Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

In this powerful and refreshingly honest episode of Becoming HER, Nikki sits down with Keesha Scott, mom of three, certified parenting coach, co-founder of Guardian Recovery, and host of the podcast Cake for Dinner.What started as a project tied to her upcoming parenting book has evolved into a movement, one that invites women to have real conversations about motherhood, marriage, sobriety, identity, and the messy middle of becoming who we’re meant to be.Keesha opens up about her personal journey, from early struggles and single motherhood to finding purpose through healing, faith, and self-awareness. She shares how we can release perfectionism, reconnect with who we are in this season, and raise our kids (and ourselves) with more grace and truth.If you’ve ever felt lost in the roles you play as mom, partner, professional, friend, this episode will remind you that becoming her isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about showing up as your truest self, one imperfect day at a time. Tune in.In this episode…The real reason Keesha created Cake for Dinner — and how it grew beyond a book launch.Why women lose their sense of identity in motherhood (and how to reclaim it).The truth about balancing marriage, motherhood, and self.What authenticity really looks like — and how to stop chasing “perfect.”How to strengthen connection and communication with your kids.The mindset shifts that help us thrive in every season of life.Quotes“You can’t outparent genetics.” - Keesha Scott“People don’t connect with perfection. They connect with reality.” - Keesha Scott“Resentment is like drinking the poison but expecting someone else to die.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 3:05 | Intro3:05 - 6:50 | Paths shifting6:50 - 11:00 | Addiction in young people11:00 - 15:25 | Parenting from a pure space15:25 - 17:55 | Coming out the other side17:55 - 20:55 | Turning point20:55 - 23:15 | Staying sober through the hardships23:15 - 26:15 | Rise of the community26:15 - 37:00 | Resentment37:00 - 43:30 | The gift of being a mom43:30 - 45:15 | Different experiences45:15 - 50:15 | Giving life meaning50:15 - 51:50 | The desire to be of service51:50 - 53:00 | Women coming together53:00 - 56:05 | Cake for Dinner56:05 - 56:30 | Single mom56:30 - 58:59 | Outro–SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.Connect with Keesha Scottkeeshascott.com@keeshascottparentcoachConnect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming: HER! In this episode, I sit down with Lauren Allan, a proud Miamian, mom, and Team Leader of the Jo-Ann Forster Team, one of South Florida’s most trusted family-run real estate groups. Lauren shares her inspiring path from social work to real estate, how she carries forward her mother Jo-Ann’s powerful legacy, and what it means to lead with empathy, connection, and confidence in business and at home.You’ll hear a candid conversation about legacy, blended families, and finding grace through change, plus, Lauren offers a peek behind the curtain of the Miami real estate world with practical insights for buyers, sellers, and dreamers alike. Tune in! In this episode…Being a facilitatorRelationshipsSales industryThrillFulfilling a legacyEnergy exchangeSelf- awareness/ finding yourselfGrove vs. GablesBlending familiesAccountability & humility Quotes“My mom taught me that real estate isn’t about houses, it’s about people, relationships, and trust.” - Lauren Allen “My parents were very good at letting me be me, and that was a gift and an honor.” - Lauren Allen “The level of your peace comes down to your ability to face change with grace.” - Nikki Spo“Every birthday I ask myself, do I like myself more now than I did last year?” - Lauren Allen Timestamps:0:00 - 2:30 | Intro2:30 - 6:50 | Lauren’s journey6:50 - 11:15 | Facilitator11:15 - 14:55 | Relationship-centric14:55 - 19:50 | Legacy19:50 - 24:00 | Energetic exchange24:30 - 33:15 | Lauren’s favorite neighborhood33:15 - 35:35 | South Miami35:35 - 40:40 | Staying grounded40:40 - 43:55 | Cash offer43:55 - 46:45 | Condo market46:45 - 53:10 | Lauren’s personal life53:10 - 57:55 | Dating after divorce57:55 - 58:55 | Accountability & humility58:55 - 1:01:00 | What does becoming her mean to Lauren1:01:00 - 1:03:30 | Outro Connect with Lauren Allenhttps://www.joannforsterteam.com/@laurengallan / @joannforsterteam Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming: HER, the podcast where we explore the real, raw, and remarkable journey of stepping into who we’re meant to be.Today, I’m joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom, attorney, ADHD-er, and autism mom coach whose work is changing the narrative around resilience, motherhood, and self-regulation.Lisa is the host of The Autism Mom Podcast, which ranks in the top 2%, and her upcoming book dives deep into what it means to be a “solid object” for your child, not fixing, not co-escalating, but standing steady in the storm.In a world that tells moms to “tough it out,” Lisa is helping women rewrite that story, to find peace not through pushing harder, but through accepting change and regulating ourselves first.We’re going to talk about the myths that keep autism moms stuck in guilt and shame, the “tough it out” mentality that’s quietly burning women out, and what real strength and peace can look like when we lead from self-awareness and compassion. Tune in!   