, people-pleasing patterns, and survival responses without shameDiscover practical, trauma-informed ways to move toward secure attachment, stronger boundaries, and deeper self-trustPress play to feel validated, understood, and equipped with insights that can help you break old relationship patterns and start building safer, more secure connections—beginning with yourself.Resources for this episode: Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in PracticeSue Johnson, Hold Me TightBessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreAmir Levine & Rachel Heller, AttachedDan Siegel, The Developing Mind

Do you ever wonder why you cling harder when someone pulls away—or shut down the moment intimacy feels possible?If relationships keep triggering anxiety, withdrawal, or emotional whiplash, this Midweek Reframe connects the dots between your attachment style and your nervous system so you can understand why these patterns show up—and how to respond to them with compassion instead of self-blame.In this episode:Understand how anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment patterns form and why they feel so automaticLearn how your nervous system drives relational reactions like people-pleasing, shutdown, or hypervigilanceDiscover a simple, trauma-informed awareness practice to gently move toward more secure attachment.Press play to gain clarity on your attachment style and take one grounded step toward calmer, more secure relationships.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever wondered why the same painful patterns keep showing up in your relationships—no matter how hard you try to change?If you’ve struggled with emotional triggers, boundary issues, or feeling misunderstood in relationships, this episode connects the dots between attachment styles, core wounds, and real-life healing—showing how awareness can turn chaos into clarity.In this episode:Understand the four attachment styles and how they shape communication and conflictLearn how unhealed core wounds drive emotional reactions—and how to regulate themDiscover practical ways to set and respect boundaries for healthier, more secure relationshipsPress play to hear a powerful, real-life story and gain practical tools that can help you begin transforming your relationships from the inside out.To connect with Bryan Power and/or learn more about his work with the Integrated Attachment Theory, visit: https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With Cindy Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Have you ever felt your stomach drop or your chest tighten—and suddenly you’re people pleasing, apologizing, or overthinking without knowing why?This Midweek Reframe exposes the subtle moment trauma takes over: the instant an emotional flashback begins. You’ll learn how these body-first responses activate people pleasing and attachment wounds long before your mind catches up, and how to spot the shift before it spirals.In this episode, you’ll discover:• The three early signs of emotional flashbacks—“the drop, the story, and the pull”—and what they reveal about your trauma history.• Why naming the sensation in real time reconnects your thinking brain and stops the people-pleasing reflex.• A 10-second three-sentence grounding tool that helps your adult self step in before overwhelm takes over.Press play now to learn how to recognize the earliest moment trauma hijacks your system so you can stop people pleasing at the root and begin healing lifelong attachment wounds.Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a Monday episode (solo or guest) and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.New Episodes Every Week Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing. Work With Cindy Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

Do you ever feel a sudden rush of shame, fear, panic, or people-pleasing — and instantly wonder, “Why am I reacting like this?”For women with childhood attachment wounds and relational trauma, these intense emotional waves aren’t overreactions. They’re emotional flashbacks — a trauma response wired into your nervous system long before you had language for what you felt. In this episode, Cindy explains how emotional flashbacks form, why they're so common for women, and how they link directly to patterns like fawning, self-silencing, and chronic people-pleasing.In this episode, you’ll learn:• How emotional flashbacks differ from classic PTSD flashbacks• Why attachment wounds make you react to subtle cues like tone shifts or silence• How trauma wires your body to respond before your adult mind can step in• A compassionate grounding skill to soothe emotional flashbacks in real timePress play to understand emotional flashbacks with clarity — and learn a gentle, trauma-informed way to interrupt them and reconnect with your grounded, adult self.Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a Monday episode (solo or guest) and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. New Episodes Every Week: Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing. Work With Cindy: Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comConnect With Me: Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted

