In this episode, David and Chantel Landreville discuss the importance of love skills and self-awareness in navigating relationships, especially during and after a divorce. They explore how to create safe spaces for emotional healing, the dynamics of co-parenting, and the significance of self-care and humility in personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to seek support and be truthful with themselves as they recover from divorce and build new relationships.Takeaways:Everything I teach applies to any relationship.You need to be able to define what you want.Self-awareness starts with asking yourself why.It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings.Get support instead of going through it alone.You have to take ownership in it.Safety cannot come from alone; it's an environment.Self-care is about finding things that make you happy.Humility is such a powerful quality.Find your words and do that exercise.Sound Bites:"Everything I teach is applicable to any relationship.""You need to be able to define what you want.""It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings."Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David speaks with divorce coach Jason Scriven about the challenges men over 40 face during and after divorce. They discuss the importance of self-care, rediscovering one's identity, building connections, and navigating the emotional aspects of separation. Jason shares insights on setting boundaries, creating new memories, and the realities of dating after divorce. He also outlines a four-week program designed to help men master their separation and make informed decisions for their future. Jason gave us some nice pearls and advice. I’m definitely going to have him back on the show. Enjoy!Takeaways:Self-care is crucial for men going through divorce.Rediscovering identity is essential after a long marriage.Building connections with others can aid recovery.Emotional health should be prioritized during divorce.Setting boundaries is important for mental well-being.Creating new memories helps in moving on from the past.Dating after divorce requires careful consideration.Men should avoid dating someone who resembles their ex.Communication through children can be harmful.A structured approach can help navigate the divorce process.All things Jason ScrivenYouTubeTwitterInstagramLinkedinHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Welcome to the show - Patrick Eilers. He comes to us from the great state of Michigan and his superpower is the application of psycho-education regarding anxiety and depression. Discussions of the corrosive qualities of emotions, solitude vs isolation, self-care, a destination for self-care, allow yourself to feel the feels, and empathy. There are so many great suggestions and advice tidbits in this podcast. Enjoy!Takeaways:NarcissismYour divorce storySingle identityDivorced DavidVisualize self-careTherapy defining a man’s identityRediscovering the wholeness of being humanMindfulnessNumbing outWhen to seek helpSwitchfoot - Every Breath is a Second ChanceHope is for the things yet to be seenPatrick Eilers; MA, LPCEmail: bloomworkscc@gmx.comWebsite: https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/ Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
In this episode of the Don't Pick The Scab podcast, I interview certified coach Cari Frame, who specializes in self-kindness and personal growth. We discuss the importance of self-kindness during difficult times, particularly for men over 40 going through divorce. Cari explains mindfulness, the impact of inner negativity, and the significance of self-compassion. She shares insights from her experience at a suicide hotline, emphasizing the value of being listened to without judgment. The conversation also covers overcoming self-sabotage, co-parenting challenges, taming the inner critic, and the power of pausing to make conscious choices. Ultimately, the episode highlights the importance of purpose in overcoming fear and fostering personal growth. I really appreciate Cari for taking the time to hang with me and drop some great pearls on my men over 40. We definitely will do this again!TakeawaysSelf-kindness helps ease the inner battle during tough times.Mindfulness allows individuals to stay present and reduce anxiety.Focusing on imagined futures can drain energy and increase stress.Self-compassion involves understanding and growth rather than judgment.Listening without conditions is a powerful gift for those in distress.Avoiding hard emotions can lead to a lack of joy.Self-sabotage stems from negative inner beliefs about oneself.Control in co-parenting often stems from unresolved grief or guilt.The inner critic often operates on negative assumptions.Pausing allows for conscious decision-making and self-awareness.Everything Cari!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