In this episode…Hope to parents Toughing it out vs. not toughing it out Being a GOOD human being Labels The evolvement of autism Support groups The autism umbrella Toolbox   Quotes “It really takes self-aware adults to raise self-aware children.” - Nikki Spo  “The first step is to understand what your triggers are as a parent. It's never the behavior, it's always so much underneath that.” - Lisa Candera    Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:00 | Intro 4:00 - 4:50 | Bottle lessons up & deliver them 4:50 - 8:40 | Lisa’s perspective on resilience 8:40 - 10:45 | The labels…10:45 - 12:10 | Self-regulation as an adult 12:10 - 20:25 | How autism has evolved 20:25 - 23:35 | Community 23:35 - 28:10 | Thinking its a “phase” 28:10 - 33:20 | Mothers instinct 33:20 - 38:05 | Being held captive by your self 38:05 - 40:20 | A crisis point 40:20 - 42:35 | Pausing before reacting 42:35 - 48:05 | Toolbox for parents 48:05 - 52:40 | Assigning meaning 52:40 - 53:50 | Difference between our closet & our brain 53:50 - 57:35 | Qualities that make autism special 57:35 - 1:00:46 | Outro    To every mom listening: You are doing your best in circumstances that don’t always make space for softness, and that’s exactly why conversations like this matter.If today’s episode resonated with you, go follow Lisa and listen to The Autism Mom Podcast, her work is a lifeline for any parent walking this journey.And as always, thank you for tuning in to Becoming: HER. I’m Nikki Spoelstra, and I’ll see you next week as we continue learning, growing, and becoming, together.   —Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!   Connect with Lisa Candera theautismmomcoach.com@theautismmomcoach    Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming: HER, the podcast where we peel back the layers of what it really means to live, lead, and love as the most confident version of ourselves. I’m your host, Nikki Spoelstra—and today’s guest embodies that journey in the most powerful way.Simone Knego is the award-winning author of The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You and co-host of Her Unshakeable Confidence, the hit intergenerational podcast she hosts with her daughter. She’s climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, raised six children in a beautifully blended, multicultural family, and built a global platform around one truth—that confidence isn’t about perfection, it’s about showing up real, raw, and unapologetically you.In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to lead from the inside out, stop waiting for permission, and find your voice—even when the world tells you to shrink. Let’s dive in with the extraordinary, unordinary Simone Knego.  In this episode…Learning from your children Adoption Crohn's If its mentionable, its manageable Book of life Family unit Business of being marriedThe kitchen table leadership    Quotes“When you have some sort of struggle it doesn’t define you, it’s just a piece of who you are.” - Simone Knego“Self-care is NEVER selfish.” - Simone Knego “I often call it the business of being married because it is more than just love, it is a lot of work that goes into keeping and sustaining a relationship.” - Nikki Spo   Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:40 | Intro2:40 - 4:00 | Simone’s story 4:00 - 4:50 | Six children 4:50 - 6:25 | Crohn's disease 6:25 - 11:00 | How your children shape your identity 11:00 - 13:15 | Equal attention for your children 13:15 - 16:50 | Subconscious assigned role in a family unit 16:50 - 19:40 | Mom’s taking time for themselves 19:40 - 21:50 | Husband involvement 21:50 - 26:35 | The kitchen table leadership 26:35 - 29:55 | Extraordinary 29:55 - 36:20 | Mindset shift  36:20 - 38:35 | Moving forward 38:35 - 41:45 | Living up to others expectations41:45 - 49:45 | You don’t need permission to be yourself   49:45 - 1:04:36 | REAL    If this conversation spoke to you in the audience, take a moment today to reflect on where you might still be waiting for a green light or for your own permission slip to get moving.   –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.    Connect with Simone Knego https://simoneknego.com/@simoneknego  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