Are your childhood attachment wounds still shaping how you think, feel, and move through the world—often without you even realizing it.If you’ve been living in a constant state of overthinking, perfectionism, or hypervigilance, this episode helps you understand why your body learned these patterns and how you can gently unwind them. You’ll see how trauma impacts your nervous system and discover simple practices that help you reconnect with your body so you can finally feel grounded and safe within yourself.In this episode:Learn how survival strategies like vigilance and disconnection formed—and how they can become pathways back to healing.Discover grounding practices that calm your nervous system and help you rebuild a healthy connection with your body.Gain practical tools to increase self-awareness, emotional regulation, and a deeper sense of inner safety.Tune in now to explore simple, body-based practices that help you regulate your nervous system and begin reclaiming yourself from the inside out.About the show:This podcast explores the real, human side of growth — from navigating anxiety, imposter syndrome, and codependency to rediscovering presence, confidence, and authenticity. Through honest conversations about vulnerability, leadership, and letting go, we dive into the balance between purpose and rest, mindfulness and action, boundaries and connection. Together, we unpack the layers of trauma, stress, and exhaustion that keep us from fulfillment, and explore how healing begins when we choose awareness, compassion, and alignment over overwhelm.New Episodes Every Week Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing.Work With Cindy Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted

What if the symptoms you’ve spent years blaming yourself for—hypervigilance, overthinking, guilt, emotional exhaustion—are not personality flaws at all, but signs of a trauma you were never given permission to name?If you’ve ever felt “too sensitive,” “too reactive,” or “not enough,” this episode helps you understand why your nervous system responds the way it does. By finally naming the chronic, relational, often-invisible trauma that shaped you, you can begin untangling patterns that once kept you safe but now keep you stuck.• A clear understanding of what Complex PTSD actually is—and how it differs from both Big T and little t trauma.• Validation that your survival patterns (like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence) are adaptive responses, not personal shortcomings.• Language, clarity, and compassion that help your nervous system soften so healing can finally begin.Press play to learn the language, validation, and nervous-system insights that will help you finally understand yourself with clarity instead of self-blame.About the show: This podcast explores the real, human side of growth — from navigating anxiety, imposter syndrome, and codependency to rediscovering presence, confidence, and authenticity. Through honest conversations about vulnerability, leadership, and letting go, we dive into the balance between purpose and rest, mindfulness and action, boundaries and connection. Together, we unpack the layers of trauma, stress, and exhaustion that keep us from fulfillment, and explore how healing begins when we choose awareness, compassion, and alignment over overwhelm. New Episodes Every Week Tune in every Monday for a full-length episode (solo or guest), and every Wednesday for your short Midweek Reframe—a quick skill, concept, or grounding tool to support your healing. Work With Cindy: Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me: Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted

Episode SummaryIn this Midweek Mindset Shift, Cindy introduces a foundational DBT concept—Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise Mind—and explains how these three states shape your reactions, patterns, and nervous system responses. This short, trauma-informed episode guides you in recognizing which mind state you're operating from and how to shift into Wise Mind, the centered place where intuition, clarity, and grounded decision-making meet.This episode is especially supportive for women healing from childhood attachment wounds, people-pleasing patterns, chronic overthinking, and complex PTSD.The difference between Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise MindWhy trauma and attachment wounds make emotional flooding and overthinking more commonHow Wise Mind supports nervous system regulation and balanced decision-makingA practical DBT tool called S.T.O.P. for pausing and choosing a grounded responseHow small shifts in awareness help you break old survival patternsYou are not your emotions or your thoughts. Observing them creates space for choice.Emotion Mind and Reasonable Mind each offer something valuable, but Wise Mind brings balance and clarity.Wise Mind is a practice, not a destination. Consistent small pauses strengthen self-trust and emotional regulation."The body keeps the score, but the mind can learn to guide it." — Bessel van der KolkWebsite: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedWork with Cindy to heal childhood attachment wounds, CPTSD, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, and to reconnect with your true Self.Consider listening to Monday’s full-length episode for a deeper dive into healing attachment wounds, understanding trauma responses, and reclaiming your nervous system.

What if your trauma, people pleasing, and attachment style weren’t signs that something is wrong with you—what if they were the exact reasons Reclaiming Me needed to exist?In this deeply personal rebrand episode, Cindy Payne shares why her own trauma history, lifelong people pleasing, and misunderstood attachment patterns inspired her to transform the podcast into Reclaiming Me. She reveals how her late-life CPTSD diagnosis finally gave language to the survival patterns that shaped her childhood, relationships, and identity—and why women deserve a trauma-informed space built specifically for their healing journey.In this episode, you’ll discover:• Why the shift to Reclaiming Me reflects a deeper mission to support women healing trauma, people pleasing, and attachment wounds• How Cindy’s upbringing, CPTSD diagnosis, and nervous system journey shaped the heart of this new podcast direction• What to expect from Reclaiming Me moving forward, including trauma tools, attachment insights, somatic practices, and weekly grounding episodes designed to help you reclaim your identityPress play now to experience the story behind the Reclaiming Me rebrand and step into a trauma-informed space created to help you stop people pleasing, understand your attachment style, and finally reclaim who you’ve always been.Work with Cindy:Instagram: @CindyPayneRootedWebsite: www.CindyPayne.comPractice: Rooted Counseling & WellnessInformation on therapy and trauma-informed support: www.CindyPayne.comStay Connected: Weekly episodes on trauma, attachment styles, nervous system healing, and people pleasing patterns.Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational use only and does not replace therapy or mental health treatment.

