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Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was created by a woman named Marsha Linehan in the 1980s. The skills she created are now taught all over the world. DBT can improve depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and other mental health struggles. We are Kate and Michelle, two mental health therapists in Seattle, WA. We have been teaching DBT groups as a team for years. Whether you've never heard of DBT before or are experienced with DBT skills, this podcast is here to help you use DBT skills in your daily life.
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It's time for a re-do! When Kate and Michelle first recorded this episode, it was during COVID which resulted in poor sound quality as they adjusted to recording virtually. In this special re-recorded episode, they explain the ABC skill all over again, offering new insights and perspectives that they didn't share 5 years ago when it was first recorded. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/...
Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about feeling empty, feeling alone after a divorce, willfulness about using skills, and having a manager who acts out of alignment with your values. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandm...
1Welcome to the first Mega Q & A episode where 8 listener questions are answered! Kate and Michelle answer questions about processing overwhelming emotions, irritability as a stay-at-home mom, taking a break from marijuana use, ruminating on previous conversations, coping with divorce, workplace trauma, practicing skills when not in a crisis, and if it's okay to learn DBT on your own. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here...
Kate and Michelle each share personal examples of how they have noticed dialectics in their own lives recently and how their personal examples can be applied more broadly to dialectics that many people may experience. You can sign up for Diana's online DBT community by going to this link: https://www.dbtforlife.com/dbt-for-life-community Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-grou...
Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about feeling afraid to be happy, determining when coping skills are helpful, using DBT for gaslighting, and accepting strong feelings even when skills are being used. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.et...
Kate and Michelle are passionate about normalizing that there will inevitably be DBT skills that aren't a good fit for everyone and that you're not going to like every skill. In this episode, they each open up about 3 skills that they struggle to use and/or dislike. They went outside of their comfort zone to intentionally use each skill recently and they discuss what those experiences were like. They also share some suggestions for how you can successfully do the same in your own life with sk...
Kate and Michelle share how they are currently using wise mind in their lives before discussing 3 updates they want to make to how they originally spoke about wise mind in episode 2. They end the episode by sharing 6 new ideas for how to find wise mind that they have not talked about before. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop...
Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about dealing with invalidation from others, positive attributes of DBT facilitators, conversations with family members who ignore boundaries, managing obsessive thoughts about health anxiety. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 24:00 to 25:17 Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-5182...
Kate and Michelle talk about limerence (the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person) by answering a series of listener questions about the topic and discussing how DBT skills can help when this is being experienced. Magic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time o...
Accepting the ending of any kind of relationship can be extremely challenging and filled with grief. Kate and Michelle share personal experiences of struggling with and practicing radical acceptance with friendship losses they've experienced in recent years. They also each share reflections on how radical acceptance can be practiced when a relationship ends and other DBT skills that may help. Magic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress ...
If you've been using DBT for awhile, you know that it can become difficult to maintain momentum and desire to keep using skills consistently. In this episode, Kate and Michelle discuss four common challenges that can arise as barriers to regular skill use: not thinking about DBT enough, feeling willful about using skills, struggles to establish a consistent routine with skills, and feeling burnt out by trying to do too much DBT at once. For each challenge, they share helpful tips on how to ov...
Kate and Michelle discuss active passivity and apparent competence by first explaining each concept in-depth, followed by sharing personal examples and skills that can help with shifting into a place of healthier balance when struggles with these states take place. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and...
Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about establishing daily habits, coping when a therapist cancels therapy sessions, making DBT accessible, and being triggered when you're the parent of a toddler. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop...
Kate and Michelle talk about their personal reactions to the 2024 election results. They share different DBT skills for the emotions of fear, disgust, sadness and anger, and how DBT can help us both accept our emotions during this time and use them for positive action. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 1:06:07-1:06:13. If you want to purchase the book "A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo", you can purchase it here: https://www.amazon.com/Tonight-Oliver-P...
Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about what to do when you're judging your partner, high anxiety, coping with a partner's drinking, and fears about a therapist "firing you." TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 38:45-39:06. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and...
Kate and Michelle are joined by Lynn Gray to discuss her personal experiences with mental health stigma from mental health providers. She reads aloud an article she wrote for Medium and talks about what can be done within the therapist community to start changing perceptions of mental health diagnoses to be more accepting and less damaging to clients. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 15:03-15:22 and from 22:14-22:15. Support the show If you want to sig...
Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about workplace burnout, being emotionally sensitive, feeling depleted after therapy sessions, and emotions that won't go away. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme Our book, "DBT for...
Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about long-standing family conflict, continuing to use skills after a group is finished, struggles with motivation, and differentiating between "reason" mind and wise mind. Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://w...
TRIGGER WARING: at 19:33, 31:50, 44:45, 1hr 12min Michelle is joined by Diana Partington, who is a DBT facilitator, author, and podcaster. Diana reads an excerpt from her book and talks about what inspired her to write it, her newly launched podcast, and the webinars she offers. She talks with Michelle in-depth about how Buddhism brings in elements of radical acceptance and provides invaluable teaching about how Buddhism can deepen the use of DBT. Diana's website: https://dbtforlife.com/ D...
Michelle is joined by Dr. Jesse Finkelstein, co-founder of TheraHive. They discuss the unique services TheraHive offers and how TheraHive aims to overcome some of the larger systemic barriers many clients face to accessing formal DBT resources. Throughout the episode, they highlight the importance of making DBT approachable and talk about ways this can be done. RELEASE DATE: October 9, 2024 Support the show If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: ...
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hello and thank you
4 yrs gold standard for me. excellent QnA session many questions answered. may uncertainties clarified. And that about having no intimate lover? "Pros and Cons" fits well as a skill.. not necessarily better but another part of the layering and cross referring skills.
i love this show