In this episode, Simon Yeats shares his incredible journey through personal tragedies, including the loss of loved ones and the challenges of divorce. He discusses the importance of finding humor in life's difficulties, the drive to help others recover from setbacks, and the critical role of support systems in healing. Simon emphasizes the need to embrace emotions, be angry when necessary, and maintain hope for the future, even after experiencing significant hardships.You're not alone in this journey.Life is precious and can go quickly.Be angry, but get on with your life.Don't give up hope, even after setbacks.Find something you are passionate about.Exercise is crucial for mental health.Life can be stupid, crazy, and funny.Support systems are vital for recovery.You have to embrace your emotions.Do things for yourself after a divorce.My Second Life - By Simon YeatsSimon's Email: mysecondlifeyeats@gmail.comHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
We have a special guest on the podcast today - Jonathan Steele. He has the distinction of being the first returning guest on DPTSP. With his last podcast, we were only able to touch on cybersecurity and divorce recovery only slightly. This time, the entire show is devoted to the subject - and Jonathan did not disappoint. I found there were so many facets to divorce and cybersecurity that some even branch into the regular world. Set back and pay attention. You may have to listen to this one a few times because Jonathan drops quite a bit of knowledge. Sidenote: I’ve had Proton Mail for a year and love it!! Take a listen.Discussions of:Phishing attacks are on the riseNigerian Price and 400K scamFamily safe wordRarely see a good application of social media in a divorce caseAI component is scaryBusiness impersonationsCo-parenting appsStop, pause and thinkPreying on your mind with urgencyMulti-factoring passwordAlmost too late when harm is doneTest your backupsDigital footprints - unavoidableEvery computer is built to fail3-2-1 backup mantraRansomwareBackup everydayMonitor your creditTime to change your passwords when you start the divorceHardware security keyEnd-to-end encryptionSteele FortressJOIN THE FREE MEN'S OVER 40 DIVORCE RECOVERY PRIVATE COMMUNITY-https://www.skool.com/divorce-recovery-men-over-40-4530/about -a judgment-free zone! #divorce#divorcemen#divorcehealing#divorcerecovery#divorcehealingmenover40#divorcerecoverymenover40#divorcehealingmen#divorcerecoverymen#divorcemenpodcast Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Welcome David Nordel to the show. After a distinguished career in the Air Force, he developed his superpowers of transitions and mental health challenges of veterans. He has written two books on leadership. We did discuss the similarities between veteran PTSD and men going through a divorce. Some of the parallels are interesting. Discussions of quitting in the face of adversity, tools to embrace personal growth, preparing for change, and recognizing the value in others are all broached in this podcast. It was like the two Davids were reuniting after a long friendship. Thanks, David. Hope to get you back on the podcast. I’ve got a ton of questions we haven’t even touched on yet. Talk to David soon!Other topics:Why listening is so importantWays to effectively navigate life, family and friendshipsThe value of timeSavoring each momentDeeper awareness of our surroundingsHidden potential withinMany people hear, but only a few listenHappy squirrelsRun your life like a CEOHarness the energy of PTSD and moral injury, flip the polarity, and use it constructively.Pain and fear make change hard, sometimes impossibleCheck out egosWhen we are hurt, we want to transmit70/30 me timeGood quittingRecreate yourself from the inside outHandling hard betterRecovery from your failure and move forwardDivorce and moral injury run congruentEVERYTHING DAVID NORDELHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Well fellas, another great podcast after no expectations. Matt knocks it out of the park for my men struggling with divorce recovery. His advice, thoughts and teachings are just what some of you need right now. Matt is the happiness expert and drops some important knowledge with that subject on us with this podcast. Discussions of happiness is a skill, journaling, everlasting vs fleeting happiness, change is life, self-destructive thoughts and men don’t cry are all broached in this episode. In half an hour, we only touch the surface of his superpower and will get him back on the show. Thanks MattAdditional Subjects:8 primary moods that get in the way of our happinessVictim modeWe choose every emotion we are experiencingTake responsibilityGratitudeHappiness blueprintFlip the scriptHumilityRate your friends from one to tenself -care and happinessHope and happinessIf you want a better present, get a better and bigger futureEverything Matt O’NeillHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
You never know how a podcast interview will turn out with someone you’ve just met. I take a chance every time I set one up. But this podcast session with Eric did not disappoint. We did everything but cry (maybe next time) in his quest to help my men over 40 with their divorce recovery issues. Eric is a certified counselor with years of experience in treating trauma, addiction, depression, grief and other concerns. Discussions of Acronyms, self-love and self-compassion, Survival mode, setbacks, four types of bouncing (back), and grief are all touched upon in this podcast.Other topics:Kindsight and hindsightJudgement and stigmasHealthy boundariesThe mind is busy trying to distinguish between perceived and real threatsExerciseWhat do I value?What are my needs?Community-based connectionsApplying martial arts to addiction/recoveryAllow yourself to grieveBehaviors are verbs, people are nounsAble to talk about the scabs but the scars are too freshPreferencesEric's Contact Info and WebsiteHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