SummaryIn this episode of Unmasking, Cindy introduces a grounding practice called the 'pause and anchor check-in' designed to help individuals manage stress and reconnect with themselves. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in interrupting automatic stress responses, particularly for those with complex PTSD. The episode provides practical steps for implementing this practice in daily life, encouraging listeners to take a moment to assess their thoughts, bodily sensations, and actions to foster a sense of safety and choice.

SummaryIn this conversation, Cindy Payne, Nikki Callaway, and Curtiss Callaway discuss their journeys through addiction, recovery, and the transformative power of storytelling. They share their experiences with treatment, the challenges of postpartum depression, and the importance of agency in recovery. The discussion highlights the significance of personal growth, the role of EMDR in healing, and the shift from enabling behaviors to empowering oneself and others. Ultimately, they emphasize the beauty of ordinary moments and the profound impact of sharing one's story in the recovery process.TakeawaysRecovery is a journey that should not be walked alone.Finding beauty in ordinary moments can lead to emotional change.Postpartum depression can significantly impact a mother's ability to care for her child.Navigating treatment centers can be challenging and requires persistence.The Orchard provided a unique approach to recovery, emphasizing agency.Storytelling plays a crucial role in healing and self-discovery.Defining moments can lead to significant personal growth.EMDR can help identify and address deep-seated beliefs and traumas.The shift from enabling to empowering is essential in recovery relationships.Transformation often comes with pain, but it is necessary for growth.

SummaryIn this episode of Unmasking, Cindy Payne explores the themes of shame, perfectionism, and the journey towards self-trust and authenticity. She discusses the inner critic that many individuals face, particularly those with complex PTSD, and how it can silence their true selves. Through practical exercises, she encourages listeners to pause, ground themselves, and capture their authentic truths, emphasizing that healing comes from being real rather than perfect. The episode serves as a reminder that one's story is valuable, regardless of its polish, and that embracing vulnerability is a crucial step in the healing process.

SummaryIn this episode of Unmasking, host Cindy Payne engages in a heartfelt conversation with Aaron and Nikki, co-founders of the Story of Self program. They explore the transformative power of storytelling in healing from trauma and addiction. The discussion highlights the significance of defining moments in shaping identity, the impact of community in recovery, and the importance of reframing pain into purpose. Aaron shares his personal journey and the origins of the Story of Self framework, while Nikki discusses her transition into leadership within the program. Together, they emphasize the critical role of understanding trauma, especially during formative years, and how individuals can reclaim their narratives through self-discovery and connection. In this conversation, Aaron, Cindy, and Nikki explore the transformative power of storytelling in personal growth and healing. They discuss the importance of guiding individuals through their stories, the journey from pain to purpose, and the courage required to embrace one's narrative. The discussion highlights the goal of sharing a million stories in five years, emphasizing the need for personal accountability and the grace to grow. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to honor their stories and recognize their worth in the journey of change.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey of Healing03:49 The Birth of the Story of Self Program14:10 Understanding the Unique Approach of Story of Self16:39 Identifying Pain Points and False Beliefs24:55 The Significance of Defining Moments in Life28:10 Understanding Childhood Trauma and Its Impact30:36 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Leadership34:51 The Power of Partnership in Healing38:48 The Courage to Own Your Story43:46 A Vision for Change: One Million Stories in Five Years45:46 The Power of Individual Choices48:58 Transforming Stories and Cultures50:49 Honoring Personal Stories54:24 Grace and Permission for Growth56:29 Embracing Pain for Transformation59:00 Connecting and Collaborating for Change01:03:27 artsEntertainment-outro-high-short.wavTo learn more about the Story of Self program, visit: https://storyofself.com/