 If you’ve been doing everything right, eating clean, moving your body, getting your sleep, but still feeling tired, anxious, bloated, or just not like yourself, this episode is going to speak straight to your soul. This week on Becoming: HER, I sat down with Lauren Papanos, MS, RD, CSSD, a board-certified sports dietitian and hormone expert who helps high-performing women uncover the hidden thyroid and hormone imbalances quietly draining their energy.Lauren and I dive deep into why so many ambitious women are running on empty, what your labs might be missing, and how to finally restore your energy and confidence from the inside out. She shares real, practical tools you can start using today. No restrictive diets, no guilt, just aligned, sustainable healing.Tune in and learn how to reconnect with your body, honor your hormones, and step into the vibrant energy that’s been waiting for you all along.   In this episode…PCOS Feminine frustration Healthy isn’t enough Fatigue Many layers of PCOS leveling upChanging perspective Mental & physical health  Quotes“Healthy looks different for everybody.” - Lauren Papanos “When you have the financial stability, you have the freedom to make certain choices.” - Nikki Spo“We put pressure on ourselves to do the most all of the time when in reality the solution lies with doing less.” - Nikki Spo  Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 2:50 - 5:20 | PCOS5:20 - 8:45 | Medical history 8:45 - 13:10 | Healthy isn’t enough 13:10 - 15:45 | Mental health & physical health working together15:45 - 18:15 | Financial freedom 18:15 - 25:15 | Energy crisis25:15 - 26:50 | Self-assessments 26:50 - 30:35 | Signs 30:35 - 34:10 | Thyroid & gut 34:10 - 41:15 | Being an advocate for your own health 41:15 - 47:45 | Obstacles & solutions 47:45 - 53:45 | Being TOO busy 53:45 - 55:25 | A small shift  55:25 - 57:52 | Outro  If this episode spoke to you, I’d love for you to take a moment to share it with another woman who needs to hear it. These conversations are meant to remind us that we’re not alone, and that healing and alignment are possible for every one of us.Make sure you’re subscribed to Becoming: HER wherever you listen to podcasts and if you haven’t yet, come connect with me on Instagram @nikkisappspo. Until next time, remember: you are powerful, you are capable, and you are becoming her. 💛  —Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!    Connect with Lauren Papanos https://functionalfueling.com/@functional.fueling  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome listeners! I am thrilled to introduce today's guest, Ashley Arguello co-ceo and co-founder of the innovative new social navigation app canwe. She is a former division one basketball player who shifted to a double major at NYU who combines strategic insight with genuine heart. This week Ashley and I are talking about everything from what it’s like to work with your mans, sustaining friendships through life changes, and what it means to Ashley to be a modern matriarch. Tune in!  In this episode…Marriage is a team True forgiveness Deifying Us against the problem  Honor & humility Success Having a mission together Being seen, heard, & understood  Being feminine is beautiful   Quotes“Without God in your marriage, it is impossible.” - Ashley Arguello“True forgiveness is SO important in marriage.” - Ashley Arguello“I think that there is room for all of us at the top and that there is more that can happen when we collaborate rather than compete.” - Nikki Spo“The most successful men are the ones who lift their female partner up with them.” - Nikki Spo  Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 2:10 - 7:10 | What it means to be married 7:10 - 11:15 | Forgiveness 11:15 - 15:55 | Canwe app 15:55 - 18:40 | Sustaining the faith to follow your passion 18:40 - 19:55 | Collaboration over competition 19:55 - 22:00 | Working with your mans 22:00 - 25:55 | Honoring each other in a marriage   25:55 - 29:05 | Recognition & appreciation 29:05 - 31:45 | Projection 31:45 - 37:25 | Faith based marriage 37:24 - 42:35 | Motherhood & working 42:35 - 46:40 | Wanting stability 46:40 - 47:35 | Jealousy 47:35 - 49:40 | Being feminine is beautiful 49:40 - 51:46 | How Ashely and Ernesto have influenced others 51:46 - 54:55 | Integrity  54:55 - 1:01:15 | Friendships 1:01:15 - 1:04:50 | Growth, connection, or transformation 1:04:50 - 1:07:05 | Outro   –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.    Connect with Ashley Arguello canwe.app@ashleytaylorarguello@canwe_app  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We are BACK for part 3! This week we are talking about specialty provisions which I am SO excited about. This is gonna be a fun rapid fire episode where we are covering prenups, postnups, marital settlement agreements, and ALL the specialty provisions that can go into them. Tune in!In this episode…Parenting planInvolvement in ex’s life “Daddy” and “Mommy” clausesRight of first refusal Radical acceptance & detachmentFreedom Rediscovering yourself Non-disclosure agreementsInfidelity clausesSunset clausesQuotes“When one parent vacates a space, the other one can step into it.” - Rachel Kipnis “We all have roles in a marriage, but when you aren’t married anymore you are going to have different roles.” - Rachel Kipnis “You can still be who you are and practice radical acceptance. Practicing radical acceptance and radical detachment is SO important.