My men over 40 do not want to miss this episode. Dr. Leit drops some basic old-school knowledge that we can all apply somewhere in our lives. Her no-nonsense approach to dealing with loss and conflict is incredible. Interviewing her was like two friends having coffee. It was so much fun - before, during and after. Discussions of never staying for the kids, divorce is losing control, living in conflict, second generational divorcee, weaponizing the kids and AI/relationship are all covered in this session. Gotta get Doc back again. So many questions I wasn’t able to ask this time. Next time for sure!Other Topics:Can I stand by myself?Doc’s 4 ‘F’s’-fight, fight, fawn and freezeParenting separatelyThe magnifying glass and the mirrorWrite your curiosity playlistNitpicking desire to controlUsing the kids as pawnsCommon senseBe authenticDysfunctional householdBe accountable in a loving wayDr. Etel Leit.com-4 Best Selling books-Sessions, Workshops, Media and TipsSignShine - Communication with your children Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
I’ve been waiting for the right moment to record this special episode. We were recording the 183rd episode of Divorce Devil Podcast yesterday and I surprised Rachel with the request to do an episode on DPTSP, and she quickly jumped on the chance without hesitation. I just wanted a few things that men over 40 could probably improve with going through a divorce from a woman’s perspective. And, where did she go first?? I should have known d*ck pics! But, surprisingly, the podcast gets much better from there. Listen intently to Rachel’s points and see if you can improve on any of them. Thanks for listening…Topics of:Don’t go back for sexNo unsolicited d*ck picsBe fairConcentrate on your householdJack in the Box DadRule and boundariesNo emotions in a textDo go out for bloodDon’t use the kids as pawnsPocket p*ssyDon’t send mixed signalsHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Where do I start without giving away the contents from the title? Welcome, Chantal to the podcast. Her book, RAISE YOUR LOVE SIGNAL, deals with some of the challenges men over 40 man and/or will encounter during or after their divorce. Her teachings are just for a new significant other - but it works with friends, coworkers, and you kiddos. Everyone needs and should give and receive love. Discussions of being sensitive, dating allows you practice your skills, dating for a result, be available, mindfulness, managing the curveballs with tools, invest time, practice self-love, and it is hard for men to ask for help are all surfaced in this episode. Chantal has a definite superpower: raising your love signal with this show. Thanks Chantal!More Topics:Develop your communicationTake ownershipAdmit when you f*ck upHold each other accountableBuild fireworks over timeStupid superficial thingsCan I sustain this long-term?Seduction mode then get lazyChasing loveDealbreakersStepping stones to the right oneCreating a safe spaceListen to the red flagsThe art of modern datingChantal’s WebsiteChantal’s InstagramChantal’s FacebookChantal’s TikTokHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Where do I start? What does a divorced or divorcing gay man over 40 have in common with a divorced or divorcing straight man? After interviewing Karl Dunn - quite a bit. Karl comes to us to discuss the plight of gay men's divorce - with quite a bit of similarities and few differences. His ability to form a special bond with some of his new-found friends at work is unique. Both sets of men basically have some of the same issues and complexities that encompass divorce. This episode includes discussions of living in an artist collective, self-love, the elusive pot of gold, and Marian’s Law. We have to get Karl back for part two, for I think we only scratched the surface. Thanks, Karl.Topics of;RegretForgive yourselfMaster your alonenessDivorce law is written for men, women and children There is no protocol Divorce reform as a mental health issueCarvana Tower commercialThe marriage didn’t make him. His divorce didBeating yourselfRepeating the same patternsThe elephant in the roomCommunication vs RespectAnger is not requiredI am enough being aloneExpecting and rehearsing things that happen in your lifeRainbow divorceALL THINGS KARLHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Welcome Jonathan Steele to the show. Being a divorce attorney, he has seen the whole gambit of the same old and the new old in his career. Discussions of narcissism and gaslighting, divorce law misconceptions, parenting time, not leaving the home, being organized, and not bad-mouthing your ex. But, what intrigued me the most was his cybersecurity element of divorce. It was so fascinating. This is not just your