I should be grateful. This should be enough for me. I should be further along by now… should just say yes… should play by the rules. …Sound familiar? Yeah.On this episode of Feel Better For Good we’re roasting the ‘Should Life’ — the invisible rulebook that keeps high-functioning women small and quietly miserable. Listen to learn how to spot it, how to burn it, and how to start making decisions based on desire instead of duty.Ready to start writing your next chapter on purpose? Learn more about Your Year of Reinvention, my 1:1 coaching program for women ready to stop shrinking and start truly shining, by joining my email list now: effielavore.com.✅ DM me your biggest should story now on Instagram✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway!✅ Book your free coaching consult today: effielavore.com
You don’t need a rock bottom to reinvent your life... just the guts to admit “fine” isn’t working anymore.In this kickoff to a podcast series on reinvention, we’re talking about the bold, quiet decision to lead yourself differently. If you’ve been feeling the whisper — that sense that something’s off even though everything looks fine — this is your permission slip. Ready to start writing your next chapter on purpose? Learn more about Your Year of Reinvention, my new 1:1 coaching program for women ready to stop shrinking and start shining, by joining my email list now 👉 effielavore.com..✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway!✅ Follow me on Instagram for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com
Ever feel disconnected from your body, like you’re living in someone else’s skin? This episode gives you a practice for starting to change all of that.We’re talking about proactive nostalgia, a simple but profound tool for building respect, care, and even love for the body you have right now. You’ll learn: How to stop using shame as motivationHow to work with your body instead of against itHow to build radical health from the inside out — physically, mentally, and emotionallyIf you’re ready to come home to yourself, this one’s for you...✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway!✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com
Ever feel like what you’re doing doesn’t matter, or what you’re doing isn’t enough? In this episode, I share how I’ve faced that same voice — the one that says “why bother?” — and what it’s taken to keep showing up for this podcast (and myself).If you’ve been questioning your impact or are tired of trying, this one’s for you. You may be relying too much on external feedback for motivation, instead of digging deep and having your own back. Let’s talk about finding meaning, staying the course, and choosing to believe that it all adds up… even when it doesn’t feel like it...✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway!✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com
Learn how to solve your problems faster and smarter by mastering the 3 phases of problem solving. In this episode, we break down how to move from emotional chaos to clear thinking—so you can stop spinning out, process what’s actually happening, and find real, sustainable solutions that move your life forward.Understand why panic shuts down problem solving (and how to get your brain back online)Learn how reflection unlocks clarity and insight before you rush to fix thingsDiscover a simple, repeatable process for finding solutions that actually lastIf you’re tired of overreacting, overthinking, or staying stuck in struggle, this episode will help you calm your nervous system, shift perspective, and take empowered action..✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway!✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Download my free mini-book, 3 RAPID BRAIN CHANGE TOOLS TO REPROGRAM YOUR ANXIETY: effielavore.com
How do you adapt when life doesn’t go as planned? On this podcast you'll hear two powerful examples from women developing their mental flexibility in real time, the importance of choosing values over perfection, and a practical tool — the "5-second thought funeral "— to help you let go of guilt, pivot fast, and stay grounded when plans change..✅ Rate & review the podcast now to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway!✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com
Today we’re getting brutally, hilariously honest about the messiest parts of being human—our losses, weaknesses, and liabilities—and how to love ourselves through them.Here’s what we’re digging into:The fear that forgiving your mistakes will make you complacent (spoiler: it won’t)How transparency keeps you from burning out and shutting downWhat it looks like to “lead with your Ls” in business, love, and everyday lifeA fresh way to see your flaws as part of your full, lovable human packageIf you’ve ever been scared to show your cracks or admit your mess, this one’s gonna feel like a breath of relief..✅ Rate & review the podcast to be entered into the Thanksgiving giveaway!✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now: effielavore.com
Let's pull back the curtain on the sneakiest forms of control we call “being our best.” If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling in comparison, resentment, blame or shame... this one’s for you.On this podcast you will learn a simple 4-step 'gatekeeping' practice to help stop you before you turn against yourself (or anyone else) for falling short. It’s a quick, powerful check-in that helps you redirect controlling energy into awareness and compassion — without losing your edge.If you ever catch yourself thinking “why can’t I just get it together?” or demanding impossible standards from yourself or others, hit play. This is your roadmap to freedom from perfectionist hell — one pause at a time.✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com✅ ENTER THE GIVEAWAY for a $100 VISA gift card by leaving an honest review of the podcast today + emailing effie@effielavore.com