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 2:15 | Intro 2:15 - 5:40 | “Daddy clause”5:40 - 10:10 | Right of first refusal 10:10 - 11:30 | Roles 11:30 - 13:00 | Radical acceptance & detachment13:00 - 15:30 | Freedom15:30 - 23:30 | Non-disclosure agreements 23:30 - 34:15 | Infidelity clauses 34:15 - 36:50 | Sunset clause 36:50 - 38:05 | Advice 38:05 - 40:03 | Outro Connect with Rachel @thesplitstrategist Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER and part 2 of our 3-part series with Rachel Kipnis. This week, we’re diving into one of the most important steps in the divorce process: choosing the RIGHT divorce attorney. Rachel shares what questions to ask, what red flags to look out for, and how to find someone who aligns with your values and goals so you can move forward with confidence and clarity.Tune in to hear more! In this episode… Divorce rings Strategy The RIGHT attorney Non-negotiables Marriage roles Qualities in an attorney Asking WHYHigh net worth divorce Quotes“The person that you choose to represent you not only because of their abilities and strategy, but it will change how you feel about the experience. If you have the right person, they will have a lasting effect on your life.” - Rachel Kipnis “You want someone who is in your corner, but I can be in your corner and still say no to you.” - Rachel Kipnis Timetamps: 0:00 - 1:40 | Intro 1:40 - 3:00 | Divorce rings 3:00 - 5:10 | Explaining divorce to kids 5:10 - 6:20 | Choosing the right attorney 6:20 - 10:15 | Not wanting a yes-attorney 10:15 - 15:20 | What are the questions to ask15:20 - 17:00 | Consult more than one attorney 17:00 - 18:50 | Bitter feelings 18:50 - 22:30 | Types of divorce processes  22:30 - 24:20 | Qualities to look for in an attorney as a woman 24:20 - 27:30 | Asking WHY 27:30 - 31:10 | Knowing yourself 31:10 - 39:10 | High net worth divorce 39:10 - 40:30 | Don’t hire a friend 40:30 - 47:40 | Weighing strategy with personality 47:40 - 43:40 | Emotional support 43:40 - | Things CAN and WILL get better –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Rachel @thesplitstrategist Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming: HER everybody! I am so excited to introduce this week's guest who is one of my closest friends, Rachel Kipnis. This is actually going to be a three part series because we have multiple things to talk about within the same category. Rachel is a powerhouse family law attorney who specializes in high net worth prenups, post-nups, divorces, and parenting plans. She has seen it ALLL when it comes to love, marriage, and what happens when things don’t go as planned. Rachel is here today to give us the knowledge, tools, and the confidence to navigate these often intimidating conversations. Over the next three episodes we are breaking it down; Part One - How to approach a prenup with clarity and confidence, Part Two - How to choose the right attorney if you are facing a divorce, and Part Three - Speciality clauses like NDAs, infidelity clauses, and more, what they mean and why they matter. This series is about empowerment, awareness, and protecting yourself without losing sight of love. Lets dive in!In this episode… ClarityPrenups Privacy  Mindset Knowing what it looks like when you leave Financial disclosure Business of marriage Energy exchange Study the documents Quotes“I knew what I was doing was important work, but I didn't feel like my soul was satisfied by it.” - Rachel Kipnis “Prenups can be kind.” - Rachel Kipnis “There have been successful men who have built their success on the backs of women.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 3:05 | Intro3:05 - 4:40 | Clarity 4:40 - 11:15 | Prenups 11:15 - 17:50 | Mindset shift 17:50 - 18:45 | Financials 18:45 - 22:15 | Breaking the document stigma 22:15 - 31:40 | Red flags in a prenup  31:40 - 36:25 | Key provisions to include in a prenup36:25 - 38:45 | Homemakers  38:45 - 42:40 | How to ensure both parties do what they are supposed to 42:40 - 46:00 | Myths to debunk about prenups 46:00 - 47:41 | Outro –Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Rachel @thesplitstrategist Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What’s up everybody and welcome BACK to the Becoming: HER podcast where we talk about becoming the BOLDEST and most unapologetic versions of ourselves. This week I am thrilled to introduce my guest, Tanya Jane. Tanya is a powerhouse mindset coach who helps high-achieving women 10x their lives, businesses, and bank accounts without falling into the trap of constant hustle. She believes in building success from the inside out, and her work is all about creating alignment freedom and abundance without the burnout. Get ready because this conversation is going to be packed with tools that you can apply right away to elevate every area of your life!In this episode… The hustle 10x your life Success energetics Persistence What lights YOU up Mindset Quotes“The mentality is hustle, struggle, sacrifice to get you to the success that you desire.” - Tanya Jane “Those dopamine hits keep you around longer than they should. You gotta know when to leave.” - Nikki Spo “If you want to begin to 10x your life, you have to be open to changing the way you do things. Breaking patterns.