ordinary lawyer vs. divorce recovery podcast. Also Topics on:The power imbalance in the coupleLawyers cost more than a therapistFight for parenting timeFrequent flyerWelcoming good lawyersMediationConcentrate on being the best father you can beTwo happy homes are better than one unhappy oneGet petty with petsParenting time with petsFull disclosureChildren may want to blame themselves for the divorceParenting comes with experienceNever stay for the kidsBeermann Law Office WebsiteSteele Fortress - CybersecurityHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Not too often do we have an actual wellness advocate on the show. I do enjoy my professionals, but Jonathan lends a new direction and flow to the mic. Through his life’s journey, he has compiled an experience quotient that relates to anyone who is going through a trying time. From discussing body image, voids in mental health, being a small circle guy, old guy hockey, addiction, balancing work and life, and every day is a gift - Jonathan hits all the major cylinders of the engine of getting through some sh*t! I appreciate him taking the time to drop some of his life’s knowledge on us. Thanks, Jonathan.Topics of:Thinking about othersBe indifferent to those who present negativity in your lifeKarma is a real thingAvoiding feeling your feelingsThe importance of therapySnack of the Month ClubSelf-careFriends vs. acquaintancesKeep moving forwardShare the benefit of fitness with othersLead with graceFostering connectionsJonathan Niziol WebsiteHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Welcome Eran Magen to the show. He is a father and a psychologist. His superpowers are helping parents with better relationships with their kids while having a business helping divorcing dads with co-parenting and self-parenting. Being divorced, Eran knows firsthand how men can react negatively to having to co-parent. Topics of suicide prevention, accepting the legal reality and moving on, mutual mudslinging is stressful for kids, soul searching, and boundaries. Eran imparted some interesting knowledge to me and my men over forty, and we really appreciated it. We hope to have him on again. Discussions of:Jack in the Box DadParental AlienationTreating the kids as a business?Mickey Mouse shortsPick your battlesChatGBT is your friendFinally realizing you are living the dreamB.I.F.F.Getting over the shame and self-doubtShield them from the negativityFraming the conversation for the benefit of the child2,000 pieces of chocolateCollaborative ParentingSet boundaries early enoughKids are smartBe firm and clear without being harshHaving the kids with no distractionsDIVORCING DADS WEBSITEPARENTING FOR HUMANS WEBSITEHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Bill Simpson has been a professional coach for over 20 years and has seen his share of clients struggling through or after divorce. His superpower is helping men be the best versions of themselves. His insights come from having mostly women clients. They gave him insight into what they were looking for from a man in a relationship. Discussing men’s lack of empathy and vulnerability, being a better listener, taking a pause before responding, a love mission, taking time to be kinder to ourselves, and a divorce sometimes being worse than a death - my podcast with Bill creates and opens more conversations and thoughts down the road. I must get him back on the show to get deeper with a few topics. Enjoy.Topics touched on:Being ok with yourselfIt takes two (Not Rob Base)Not repeating the same patternsBe open to changeLetting go is hardThe hat-trick of divorcesReality is in the eye of the receiverMen suck at communicationAffirmations are cool, but don’t forget to acknowledge and accept the painFocus on the kidsNo bashing the ex in front of the kidsEVERYTHING BILL SIMPSONMEN ON THE PATH TO LOVE PODCASTHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Welcome Mac Pierre-Louis to the show. He is an attorney who specializes in mediation for the states of Texas and Florida. His superpower is bringing two sides that were so far apart in the beginning eventually together to compromise through mediation. His messages included walking a fine line without being a therapist, patterns of human nature, and taking a pause at the beginning of the conflict of your divorce. The podcast was much more interesting than I thought it would be. Mac was an excellent guest. Made it very fluid and understandable. Simple conversation with simple concepts. Thanks, Mac!Discussions of:Self-helpDon’t lead with demandsInterested-based mediationGive both parties respectIt takes two to tangoRetirement planningWant to build trustYou kicked my cat!A person ultimately wants validationNarcissismKarmaReptilian brainPrefrontal cortexCo-parentingBreaking the cycle of intergenerational patternsModeling healthy coping mechanismsDon’t corner the opposite partyProvide rationales for your positionFinancial challengesMac's Podcast - LMI PodcastMac Pierre-Louis WebsiteHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Jonnie Jensen is a man who has achieved remarkable success in building his business, providing for his family, and reaching milestones that many only dream of. However, despite