In this first conversation on perfectionist recovery, we unpack what it means to live fully as a fallible, complicated human — and why rejecting the “hard half” of life only makes us suffer more. We’ll look at how to:Stop weaponizing your pain and discomfort Hold space for negative emotions without letting them run the showStart embracing your more challenging qualities as part of what makes you most lovableTruly have your own backThe invitation is simple: let all of you be here. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s the only way to live a full, rich life that actually feels like yours.Intentional thoughts to foster:I am amazing when I’m up, I’m amazing when I’m downI am lovable when I’m on good behaviorI am lovable when I’m on bad behaviorAll of me is acceptableAll of me is allowedI am worth supportingI am easy to root for✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com
Enjoy the recording of my recent masterclass The Joy Code and the story of how I’ve used this 4-part process to transform some of the toughest experiences of my life. Life isn’t meant to be easy. Sometimes worry feels like the only reasonable response. There’s no way around loss, conflict, disappointment, and change. But hardship has an inherent value. And fear and worry are optional…In this episode of Feel Better for Good, you’ll find that creating joy isn’t about ignoring the hard stuff. It’s a new way of meeting it. The Joy Code is a framework for moving directly through struggle with more ease, peace, and resilience. Instead of getting swallowed by worry or resistance, you’ll learn exactly how to stay grounded, soften into the moment, and find real joy in being human—even when it hurts.✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Get my free mini-book 3 TOOLS TO REPROGRAM YOUR ANXIETY now effielavore.comReferenced in this podcast:Born to Run (book) by Christopher McDougallHow to balance/detox your thinking (podcast)
What’s really standing between you and the life you want? It’s not a lack of worth, talent, or destiny — it’s the toxic emotional loops running quietly in the background. In this episode, you'll learn about the 3 most destructive emotional patterns and how these hidden cycles drain your energy, distort your focus, and block aligned action. More importantly, you’ll learn how to break free and reclaim your power.Here’s what you’ll discover inside:What the Unholy Trinity is — and how it quietly takes over your thoughts and emotionsWhy toxic loops feel so convincing (and how to spot them before they spiral)A simple practice for observing your thoughts without judgment or attachmentHow to “hang up” unhelpful thought patterns and choose something more alignedThe surprising truth: it really can be just one decision that shifts everythingBy the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to recognize toxic loops as they arise and the confidence to choose a different path — one that supports your energy, your clarity, and your deepest desires.Resources:✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.comEpisode 13: Clean Pain vs. Dirty PainBrain Change Tools to Reprogram Your Anxiety
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you eat… a whole airplane? Believe it or not, someone actually did — and their approach has everything to do with how you can stop overthinking and finally solve your own “impossible” problems.In this episode, I take you on a fun but practical journey into simplifying the struggles in your life that feel overwhelming. You’ll discover how to break problems down into manageable pieces, spot the exact trigger that’s setting you off, and turn spirals of overthinking into simple, doable next steps.If life feels like one giant Rubik’s cube you can’t solve, this episode will help you put down the stress and pick up clarity — no heavy machinery required.✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com
So often you say you want something… but once you start to making moves, resistance shows up. Fear. Doubt. Self-sabotage. Suddenly, you’ve talked yourself out of your own dream.This episode is about breaking that pattern and unlocking your YES—the kind that clears the way for you to finally receive what you desire.Inside, you’ll learn:The sneaky ways you might be red-lighting yourself without noticing 🚨Why objections pop up the second you move toward what you want (and why that’s normal)How to short circuit self-sabotage – and stop fighting with your brain! Greenlight Questions you can ask yourself to stay aligned with your desiresHow to build the capacity to receive so fully that what you want feels natural, inevitable, and deeply yours💡 September is Consult Month! Snag a free 1-hour consult with me and experience what it feels like to greenlight your own transformation.👉 Book now at effielavore.com
Learn an incredibly valuable tool for creating more opportunity for you as you work toward your next goal, to lighten your load on the journey and usher into your life the very thing you want. This is manifestation 2.0 -- in equation form!~ RSVP for my free Possibility Formula workshop on 8/5 at effielavore.com ~
Why don't we talk more about mental wellness? Today's special episode explores the intersection of wellness and wholeness. It includes a practice that will help you easily create more opportunities in your day -- and in your life -- to experience deep wellness and fulfillment. **Join YOUR 6-WEEK REVIVAL now at effielavore.com**
In this special episode you'll learn about my 4-step Joy Code for creating more ease, lightness, and space in your life. ~ Listen to the recording of the masterclass HERE ~✅ Follow on Instagram @effielavore for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult now effielavore.com
In this episode you'll learn the difference between the energy of GETTING and the energy of HAVING. This knowledge will help you understand how to fend off self-sabotage before, during, and after you get the object of your heart's desire. Enjoy!~ Book your free coaching consultation now at effielavore.com ~Episode 16: How to Believe in YourselfEpisode 72: Secrets for Overcoming Self Sabotage
Enjoy this special recording from my Turnaround Tuesday live training series. Today we're talking about how to make stress your b!*ch...~ Visit effielavore.com now for your free consult + resources ~
This is the rally cry for that small whisper inside you. ~ Schedule your free coaching consultation now at effielavore.com ~
How are you tending to the 3 most important relationships in our life? This week's episode may surprise you...A Vision of You (podcast)~ Visit effielavore.com to schedule your free coaching consult now ~