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:40 | Intro 2:40 - 8:15 | Without the hustle 8:15 - 17:25 | What lights YOU up 17:25 - 21:05 | What the f**k do you like?!21:05 - 25:05 | Happiness 25:05 - 25:55 | Comfort in familiarity 25:55 - 30:40 | Attaching meaning 30:40 - 34:10 | Act how you wanna feel vs. fake it till you make it 34:10 - 39:15 | Commitment to the misery 39:15 - 46:30 | Glowing UP  46:30 - 53:00 | Mindset 53:00 - 55:00 | Fear as fuel 55:00 - | 3 action steps –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Tanya @thetanyajane Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming: HER. This week I have a special guest who you may know from the screen but I am excited for you to get to know on a much deeper level. Joining me is Alexia Echavarria, one of the stars of the Real Housewives of Miami. While many of us have seen her glamorous and fiery personality on the show, Alexia’s story goes far beyond reality TV. She is a devoted mother, a woman who walked through unimaginable challenges, and someone who has had to redefine herself in the face of heartbreak, in the face of change and reinvention, all while being in the public eye. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Resilience Courage Having to buck UP Speaking your truth  Faith A mothers instinct Keeping the stars in your eyes Quotes“I don’t think people can invest enough in their health, their body, and their brain.” - Nikki Spo “It is never too late to rebuild. You have to rebuild first internally and find yourself again.” - Alexia Echavarria“I am enjoying just being me and choosing peace over chaos.” - Alexia Echavarria“Marriage is a business of life.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 3:05 | Intro3:05 - 4:20 | Courageousness vs. fearlessness   4:20 - 7:20 | Resilience 7:20 - 9:45 | Mourning your old life 9:45 - 12:45 | Moving through the trauma 12:45 - 18:35 | A mothers instinct 18:35 - 22:15 | Mental health in kids 22:15 - 24:45 | A family breakup 24:45 - 27:30 | Reinventing yourself 27:30 - 36:05 | Falling in love again 36:05 - 42:30 | Public eye 42:30 - 44:45 | The housewives 44:45 - 50:30 | Long-standing friends 50:30 - 57:55 | Jealous men 57:55 - 59:10 | Ignorance 59:10 - 1:01:35 | Objectively funny 1:01:35 - 1:03:30 | Legacy 1:03:30 - 1:06:05 | Shame1:06:05 - 1:07:50 | Girls girl 1:07:50 - 1:09:13 | Outro Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Alexia @alexiae_says Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ladies and gents welcome back! This week's guest is a force of transformation, Silvia Subirana. She is a clinical psychologist and the head of content development at MyDry30, a revolutionary app helping people rethink their relationship with alcohol not through restrictment, but rather rediscovery, fulfillment, and change. Get ready to learn tangible tools for emotional wellness, intentional living, and how to lead from inside out! In this episode… Demographics Binge drinking SoberCURIOUS Mocktails Controlled drinking Habits Changing the people, places, & things Urge surfing Quotes“People like that feeling of being drunk. I always say that you can have that without the substances.” - Silivia Subriana“People are looking for festivity when they are drinking.” - Nikki Spo “Being sober curious is way more different than pursuing sobriety.” - Silivia SubrianaTimestamps: 0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 2:00 - 3:55 | Demographics 3:55 - 6:20 | Generations 6:20 - 9:00 | Mocktail culture 9:50 - 12:40 | Reconnecting with self 12:40 - 17:10 | Stop & think 17:10 - 20:45 | Changing the people, places, & things 20:45 - 27:10 | Resources 27:10 - 30:35 | Turning to a higher power  30:35 - 33:55 | Urge surfing 33:55 - 36:05 | Control 36:05 - 39:40 | Unprocessed emotions 39:40 - 42:10 | Making a change 42:10 - 45:45 | OutroJoin Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Silvia Subrianahttps://um.app/ Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome BACK to part 2 with Yuri Cordero. In this episode we're diving into the art of true submission, not the kind that diminishes you, but the kind that expands your power. We talk about feminism, what it means to have a strong partner (mentally and emotionally), and how to navigate the lonely seasons without feeling truly alone. Tune in! In this episode…Submission Alpha women Feminism A strong man (mentally) Feeling lonely but not alone Trusting yourself Quotes“True submission is not a man stepping on your head.” - Yuri Cordero “I think there are a lot of men who grew up and now they’re looking for their mom as a partner.” - Nikki