these accomplishments, there is a lingering emptiness that success alone hasn't been able to fill. Like countless modern men, Jonnie has dedicated so much of himself to everything else that he has lost touch with his own voice and sense of self. He finds himself questioning how much worse things will get and how much longer he can wait for fulfillment. It becomes clear that what is missing from his success is none other than Jonnie himself.Realizing the need to take control of his life, Jonnie embarks on a journey to become the High Value Man he is destined to be. He reflects on his past, where he seemingly had it all - a wife, a business, and a family. However, behind the scenes, his relationship was in turmoil, work was a constant battle, and his health had been neglected. Jonnie admits that he wasn't truly leading; he was merely surviving. It was only when he hit rock bottom, experiencing a divorce and the loss of his brother, that he was forced to focus on himself and recognize where he had gone wrong. Jonnie comes to a profound realization that genuine success, meaningful relationships, and lasting results don't come from constantly prioritizing others. He understands that in order to be more for those around him, he must first become a strong and confident man himself. From this personal transformation, Jonnie creates the High Value Man Project and forms a community of like-minded individuals. The High Value Man program serves as a mastermind for business-owning men who are in mid-life and yearn for more. It offers a brotherhood of men where personal lives are transformed and business results are supercharged. Since its inception, the program has empowered men across the United Kingdom, United States, and Australia to reclaim their voices and build true wealth, meaningful relationships, and remarkable results in every aspect of their lives. The coaching provided within the program is rooted in personal experience. Every strategy and insight shared has been battle-tested and refined in the real world. Jonnie encourages participants to implement these teachings and witness the profound transformation that unfolds. He passionately conveys that it's time to seize control, take action, and become the men they know they should be. Jonnie challenges those who feel unfulfilled to make a choice. They can either continue watching others live the life they desire or join him in the pursuit of their own greatness. The ball is in their court, and the time for change is now.Additional topics:Clarity, courage and commitmentBeer bongForgivenessBeing your true selfDon’t give up on your kidsBe the best version of yourselfThis is the start of the endRespect your ex as their momWhat do you take responsibility for?Creating two happy homesThe F.I.R.E. conceptDistractionsNo More Mr. Nice GuyWhat does it take to step up as a man?Everything Jonnie JensenJonnie Jensen on FacebookHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Martin Hristov is a man who defies definition, believing that limiting oneself to a single identity is a restriction. Known by those close to him as a modern mystic, yogi, biohacker, philosopher, esoteric scholar, polymath, and entrepreneur, Martin has dedicated his life to pushing the boundaries of human potential. Every day, he passionately lives out the principles he preaches.Professionally, Martin is a self-published author, an inspirational speaker, a bliss coach, and an expert in holistic well-being. He specializes in helping successful men who find themselves in midlife crises, and individuals who are exhausted from their pursuit of happiness, health, and freedom. Martin guides them towards a permanent state of wellness, fulfillment, and peace, without needing to achieve more. Instead, he empowers them to unlock their untapped secret potential and turn their crises into triumphs.Martin's mission is to inspire, empower, and educate individuals all over the world through his book, coaching, and teachings. He firmly believes that the value he offers can greatly benefit any audience. Martin eagerly seeks opportunities to be a guest on podcasts, where he can discuss the foundational principles of his upcoming book, "Superb: Men's Ultimate Guide to Holistic Well-Being." These principles, including Spirit, Intuition, Energy, Mind, Emotions, and Body, are relevant to anyone seeking a better life, regardless of gender. Additionally, Martin can delve into a wide range of topics within his vast area of expertise, such as Personal Development & Growth, Purpose & Fulfillment, Creativity & Innovation, Habits & Rituals, Dating & Relationships, Emotional Maturity & Resilience, Wellness & Well-Being, Lifestyle Design & Life Vision, Masculinity & Leadership, Spirituality & Metaphysics, Mental Health & Stress Management, and more.Discussions of:IntrospectionVictim mentalityWhat is the next destination?I am happily separatedBe a good example for your childrenChange is uncomfortable at firstYour past conditioning, unless revised, is your life sentenceUntapped potentialWe are limited by our habitsKick you out of the planeTake responsibility tooEmotional gritAll Things Martin Hristov Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.