Keywordstrauma, healing, inner critic, self-trust, body compass, mindfulness, mental health, women empowerment, authentic self, childhood woundsSummaryIn this episode of Unmasking, host Cindy Payne explores the impact of the inner critic on self-trust and healing. She introduces a practical skill called the body compass check-in, which helps listeners connect with their bodies and recognize the sensations associated with their inner critic. Through this practice, listeners learn to invite their authentic selves back in and understand the importance of listening to their body's signals. The episode concludes with a preview of upcoming guests who will discuss the significance of owning and revising one's story.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Healing and Self-Trust01:18 Understanding the Inner Critic03:37 Practicing the Body Compass Check-In07:19 Strengthening Your Body's Compass08:39 Conclusion and Upcoming Guests09:48 artsEntertainment-outro-high-short.wav

Keywordsrest, connection, emotional health, sensory rest, social rest, spiritual rest, trauma-informed care, healing, self-compassion, belongingSummaryIn this episode, Cindy explores the concept of rest, emphasizing its importance in connection and healing. She discusses the four types of rest: sensory, emotional, social, and spiritual, and how each contributes to restoring one's capacity for connection and self-compassion. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she highlights the significance of nurturing relationships and the necessity of allowing oneself to rest without guilt or shame.Chapters00:00 The Essence of Rest and Connection05:21 Exploring the Four Types of Rest06:10 Sensory Rest: Finding Calm in Connection09:16 Emotional Rest: The Safety to Feel14:11 Social Rest: Nourishing Connections16:50 Spiritual Rest: Belonging to Something Bigger20:22 Recap and Key Takeaways27:36 artsEntertainment-outro-high-short.wav

Keywords:rest, trauma, inner critic, mental health, self-care, creative rest, physical rest, emotional safety, mindfulness, neuroplasticitySummary:In this episode of Unmasking, Cindy discusses the importance of rest for trauma survivors, emphasizing that rest is not merely about sleep but about creating a sense of safety. She explores the inner critic that often prevents individuals from resting, detailing how it manifests in physical, mental, and creative rest. Cindy encourages listeners to engage with their inner critic compassionately and to recognize the value of rest as a necessary part of self-care and healing.Takeaways:Rest for trauma survivors is about safety, not just sleep.The inner critic often sounds like discipline or motivation.Physical rest is safety training for the nervous system.Mental rest allows clarity and insight to return.Creative rest is essential for emotional well-being.Beauty is medicine for the soul, not a luxury.Engaging with the inner critic with compassion is key.You don't have to earn your moments of rest.Choosing stillness teaches your nervous system a new truth.Rest can be an act of courage.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Midweek Mind Shift01:29 Understanding Physical Rest03:47 Mental Rest and Clarity05:42 Creative Rest as Medicine07:38 Compassion for the Inner Critic08:37 Conclusion and Invitation to Rest09:43 artsEntertainment-outro-high-short.wav

Keywords:rest, healing, trauma, attachment wounds, self-care, mental health, physical rest, creative rest, mental rest, emotional well-beingSummary:In this episode of Unmasking, Cindy Payne explores the concept of true rest, emphasizing that it goes beyond mere sleep. She discusses the importance of understanding different types of rest—physical, mental, and creative—and how they relate to healing from trauma and attachment wounds. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she highlights the significance of feeling safe enough to rest and the transformative power of allowing oneself to receive rest without guilt. The episode serves as a guide for listeners to reclaim their rest and prioritize self-care in their healing journey.Takeaways:Rest isn't just about sleep; it's about feeling safe.True rest can look different depending on your needs.Physical rest involves letting your body feel safe enough to soften.Mental rest is about stopping the over-management of thoughts.Creative rest allows us to receive beauty without the need to produce.Trauma can make stillness feel threatening.Practicing small acts of reparenting can help reclaim rest.Choosing rest is an act of self-respect.Each type of rest invites reconnection with safety, quiet, and beauty.Healing begins when we allow our bodies to exhale.Chapters:00:00 The Essence of Rest02:38 Understanding the Seven Types of Rest03:38 Exploring Physical Rest07:22 The Importance of Mental Rest11:52 Rediscovering Creative Rest15:40 The Journey to Self-Trust and Safety18:23 artsEntertainment-outro-high-short.wav