Spo“I am not gonna ignore it. I am going to hold up a mirror for humanity.” - Nikki Spo“If you don’t go through the process, you will not make progress.” - Yuri Cordero Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:10 | Submission 4:10 - 6:10 | Feminism 6:10 - 10:10 | A non-threatening partner 10:10 - 14:00 | Having a human experience 14:00 - 17:30 | Trusting yourself 17:30 - 22:30 | Mental health  22:30 - 25:10 | Empathy 25:10 - 28:00 | Going through the process  28:00 - 31:45 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Yuri Cordero https://yuricordero.com/ https://yuricordero.com/librosycursos/p/the-virtue-of-the-process @yuri_cordero  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Hey friends, so— a bit of a heavier topic today but one, as parents, we have to consider: protecting our kids from predators online and… IRL.With kids going back to school in the next few weeks, I've been thinking a lot about how I want to show up as a parent, especially as my kids become more and more exposed to tech. That includes having tough conversations that maybe make me as a parent uncomfortable. This week's guest Erin Williamson is the chief programs and strategy officer at love146 where she leads efforts to prevent child trafficking and exploitation. With over 20 years of experience in social services and child protection, Erin has developed trauma informed programs that have reached thousands of vulnerable youth across the U.S. In this episode…Lightness with heavy topics Warning signs Seeking survival ShameBeing informed Vulnerability High-level psychological manipulation  Quotes“Everybody has been seeking some sort of survival since the beginning of humankind.” - Nikki Spo “An informed parent is always going to be in a better position even if it's hard to hear the information.” - Nikki Spo “We have to figure out how to raise children with the knowledge that we have without raising them to be scared of the world.” - Erin Williamson “If you’re old enough to have a phone, you’re old enough to have these conversations.” Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:35 | Intro 2:35 - 4:35 | Lightness with heavy topics 4:35 - 8:55 | Erin’s journey 8:55 - 11:45 | Seeking survival11:45 - 13:20 | Being informed 13:20 - 18:15 | How this is happening 18:15 - 23:55 | Rule breaking 23:55 - 26:00 | Being believed 26:00 - 33:10 | When we know better, we do better 33:10 - 35:00 | A safe adult 35:00 - 39:00 | Internet 39:00 - 44:35 | Age restrictions 44:35 - 47:40 | Making an impact 47:40 - 49:28 | Outro ResourcesTo Raise a Boy  Wait Until 8th Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Erin Williamson https://love146.org/team_member/erin-williamson/ @love146 Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER! This week's conversation is one that I truly believe that every single woman needs to hear. Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, or even in your 20s, you need to hear this. We know that a lot of the women in their 50s are already tackling some of these topics head on, but I am really REALLY interested in my target demographic. All the listeners that keep coming here week after week to hear these conversations, THIS IS FOR YOU! We want to talk about what to do when something starts to feel… a little bit off. Joining me this week is the brilliant and compassionate Dr. Jila Senemar. She is a Miami based OBGYN and a hormone and wellness expert who is changing the game for women navigating perimenopause and menopause. You are NOT alone and you are NOT broken. Tune in to learn more!  In this episode… DestigmatizingHormone therapyYou are STILL relevant Reinventing & restarting Education PerimenopauseA woman's intuitionQuotes“With maturity comes a sense of grace, comes a sense of confidence, and a state of presence of mind you just simply don’t have in your 20s, and sometimes even in your 30s.” - Nikki Spo“What I want the younger generation to be ready for is what it is, why it's happening, that it's natural, there are lots of things that we can do to have a smooth transition.” - Dr. Jila Senemar “I am going to take everything back, start from scratch, and learn better.”  - Dr. Jila Senemar Timestamps:0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 2:50 - 6:30 | Reinventing & restarting 6:30 - 9:20 | Dr. Jila Senemar’s journey 9:20 - 11:45 | Being educated on your body 11:45 - 17:15 | Perimenopause 17:15 - 19:45 | A woman's intuition19:45 - 23:50 | Where to start… 23:50 - 28:08 | Estrogen 28:08 - 34:10 | It’s sexy to be educated 34:10 - 37:15 | Normal aging 37:15 - 39:25 | PCOS39:25 - 44:10 | Holistic approach44:10 - 48:40 | Regulating hormones  48:40 - 50:30 | Becoming the voice & face for this cause 50:30 - 52:16 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Dr. Jila Senemar https://jilamd.com/ @drjilasenemar Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcoming everyone to another empowering episode of Becoming: HER. This week we are honored to have Jana Boyko join us. Jana is a celebrated entrepreneur speaker and author who has guided over 100 brands and businesses ranging from startups to established enterprises. She is the founder of all of her business, a coaching practice that is dedicated to supporting women transitioning from employees to entrepreneurs. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Risking it allFears EntrepreneurshipDesires  Speaking up Foundational plan Quotes:“I do find a tremendous amount of freedom in being able to run my own business.” - Nikki Spo“Entrepreneurship is actually a very natural thing if you think about it, we have been entrepreneurs since the very beginning creating things of value and receiving value in return.” - Jana Boyko  “Allowing ourselves to sit in that place of desire is where the best business comes from.” - Jana Boyko “In many ways, our businesses will tell us what they want to become.” - Jana Boyko Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:15 | Intro 2:15 - 5:00 | Jana’s journey 5:00 - 6:55 | Fears of risking it all6:55 - 9:30 | Rooted in service 9:30 - 11:25 | Speaking up 11:25 - 12:55 | Agility 12:55 - 17:20 | First steps to transition from employee to entrepreneur 17:20 - 19:30 | Narrowing yourself down 19:30 - 21:40 | Jobs are not meant to be stable 21:40 - 23:15 | Needing a boost 23:15 - 26:05 | How essential is a business plan 26:05 - 28:50 | Developing a business plan 28:50 - 29:55 | Journaling 29:55 - 32:05 | How do women approach an entrepreneurial lifestyle 32:05 - 37:40 | Obstacles 37:40 - 40:30 | Having the grit 40:30 - 41:20 | Activating the child mindset 41:20 - 42:35 | Actionable advice 42:35 - 44:23 | Outro Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Jana Boyko https://www.janaboyko.com/ @bedsidebusinessplan / @janaboyko Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Hello beautiful souls! Welcome back to the Becoming: HER podcast where we are stepping into the HER of our highest desires. This week we are joined by a woman whose story is a masterclass in grace, grit, and growth, Yuri Cordero. Yuri is the Vice President and Executive Producer of Univision and has been a leading force in the Spanish language media for over 27 years. Beyond these titles, Yuri is a woman who has walked through fire and come out stronger, softer, and more certain of who she is. Tune in to find out more! In this episode…Imposter syndrome Being tough Hardships Being good to yourself Slowing down Blocking our blessings Quotes“We need to believe that we are supposed to be there because if that door wasn’t for you to open and walk in, it would never have let you go inside in the first place. It wouldn't have opened.” - Yuri Cordero “Your hardship is not more significant than mine. Everything can be subjective. The worst thing that ever happened in your life is what happened in YOUR life.” - Nikki Spo“We are all going through very different and difficult things in life but they are all just packaged differently.” - Nikki Spo “Even though the man is the head, we are the neck.” - Yuri Cordero & Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 2:50 - 5:45 | Imposter syndrome 5:45 - 7:55 | Tired of being tough 7:55 - 11:10 | Hardships 11:10 - 12:20 | Being good to yourself 12:20 - 13:20 | The virtue of the process 13:20 - 16:16 | What makes a strong marriage 16:16 - 17:40 | Everything is for a reason 17:40 - 20:05 | How does the head (the man) come into play20:05 - 22:25  | Prioritizing your marriage 22:25 - 25:20 | Energy & decisions25:20 - 26:30 | Relationships are NOT one-sided  26:30 - 29:25 | Being a provider 29:25 - 30:40 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Yuri Cordero https://yuricordero.com/ https://yuricordero.com/librosycursos/p/the-virtue-of-the-process @yuri_cordero  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome to Becoming: HER! This week I have the huge honor of presenting my guest, Jaime Morgan. She is a motivational speaker, personal growth and divorce expert who you might remember I hosted many moons ago and I would like to welcome her BACK to the NEW show. Tune in!BTW. Are you looking for deeper connection? You know what I say. “Come sit with us.” But for real. Join my EXCLUSIVE online women’s community for Becoming: HER today.Xoxo, Nikki Spo In this episode… Gottman Method Fight or flight Nervous system reactions Coming back to selfMoving through & beyond Unconditional vs. conditional love  Quotes“As humans, when we go into fight or flight we have been wired to run away from danger.” - Jaime Morgan “You can’t change your past but you can allow yourself to forgive yourself.” - Jaime Morgan “It’s very hard to exist in a world where we think that romantic love is unconditional yet self-love is conditional, like what the eff is that.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:05 | Intro 2:05 - 7:15 | Overview of the Gottman Method 7:15 - 9:55 | Homecoming 9:55 - 12:00 | Changing perspectives 12:00 - 15:05 | Moving through post-divorce life15:05 - 18:00 | Unlearning habits 18:00 - 22:48 | Unconditional vs. conditional love 22:48 - 25:40 | Trying to control the controllable 25:40 - 28:30 | Moving through an identity shift28:30 - 36:00 | Letting go 36:00 - 39:40 | Pain management 39:40 - 45:25 | Biggest fears in women post-divorce 45:25 - 47:21 | Outro Revisit Episode 81: Revamping Your Relationships with The Gottman Method and Jaime Morgan Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Jaime Morgan https://www.jaimemorgan.com/ Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back for Part 2! Ayana Rodriguez is back and we’re picking up right where we left off—getting real about what it means to raise resilient, grounded, and emotionally intelligent kids in today’s world.In this episode, we talk about building grit, embracing accountability, and the power of learning through life’s lessons. Nikki and Ayana open up about raising kids with empathy, the importance of recognizing that we all have choices, and how shifting our lens can shape the way we show up for ourselves and our children.We also take a closer look at her mission behind itavi, and why it's more than just a childcare brand–it’s a movement rooted in purpose. Tune in!-BTW. Are you looking for deeper connection? You know what I say. “Come sit with us.” But for real. Join my EXCLUSIVE online women’s community for Becoming: HER today. Xoxo,Nikki SpoIn this episode…Building GritAccountabilityInstant GratificationShaping the Next Generation of MenLearning LessonsHaving Zero ExpectationsSeeing Through a New LensAbout itavi Quotes “As my children are getting older I am trying to always acknowledge; thank you for being the person who you are choosing to show to be.” - Ayana Rodriguez“They might find themselves in that situation once, but it's being able to learn from that lesson so that they don't find themselves in that situation 2, 3, 4 times over again.” - Ayana Rodriguez“God gives you the lesson as long as you need to learn it” - Nikki Spo“I think there's a moment in time, when you can take a step back and reflect and say: I don't quite have the right lens, but I know that there is a different lens.” - Ayana RodriguezTimestamps:0:00 - 0:37 | Empathy is Huge.0:37 - 0:56 | Message from SANA SKIN STUDIO0:56 - 1:28 | Intro1:28 - 3:11 | Building Grit3:11 - 4:45 | Nikki’s Experience Teaching 7th Grade4:45 - 7:37 | Accountability is What Leads Us to Resiliency7:37 - 9:40 | Using Social Media For Good9:40 - 12:40 | Instant Gratification 12:40 - 14:35 | “You’re Participating in the Locker Room Talk”14:35 - 15:53 | Empathy is the Key15:53 - 16:50 | Message from SANA SKIN STUDIO16:50 - 17:16 | Join the Becoming: HER Online Community17:16 - 19:30 | “God Gives You the Lesson As Long As You Need to Learn It”19:30 - 21:20 | “At the Top People Are Collaborating”/Competitiveness2120 - 22:50 | Do No Harm, Take No Sh*t22:50 - 25:33 | The Power of Choice/Changing the Lens25:33 - 26:19 | Everyone Has Choices26:19 - 31:17 | About itavi31:17 - 31:35 | Message from SANA SKIN STUDIO31:35 - 32:32 | Outro    —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/aboutConnect with Ayana RodriguezItaviConnect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappso / @wearebecoming_herSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER! This week I have the huge honor of presenting my guest, Alethea Crimmins a.k.a the positivity queen. Alethea is reaching millions of people with her IG platform with uplifting mantras like “be great in their face.” Tune in to hear more!In this episode…Having a turning point Becoming the best version of yourself Defining self love  Becoming the HER of your highest desires Making ME proud of ME Writing your own story Quotes“If we become our favorite version of ourselves then we will start to feel that way about us.” - Alethea Crimmins“From a young age we have been seeking out worth in the eyes of others.” - Nikki Spo“I believe that our spirits are born pure and beautiful but our humanity is homed and shaped overtime.” - Nikki Spo  “I can love you without you having access to me and I can love you without you having access to my space.” - Alethea Crimmins“When somebody tells you something and it makes you feel some type of way, you take that in, you internalize it, and then that becomes your identity and that becomes who you say that you are.” - Alethea CrimminsTimestamps: 0:00 - 4:20 | Intro 4:20 - 8:10 | Becoming: HER 8:10 - 10:40 | Turning point 10:40 - | Being LOUD with your message 17:25 - 25:35 | Identity 25:35 - | Being the hero of your own story 27:15 - 31:15 | Making the change 31:15 - 34:00 | Doubling down on yourself 34:00 - 37:10 | Being your true self 37:10 - 39:05 | Becoming the butterfly 39:05 - 42:30 | How long do we stay in unhealthy relationships 42:30 - 45:40 | Showing up how you want to show up 45:40 - 59:12 | Haters –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Alethea Crimmins@aletheacrimminshttps://iamalethea.com/  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.